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Degradation & Humiliation
You really thought you could handle this, didn’t you? How adorable…
But since you’re here, I suppose we can explore just how low you can go…
Humiliation…just hearing those words might make you feel uncomfortable if you are not familiar with the humiliation world. But for many people and some of my friends with sexual degradation it’s a powerful and erotic part of their sexual lives.
Why would anyone want to be degraded or embarrassed during sex, you might wonder?
Well if you’re reading this, you’re probably curious about how this works, and maybe you’ve even wondered if it’s something you’d like to try?
BDSM and humiliation can go together in an agreed and safe space. Whether it’s through verbal teasing or more intense acts of sexual force and degradation, the emotional rush and vulnerability people experience through this kink can take sexual intimacy to a whole new level.
At KYS, we’re here to clear up any misconceptions or concerns you might have about this topic. Our goal is to give you a better understanding of what it’s like to experience erotic humiliation fetish or how to understand someone who enjoys it.
We’ll go through what humiliation kink is, why people enjoy it, how to try it for the first time, and most importantly—how to do it safely.
What Is a Humiliation Kink?
Let’s break it down. A humiliation kink is a form of consensual sexual play where one person is deliberately embarrassed or degraded to heighten sexual arousal. It’s important to note the keyword here: consensual. Unlike abusive sexual humiliation, erotic humiliation is agreed upon by both partners, and it usually takes place in a safe, controlled environment. There are clear rules, safe words, and plenty of communication.
This kind of play often happens in domination and submission, where there’s a clear power play. One partner (the dominant) takes on the role of humiliator, while the other (the submissive) willingly takes the feelings of embarrassment. It could be something as simple as name-calling or as elaborate as being made to perform sexually embarrassing context tasks that lower their status.
Humiliation kinks are unique because it’s not about the physical acts, but the emotional reaction that the submissive gets from feeling embarrassed or degraded that drives the arousal. The line between humiliation and domination can blur here, but the focus is always on those feelings of exposure and embarrassment.
What is the Pleasure of Being Humiliated?
Good question! This is where things get interesting.
For many, the idea involve humiliation or of being humiliated might seem terrifying. But in the context of humiliation play is about being exposed, experiencing the shame and surrender. If you’ve ever tried, you’d know how insanely arousing it can be. It’s the same reason why some people find the idea of being tied up or spanked so enjoyable.
Erotic humiliation triggers intense emotional responses, which can lead to heightened arousal and sexual stimulation. Imagine your partner calling you a “naughty slut” while you are giving him a juicy deep throat enjoyably moaning…
For some, those words might feel degrading, but for others, like me…they bring excitement because they’re tied to feelings of submission, or even liberation from social rules, hearing these words make me suck him even more fiercely and behave like a total slut. I want it this way, it drives me wild!
There’s also a psychological element to this. Some people enjoy submission and giving up control. Being degraded takes away their power in sexual context and because it’s all consensual, this loss of control is exciting rather than harmful.
In fact, it can deepen the bond between partners as trust is essential for this kind of play.
Why Do People Enjoy Being Humiliated During Sex?
The answer often lies in the emotional and psychological aspects of BDSM. When someone agrees to being humiliated, they’re giving up their power, which can be incredibly liberating. In a world where we’re often expected to be in control, letting go of that control in sex can be arousing.
For many, the arousal comes from the contrast between everyday life and the BDSM scene. In their daily lives, they might be in positions of power or authority, like a CEO, but during a scene, they’re stripped of that power and placed in a submissive role.
This role reversal can create intense feelings of arousal, as they’re able to explore aspects of their sexual fantasies they wouldn’t usually express.
Others may enjoy the thrill of being pushed out of their comfort zone. Being humiliated triggers emotions like shame or embarrassment, but only during humiliation sexual activities these emotions are transformed into something erotic and pleasurable.
Is there a Degradation Kink?
Yes there is—degradation kink is a close cousin to humiliation kink. While both involve making the submissive feel lower or less-than, degradation typically takes things to a more extreme level.
In degradation play, the goal is to belittle the submissive in ways that dehumanize them, reducing them to an object or a “thing.”
This can involve more intense forms of verbal abuse or physical actions that make the submissive feel degraded. Think along the lines of being treated like an object, called “worthless,” or being made to perform tasks that are intentionally demeaning.
Degradation kink might sound harsh, but again, trust me, when agreed in advice, it can feel more than just okay. The submissive knows that while the dominant is degrading them in the moment, it’s all part of a consensual game, and the emotional and psychological intensity is what makes it so wanted to try.
Why Do Some People Like Being Humiliated?
The reasons why people enjoy erotic humiliation can vary from person to person. Here are a few common reasons people enjoy humiliation kink:
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Exposure: Being humiliated makes you feel exposed and vulnerable, which can heighten arousal and deepen emotional intimacy with your partner.
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Release of Control: Some people love the feeling of giving up control. Being humiliated allows them to let go of societal expectations and just surrender to the moment.
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Empowerment through Submission: It might sound contradictory, but for some, there’s empowerment in submission. By choosing to engage in humiliation play, they’re taking control of how and when they feel embarrassed or degraded.
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Pushing Limits: For those who enjoy pushing the limits, humiliation kink provides a way to explore emotions they’d usually avoid in real life. It’s a way to challenge themselves and see how far they can go.
How to Play with Humiliation for the First Time
If you’re intrigued and want to try humiliation play for the first time, here’s where to start.
The first rule is to communicate. You and your partner need to be on the same page before trying any kind of BDSM play, and that goes double for humiliation play especially for consensual psychological humiliation.
Discuss things in advance. What kind of language are you comfortable with? What kinds of actions would make you feel humiliated in a good way, and which ones would hurt you? It’s important to be honest with each other about what you want and don’t want.
Start Small. You don’t need to jump into the deep end of the sexual degradation, right away please. Start with light teasing or playful name-calling. Maybe try a roleplay scenario that makes you feel embarrassed but not devastated. For example, your partner could “order” you to do something mildly embarrassing, like undress while they watch.
Why Do Some People Like Erotic Humiliation?
For many, erotic humiliation allows them to explore in a way that feels safe and exciting. As mentioned earlier, when you’re humiliated in a BDSM scene, you know it’s all part of the game. This lets you experience emotions like shame or embarrassment without the real-world consequences.
There’s also a deeper psychological element at play. Some people who have been humiliated in the past might use this kink to reclaim control over those feelings. By choosing when and how they’re humiliated, they can take back power over past negative experiences.
Types of Erotic Humiliation and Degradation
Humiliation play can be broken down into different categories. Here are a few common types of consensual erotic humiliation:
Verbal Humiliation
This involves insults, name-calling, or belittling comments. