Sissification

Society often glorifies the idea of the strong, alpha male who never shows weakness. Men are expected to hide their emotions and act like superhumans. This expectation can be exhausting. Men are humans too. To break from these rigorous expectations, some men create alter egos. They express these alter egos in private places like the bedroom, often through practices such as sissification, as a sexual fetish.

Sissification, also known as forced feminization, is one common kink that challenges traditional masculinity. It involves a person assigned male at birth acting like a woman.

Studies show that many men enjoy leaving their masculinity outside the bedroom. They flip roles in their sexual lives. Everyone expresses these desires differently. Some men enjoy being handcuffed and told what to do. Others want a deeper psychological shift in their devotion to their partners.

The psychology of sissification focuses on emasculation for sexual thrill and gratification. Consent is crucial in sissification and other BDSM practices.

Men who engage in sissification express an enthusiastic interest in this form of objectification. Some seek erotic gratification, while others use it for escapism. Sissification has deep psychological roots and means different things to different practitioners.

Reasons Why Sissification is NOT Only for Trans Women

While some trans women find sissification helpful in their gender identity journey, they are not the same.

• Sissification involves choice and is often reversible. Most people engage in it for sexual play or identity exploration.
• A sissy does not identify as a woman nor seeks to be one.
• Sissification involves temporarily stripping masculinity for a specific period. Both sissies and trans women may desire to be like women. However, a trans woman takes it further by actually transitioning to a woman.
• Sissies may adopt feminine appearances temporarily but usually do not pursue permanent changes like hormone injections or surgeries.
• Sissification is a kink involving gender role reversal. Submissive partners, mostly men, take on feminine roles and wear feminine attire. It provides an escape from hypermasculinity and allows self-expression. For some, it’s a way to rebel against societal norms.

In summary, sissification is a distinct kink with benefits for those who practice it and should not be confused with being a transgender woman.

Becoming a Submissive Through Sissification Roleplay

The sissification process, or as popularly called sissy training, is one made of various interesting scenes ranging from casual nonsexual stuff like the submissive male using female cosmetics and putting on makeup, wearing female clothes, and taking up the traditional female roles (play maid) in the house like cleaning, cooking, serving food, and such to more sexual stuff like dressing up in lingerie that exposes a lot of skin, sexual intercourse involving anal penetration, or penile stimulation. Sometimes, the submissive partner is made to wear a butt plug and penetrated with a strap by the female dominant.

It is also important to note that sissification first starts with psychological self emasculation. Thus, it is advised that, as a seasoned practitioner or newbie practitioner, you do a lot of research to know exactly what you’re getting into.  

If you’re a little lost and wondering where to start, you might want to turn to porn. Yes, porn can be super misleading, but it’s great at telling you what you do and do not like. I know the typical content in porn for domination in both straight porn and gay porn usually involves a dominant partner pounding away furiously and the submissive man taking it like his life purpose, but once you get past those types and filter your search, you should get tons of ideal content that would work for you. You could use some keywords, like “force femme” and “sissy,” to filter out your search. 

However, please note that porn is extremely different from real life, and some of the things in it are not feasible, so employ discernment when using porn for research purposes. 

As much as this sexual fetish is very common in BDSM rooms, it is not solely for sexual pleasure. Some people are on a journey to find, explore, and express their gender and sexual identity. 

While sissification may be deeply rooted in misogyny because it thrives on the culture of all things perceived as feminine being considered weak and inferior. This new wave of sissification practice is giving a middle finger to these traditional norms, and people are doing and acting however the hell they want. Ergo, something that may have started as a form of ridicule or humiliation has moved to a means of empowerment in the form of men dressing up as drag queens for entertainment to become an expression of one’s self.

Why are People into Sissification?

There are various reasons why people might get into sissification as a kink. 

One interesting theory is the Oedipus complex, which involves a boy, from a very young age, jettisoning masculinity as a way of rebelling against his father and clinging to his mother while emulating her feminine tendencies. The Oedipus complex manifests in a way of a boy feeling so drawn to his mom, in an almost incest attraction thereby causing him to feel like he’s in a competition with the father, starts to get jealous and dislike him, and in that course, rejects his masculine identity because he doesn’t want to be like his father. He may start to imitate his mom, wear her clothes, dress like her, and talk like her so much that he starts to feel awkward in his body, in his own clothes, and detest stereotypically boyish interests like football, wrestling, and others, choosing instead to do other stereotypically girly things to gain the approval of his mom.

So the boy may let himself be feminized, dominated, and adopt female mannerisms in an attempt to connect with or embody the qualities he admires in his mother.

The appeal of sissification lies in changing the status quo and rejecting typical traditional gender roles. While for some, this might just be a sexual fetish, for others, it’s more of a psychological emasculation. It’s a sign of strength, identification, and freedom. It can also be a good way to bend gender norms and explore the fluidity of gender and sexual identity in a controlled environment. A lot of trans women have revealed that sissification was very helpful in the beginning of exploring their gender identity.

