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My Anal Sex Positions Story
It all began with a shared curiosity to anal sex and a trip to Amsterdam…
They say that Amsterdam is a place where anything seems possible. From the moment we stepped into the city, we were drawn to its energy.
Our adventure took an unexpected turn as we wandered through the Red Light District.
As we strolled past the glowing windows, a gorgeous middle-aged woman with dark hair caught our eye.
My partner’s hand tightened around mine as we exchanged a look, the silent agreement passing between us.
We moved towards the window and she motioned for us to come inside. As we walked in, my heart was racing.
“What brings you here?” she asked.
“We were just… curious,” I replied, my voice betraying a mix of nerves and excitement.
“I think I can help with that,” she teased.
She reached out, her fingers brushing against my arm. Her touch was electric, and I leaned into it.
She led us to the bed, undressing me and my partner with practiced ease. We began to explore each other’s bodies.
She brought out a strap on and we both nodded. She put it on, added lube, and moved towards me.
That night, we tried different anal sex positions, each unlocking new levels of pleasure. Our moans grew louder, and the room filled with the sounds of ecstasy….
What is Anal Sex?
Anal sex was once more ‘taboo’ but now people are becoming far more open about enjoying it. It’s fun, it’s naughty, and it feels good!
Anal sex involves inserting a penis, finger, or sex toy into the anus for sexual pleasure. People of any gender or sexual orientation can enjoy it.
If you’ve never tried it, you will have heard about it. Perhaps it’s piqued your interest when you’ve seen it on TV or in movies or intrigued you when you’ve heard people mentioning it online. Whatever your reason, if you’re new to anal sex, or you’re just looking for more guidance, you’re in the right place.
This article will tell you everything you need to know about anal sex, including sharing some of the best anal sex positions.
Why Do People Like Anal Sex & Anal Sex Positions?
For people who are new to the idea of anal sex, it may be a bit puzzling. You might find yourself thinking: “But why do people like anal sex?” The truth is, there are many reasons.
For gay couples who are both penis owners, it’s simply how they have penetrative sex. But for others, it can be an interesting addition to their sex lives. Exploring different gay sex positions can offer inspiration and techniques that anyone—regardless of orientation—can use to enhance their anal play and discover what works best for them.
To put it bluntly, anal sex feels good. The anus is rich in nerve endings. When it’s stimulated in the right way, it can feel incredible!
The anus is a tight hole, which can make the penetration feel incredible if the ‘giver’ or ‘top’ has a penis. But it’s not just the top who enjoys anal sex. It can be breathtaking for the ‘receiver’ or ‘bottom’ too!
People with penises have prostates, which you can think of as the ‘male G-spot’. You might also hear it referred to as the ‘P-spot’ (named after the prostate). Scientific theories suggest that this spot is full of nerves, which make it feel orgasmic when it’s stimulated.
I know what you’re thinking and yes – even heterosexual cisgender men can enjoy anal sex. There’s no shame in it! Many straight men enjoy having their prostate massaged. Others enjoy pegging (being penetrated anally with a strap-on). All of these options are valid and can be fun to explore. I particularly love being the ‘giver’ with a cisgender male partner – a bit of pegging can be amazing fun!
But, what about people with vulvas? Yes, anal sex can feel great for us, too. Psychologist Dr. Rachel Needle explains that we all have erogenous zones in our anuses. The vagina and rectum share some nerves, so some people with vulvas are lucky enough to have full-blown orgasms from anal sex alone! If that doesn’t happen for you, don’t worry though – you can use clitoral stimulation at the same time as being penetrated for some explosive orgasms.
Remember when we talked about anal sex being taboo earlier? Well, that feeling of doing something ‘naughty’ can be very arousing.
Anal sex is a great way of spicing up your sex life and adding new sensations. And let’s face it, who doesn’t love that? I know that I love trying new things in the bedroom (or out of it)!
