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Missionary Sex Position
There are many people who claim that missionary sex is boring. To them, we always have the same response: not if you’re doing it right!
Missionary sex position might seem old-school, but it’s a classic for a reason. The position offers a chance for unparalleled intimacy while still offering plenty of opportunities to use sex toys. Eye contact, access to each other’s fun bits, and endless chances for variety…what’s not to love?
Once upon a time, Christian missionaries dubbed this position as the the most godly way to have sex. Those holy rollers might have been on to something…after all, when done right, the missionary position will have nothing of you shouting “Oh, God!” loud enough for the neighbours to hear.
Want to get closer to God yourself? Or maybe you want to discover just how kinky this sex position can be? Either way, our definitive guide to the classic missionary position will help curl your toes and rock some O’s all night long!
Benefits of Missionary Position
Missionary is the first sex position most people experience, and it remains the most common throughout the world. Because of that, it sometimes gets dismissed as vanilla or boring. However, if you fully embrace the benefits of this position, you’ll discover that it’s anything but boring.
Heightened Intimacy: Not everyone likes a lot of emotional intimacy during sex, but missionary is one of the best sexual positions for those who like to get both touchy and feely. There are plenty of opportunities for eye contact and soft kisses, and it’s easy to monitor your partner’s pleasure. Plus, this remains the best position for dirty talk, and nothing brings couples closer together than talking filthy until each partner loses control.
Low Energy: Both mainstream movies and pornography have conditioned far too many people to think that sex must always be a marathon session of high-energy fucking, but let’s be real: you don’t always have the time and energy to make that happen. When you or your partners are a bit tired, missionary is a nice, basic position that helps both of you snuggle and emotionally bond before falling into blissful sleep.
Focus on Pleasure: While missionary is great for the penetrating partner, it’s particularly awesome for the person on the bottom. After all, who doesn’t want to sit back and be pleasured, preferably through some very deep penetration? While the receiving partner lies back and gets pleasured, this position makes it easy for the partner in the dominant position to kiss their partner’s neck, stimulate her nipples, and otherwise give her a pleasure overload.
Injury-Friendly: While it annoys doctors everywhere, patients who are recovering from minor injuries or even just nursing pain from a workout still get freaky on a regular basis. However, many sex positions run the risk of making those injuries much worse. Fortunately, missionary allows you to go slow and easy, maximizing your pleasure while minimizing strain on your body.
Tantra Tool: Do you like to make like Sting and engage in some Tantric sex? Hey, good for you! In that case, you should know that missionary is perfect for those exploring a more meditative, prolonged intimacy. That’s because of all the skin-on-skin contact and passionate eye contact, making it great for deepening intimacy.
What’s in it for Her
Still not sold on how hot missionary sex can be? In that case, we need to address what’s in it for those involved. Let’s start with women and how this classic position can rock their world.
From the physical perspective, in the missionary position, women often enjoy the physical sensations of full-body contact and the rhythm of penetration. The face-to-face alignment allows for deep and controlled penetration, which can be adjusted to find the most pleasurable angles. For many women, this position can also stimulate the G-spot, especially when combined with a pillow under the hips or other modifications to enhance the angle of penetration (don’t forget to bring a toy for added stimulation on her clit).
Emotionally, the missionary position offers a high level of intimacy, which is very important for many women. Sure, positions like doggy style are great for animalistic sex, but the ability to maintain eye contact and engage in kissing during missionary creates a deeper emotional connection between partners. This position facilitates gentle touches and caresses, making it ideal for expressing love and affection. And you don’t have to take our word for it: it’s been proven that the closeness and comfort of missionary can help partners feel more connected and emotionally bonded.
What’s in it for Him
Considering its relatively vanilla reputation, what’s in the missionary position for a guy? The short answer is that this position provides plenty of awesome visual and physical stimulation.
For example, this position lets him look at his partner’s face and breasts, which can feel both intimate and naughty. Plus, whether or not they want to admit it, most guys love the skin-to-skin contact of this position…it’s the sexual equivalent of wrapping yourself in a warm and cozy blanket.
Beyond the visual stimulation and cozy intimacy, this position remains a favorite among the fellows because it gives them an easy way to control the depth and speed of each thrust. This can help both partners achieve pleasure (including simultaneous orgasm if you’re lucky). Plus, as mentioned before, this position doesn’t have to be all about squeaky-clean romance…because it facilitates dirty talk, consensual choking, neck biting, and various restraints, this is the perfect position for any kinksters who enjoy a little (or even a LOT) of BDSM.