It is also an excellent form of erotic humiliation because it involves the submissive partner relinquishing control to someone else. 

Benefits of Sissification

Sissification, also known as forced feminization, involves consent and active participation from both partners. Most men who practice sissification are heterosexual and prefer women as their dominant partners. Wearing female clothing and engaging in this role play does not change sexual orientation.

A sissy may adopt feminine behaviors and mannerisms to fit the traditional feminine role. This can include wearing makeup, feminine attire like high heels, dresses, stockings, lingerie, and acting in a feminine manner, such as gesticulating, crossing legs, and twerking.

Benefits and Misunderstandings

Sissification is often misunderstood due to transphobia, homophobia, and misogyny. However, this kink offers many benefits for those who practice it:

• Deepens Intimacy and Connection: Discussing sissification requires vulnerability and openness. It takes courage for a man to admit they enjoy feminine clothing and behavior. If you’ve started this conversation, kudos to you.
• Enhances Trust: Showing vulnerability can boost your connection and create trust with your partner. Sharing your deepest fantasies can significantly enhance your relationship.
• Explores Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation: Engaging in this kink can help you explore your gender identity and sexual orientation. Sexuality and desires are fluid, and you might discover new aspects of yourself through this exploration.

Overcoming Narrow-Minded Views

Don’t miss out on the benefits of this kink because of narrow-minded views. Use your curiosity for good.

Practices Involved in Sissification

Sometimes, sissification involves a male submissive wearing lingerie and performing acts stereotypically ascribed to women. It can include other practices like:

• Cuckolding: The submissive partner watches or is aware of their dominant partner engaging in sexual activities with others, intensifying feelings of humiliation and submission.
• Verbal Emasculation: Dominant partners use degrading language to emasculate and feminize the submissive partner, enhancing the submissive role.
• Public Humiliation: Engaging in activities that embarrass the submissive partner in public or semi-public settings heightens the sense of submission and loss of control. Check out humiliation category on our website for more humiliation play.
• Water Sports: Also known as urolagnia or urophilia, this involves urine play. It can be incorporated into sissification as another form of degradation and submission, emphasizing the control the dominant partner has over the submissive.

Getting into Forced Feminization

If you have a sissification kink or suspect your partner might be into it, the best way to go about it is to start small:

• You can start the sissification process by getting them nail polish and helping them apply it.
• Or by buying them a makeup palette and encouraging them while they smear brushes and colors into their features.
• Additionally, you could call them emasculating names like sissy, slut, or girl, and refer to their sexual organs as pussy, or whatever comes to mind. Get as creative as you want.
• You can also make them lick your toe, or foot worship you, or have them render a stereotypically female service like cooking and cleaning to you.
• Finally, you can make them cross-dress in your feminine lingerie or stockings (make sure the size is alright though).

Remember: the more feminine they look, the better job you’re doing. You could also introduce the idea of double penetration or anal stimulation to them. A lot of sissification practitioners enjoy being penetrated by a woman. This can be done using a dildo, a strap on or a butt plug. Some men can be made to “tuck” or wear a chastity cage while being penetrated. If you’re curious about taking transformation even further, you might want to explore our article on Dollification, where your submissive partner is turned into a living doll. 

If your submissive partner is very open minded and has a stretchy limit, you can put that boy on a leash, put him in maid outfits, and let him run around the house doing chores for you!

Boundaries & Aftercare in Sissification

Forced feminization should never actually involve force. Consent is crucial. Always ensure your partner gives enthusiastic consent before engaging in any play. Discuss boundaries, safe words, and desires beforehand. This preparation can enhance your experience and ensure safety. Communicate openly and thoroughly.

Given the persistence of misogyny and homophobia, exhibit your desires with caution. Engage in sissification practices in a safe, controlled environment. Cross-dress and enjoy your feminine clothing where you feel secure.

Lastly, practice aftercare. Address any feelings that arise during the scene. Create a safe space for your partner to open up. Aftercare varies from cuddles to bath or whetever you like, but always reassure your partner that they are loved and secure.

Live Your Fantasies & Enjoy Your Kink

As partners, we should prioritize each other’s wants and needs. Avoid being too demanding, especially if your partner is new to this. As a dominant partner, understand your submissive partner’s role, whether they’re slutty, shy, very submissive, or all-out sissy. Live out your fantasy and enjoy your kinky life.

Communicate clearly to ensure a wholesome and enjoyable experience. If there’s a misunderstanding, talk it through.

Exploring new kinks and fetishes is totally okay. At KYS, there are plenty of weird and trendy kinks and fetishes to discover.

Educate yourself and seek validation in online forums. You’ll find many like-minded individuals and feel less alone. These communities offer support, new ideas, and shared experiences that can enhance your desires.

Opening up requires vulnerability and openness. Ensure your partner meets you in that space and practice safety. Avoid toxicity and harm. You deserve to live your desired life. Enjoy yourself, sweet sissy. I’m rooting for you.