For some partners, anal sex can enhance a feeling of intimacy. Trying something new can bring you closer and even help to strengthen your bond as a couple.
Which Anal Sex Position is Right for You?
So, now we know how much fun anal sex can be, let’s dive into the top anal sex positions.
1. Doggy Style Position
Doggy style is a classic anal sex position. When it comes to anal sex positions, it’s probably the one most people think of first.
The receiving partner gets on all fours on the bed or floor. The penetrating partner kneels behind them to enter them. I like this option because it gives the receiver some control over depth and pace, which can be reassuring if you’re a beginner.
This anal sex position allows for deep penetration. In my experience, it’s also a great position for some manual stimulation or the use of sex toys.
It’s an excellent choice if the receiver is heavier or larger than the giver, as they support their own weight. There’s also plenty of room for larger stomachs.
However, being on your hands and knees for extended periods isn’t accessible for everyone. If you struggle with chronic pain or have knee or back issues, this might not be the right choice for you. Don’t worry – there are plenty of other options.
2. Tucked Missionary Position
The missionary position is a popular option for both anal and vaginal sex – and with good reason! It allows you to be very close to your partner and maintain intimate eye contact.
Tucked missionary is a slight variation of the classic position. The receiver lies on their back and bends their knees so that their butt is slightly raised. The giver is on top between their partner’s legs. The bottom can also put their legs down or wrap them around their partner if they prefer.
I love this option because it’s one of the more accessible anal sex positions for both partners. If you’re disabled, being on the bottom is a great option as it doesn’t strain your joints. Top tip – pop a pillow under your hips to help you get the right angle.
There are very few negatives to the missionary position. Although, for some people, the angles of this position might not work as well as some other options.
3. The Turtle Position
The turtle is very similar to doggy style, but the receiver curls up with their knees near their chest. Think like the fetal position! They keep their legs together, rather than parted.
The giver balances their weight on their knees, straddles the receiver’s legs, and enters from behind. In this position, they are the ones in charge of the depth, angle, and speed of thrusting.
This anal sex position gives excellent anal access, and it’s incredible for deep penetration. It offers very intense stimulation for both partners due to the angle.
However, it can be tricky for the receiving partner to get into position. It requires quite a bit of flexibility and strength. It can also be an uncomfortable position to hold for long periods.
To increase comfort, the receiver can adjust the degree of curl or use a pillow for additional support.
4. The Perfect Angle Position
If you’re a fan of standing anal sex positions, this one is a great option for you! The receiver lies on their back on the edge of the bed (or the table or other surface – we don’t judge here). They lift their legs at a 90-degree angle. The giver kneels or stands at the edge of the bed or surface to penetrate their partner.
This anal sex position provides easy access to the anus for the giver and lets them get very deep! It feels great for both partners and is reasonably easy to do. However, it does require some flexibility from the receiver.
If you struggle to hold your legs up, I recommend resting them against your partner or having them hold your legs for extra support.
I love this position because it lets you get a good look at each other, which is always sexy! It’s fairly accessible for both partners. Plus, it’s a good option if the receiver is heavier or has a large stomach.
I highly recommend putting a pillow under the receiver’s back to angle their ass up for easier access.
5. Prone Bone Backdoor Position
This is a variation of the traditional Prone Bone position. The receiver lies flat on their stomach. The giver lies on top between their partner’s legs and enters from behind. The receiver can keep their legs straight or slightly spread to allow deeper penetration. Of course, the difference is that the giver is entering their partner anally.
This anal sex position is quite similar to doggy style, in that the penetrating partner is behind their lover. However, compared to doggy it’s easier to maintain for long periods.
I like that this position allows lots of full-body contact and feels quite intimate. I recommend using pillows under the receiver’s hips to elevate their ass for an even better angle.
On the other hand, the ‘bottom’ isn’t able to move much in this position. If you have a large stomach or chest, it can be uncomfortable to lie on your front, so this position might not be the best for you.