Similar Positions
From the sizzling hot eye contact to the opportunities for extra deep penetration, missionary is a killer sex position. Getting the most out of it, though, will require a few extra moves and ideas. Below, you’ll find our top tips and techniques to take your missionary pleasure to the next level!
Coital Alignment Technique
No matter the sexual position, clitoral stimulation will make things more pleasurable for the woman. In missionary, the top partner can move their body slightly upward and press their pubic bone down, utilizing a coital alignment technique that focuses entirely on her pleasure.
Reverse Coital Alignment Technique
Yeah, we get it…”reverse CAT” sounds like a term from an old Doctor Who episode. But it’s a real sex term, and the reverse coital alignment technique is when the person receiving penetration is on top. This modification requires the top partner to lower their body slightly to stimulate their nerve endings. This adjustment allows the penis or dildo to stimulate the clitoris better and provides even more intimacy than cowgirl sex position.
Reverse Missionary
In this reverse missionary variant, the penetrating partner lies on their stomach, facing away from the receiving partner, who stays on their back. Facing away from each other, the bottom partner can drape their leg over the top partner’s back for an entirely different sexual experience. Its playful and adventurous, try it!
Eagle Sex Position
The eagle sex position is basically a twist on the classic missionary position. This position involves one partner lying on their back, legs spread, while their partner kneels over them. It may sound a little silly, but it’s popular among lovers because it offers a combination of super-deep penetration and insanely intimate eye contact. And if you’re ready to explore this fun position, our guide will help you discover just how fun fucking like an eagle can really be.
Tips and Techniques to Optimize Pleasure in Missionary
Sex Toys
You’re never too old to play with toys, especially in the bedroom. During missionary, try incorporatng hands-free vibrators, a vibrating cock ring, or anything else that helps enhance pleasure through extra stimulation.
Engage Other Erogenous Zones
One of the underrated aspects of missionary sex is that it leaves your hands free. Take the opportunity to stimulate your partner’s nipples and clip, and if they’re into it, you may want to add dirty talk and/or choking (remember, this always requires enthusiastic consent from your partner!)
Lift Your Hips
Believe it or not, you can make missionary sex infinitely more pleasurable by simply adjusting the position of your hips. Try lifting hips with a cushion for better G-spot pleasure and amazing orgasms. This also eases strain for longer, more enjoyable sex. Play around with finding the precise perfect angle for you!
Change Leg Positions
During missionary, the partner on the bottom can move their legs into different positions for maximum pleasure. Keep legs straight, wrap them around your partner’s waist, or lift them onto their shoulders for deeper penetration and better orgasms. The penetrating partner can use furniture or bed frames for support, focusing on feelings and connection.
Try New Arm Positions
While stimulating your partner’s erogenous zones is a great use of your hands during missionary, that’s not all those hands can do. Use them for support and caressing, or wrap your arms around your partner for a closer, sexier experience.
Eye Contact and Kissing
It may sound cheesy, but the opportunity for eye contact and passionate kissing with your partner is one of the best things about missionary. It strengthens your emotional bond while making every thrust more pleasurable than the one before.
Switch Up Your Thrusts
The rookie mistake many young men make with missionary sex is treating it like a sprint to the finish line. But half the fun of sex is taking your time, and missionary allows you to alternate between fast thrusts to boost arousal and slow, deep ones. This can help you and your partner find the perfect rhythm even as it builds anticipation and intensity.
Missionary Sex Is Only As Boring As You Make It
With the missionary position and any other sexual activity, communication the key to seriously great sex. Maybe one of you wants to try a fun spin on missionary in a sex swing, or maybe one of you wants to open the (back) door to some anal sex. You won’t know until you ask, and the regular missionary position is the most versatile position that can be spiced up in any way you can dream up!
Enjoy Missionary & Try Other Sex Positions
A classic that will never go out of style, the missionary position is ideal for any man, woman, or nonbinary seeking both physical and emotional closeness. It’s perfect for couples who want to connect and feel fulfilled since it allows for deep penetration, intense eye contact, and romantic gestures. Pillow support, leg position modifications, and increased clitoral stimulation are just a few ways couples may customize the experience to their liking. To keep both parties feeling appreciated, respected, and totally present in the moment, communication is key in this situation.
And if you’re reading this, we know you’re serious about pleasure for you and your partner. Since you like exploring sex, you might be interested in learning other sex positions and sexual practices out there.
Have you ever wondered what lesbian sex feels like? Then check out our guide about the top lesbian sex positions.
Or maybe you’ve been thinking about trying a threesome kink—why not? We’re here to enjoy life, and we only get one shot at experiencing all of our deepest desires. And at Know Your Sins, we’re here to help you get to the bottom (or maybe you’re more of a top?) of your freakiest kinks and greatest desires.