6. Pump Sex Position
This is another position that’s kind of similar to doggy style, but a bit more complex. The receiver squats with their back turned to the giver, who stands or kneels behind them. The giver holds onto the receiver’s hips for support.
In pump position, the receiving partner can also sit on a bar stool or a tall chair without a back (this option is more accessible if you can’t squat).
It’s a great anal sex position for fast, deep thrusting. It gives both the receiver and the giver some control.
This is a good option for people of any size and weight. However, without the support of a chair or stool, it requires considerable strength and balance. It can be an awkward anal sex position to hold for long periods.
7. Face to Face Position
This anal sex position is fantastic for intimacy and mutual pleasure. The giver sits on a chair or the edge of the bed. The receiver straddles their partner, sitting on their lap facing them.
Like the missionary position, it allows for eye contact and a feeling of intense closeness. Both partners have some control over pace and depth, although the receiver is the one with the most control in this position.
This isn’t the best position for hard or fast anal sex – it’s more about romantic, passionate sex.
If you’re plus-sized like me, this can be a bit of a tricky one as the receiver. If you’re heavier than your partner, make sure to communicate openly and take it slow.
8. Reverse Cowgirl/Cowboy Position
We all know and love the traditional cowgirl and reverse cowgirl position (or cowboy or cowperson – whatever works for you).
The penetrating partner lies down on their back. The receiver straddles them in a seated position, either facing away (reverse cowgirl position) or towards them (cowgirl position). The receiver controls the speed and depth of penetration by moving up and down. This works just as well for anal sex.
I like this position because it offers full control to the receiver, which is both fun and empowering. You can play around with speed and depth to see what feels good. It’s also fantastic if the penetrating partner is disabled, as they can lie down comfortably and enjoy the view!
To adapt these positions to work for anal sex, it takes some adjustment until you get used to the right angle.
9. The Scissor Lift
If you’re looking for an anal sex position where the penetrating partner is in control and you can achieve very deep anal penetration, then this could be the one for you!
With the Scissor Lift, the receiver lies on their back, slightly tilted to one side with one leg lifted. The giver kneels between their partner’s legs for penetration. The giver can hold their lover’s lifted leg or place it on their shoulder.
I like this position because it’s easy to adjust the angle and depth of the penetration. It’s great for partners of any size and is generally very comfortable for both partners.
However, it does require some flexibility, so if you struggle with chronic pain or limited mobility, it could be a bit of a challenge for you. I recommend using a pillow or cushion to support your lifted leg or asking your partner for more support to maintain the position.
10. The Spooning
The spooning sex position is one of my favorites for all sorts of sexual activities because it’s comfortable and feels great!
In the “spooning with a twist” position, both partners lie on their sides, with the receiver slightly in front of the giver. The giver penetrates from behind, but in this variation, they enter anally.
This position allows for close contact and easy adjustment. It’s also very inclusive for people of all sizes and abilities.
For deeper anal penetration, the receiver can slightly lift their top leg or rest it on the giver’s hip, adjusting the angle while maintaining intimacy.
If the receiver has a vulva, it’s easy to reach around to provide clitoral stimulation. Likewise, if the receiver has a penis, you can offer manual stimulation.
This position limits how hard and deep you can thrust. However, this may be better if you’re an anal sex beginner.
11. The Seashell
For lovers who are after something a bit more challenging, the Seashell position is ideal.
In this position, the receiver lies on their back and brings their knees toward their chest and ideally resting on the giver’s shoulders. The giver kneels or stands for deep penetration, allowing for a direct angle.
I like this potion because it allows for intense pleasure and good access for clitoral or penile stimulation. It’s also a great option for introducing toys.
The Seashell requires some flexibility and strength from both partners. To enhance comfort, the receiver can keep their legs slightly bent rather than fully extended, which reduces strain. A pillow under the receiver’s hips can also help elevate their pelvis. I recommend using a wedge cushion to maintain stability and assist with achieving the right angle.
12. The Arch
Last on our list, we’ve got one of our more advanced anal sex positions – the Anal Arch! I know, the name sounds painful, but the position can be fun.
In this position, the giver is on the bottom. Both partners intertwine their legs, with the giver’s legs scissoring through the receiver’s. Both people lean back and and the penetrating partner must support their weight on their arms.
This position provides a moderate level of penetration with lots of skin-to-skin contact. In my experience, it allows both partners to have equal control, working as a team to control the motion rather than one person taking the lead.
Due to the strength required and the twisting motion of the legs, this position isn’t comfortable for everyone. It’s not the most accessible option, but if you can manage it, it can be very pleasurable.
Tips for Safe and Pleasurable Anal Sex
Anal sex typically requires more preparation and consideration than vaginal sex. The tips below will help you to feel more informed before you start your journey.
Preparing for Anal Sex
Communicate openly: Before engaging in anal play, have an honest conversation with your partner about desires, boundaries, and comfort levels. Clear communication and mutual consent are always the most important things.
Prioritize cleanliness: Hygiene is important for both comfort and peace of mind. While some people prefer using an anal douche to clean the rectum, this is optional. A simple wash with warm water and mild soap can work fine.
Invest in quality lubrication: The anus doesn’t naturally lubricate like the vagina. So using lubrication is essential for comfort and safety. The last thing you want is painful anal sex! Water-based or silicone-based lubricants are popular choices. Top tip – I recommend avoiding desensitizing lubes, as they can mask discomfort and potentially lead to injury.
Use protection: Some people think that you don’t need protection for anal sex because you can’t get pregnant or there’s less of a risk of STIs. Actually, the opposite is true. Evidence shows you’re more likely to get an STI from anal, especially if you’re the receiver.
Start with small toys: Introducing small anal toys or dilators can help your body adjust to the sensations of anal play. You can even try this on your own first if you’re particularly nervous.
Pick a comforting space: You want to be relaxed when you try anal sex. If you tense up too much, it’s going to be uncomfortable for both partners. Soft lighting, soothing music, or scented candles can help set the mood.
During Anal Sex
Relax and take your time: Rushing into anal play can lead to discomfort. Take the time to relax the anal muscles. Try breathing exercises or a gentle massage around the anal area to help loosen the muscles.
Focus on comfort: Your comfort is paramount. Use pillows for sex to support your body in positions that might be physically challenging.
Protect surfaces: If you’re worried about mess, place a towel or old sheet underneath you.
Start with foreplay: Foreplay is not only fun but also helps prepare your mind and body for anal sex. Spend time exploring each other’s bodies with kisses, caresses, or oral sex.
Keep communicating: It’s important you both feel able to communicate your needs and boundaries during sex. If something doesn’t feel good or you’re worried – speak up! Likewise, if something is feeling great, tell your partner to reassure them.
Experiment with anal sex positions: Try different anal sex positions to see what feels good. If one position doesn’t work or you can’t do it, don’t take things too seriously – switch it up and try again.
Keep things interesting: You can try dirty talk, share fantasies, introduce toys, or even add some BDSM elements to your anal play.
After Anal Sex
Clean up: Afterwards, you’ll want to clean up and keep things hygienic. This helps to avoid skin irritation and ensures everyone is comfortable.
Aftercare: After new or intense sexual experiences, aftercare is vital. It’s about reinforcing your bond, taking care of each other, and talking about the experience. Chat about what went wrong and what felt great, so you can improve things next time.
Final Thoughts: Anal Sex Provides Endless Possibilities
Anal sex can be great fun when it’s done right. Opening yourself up to anal sex might also lead to exploring other rimming positions. And if you’re into anal worship, get inspiration from the butt kink article!
By experimenting and preparing properly, you and your partner can discover new levels of sexual pleasure. So, take your time, enjoy the process, and most importantly, have fun with it!
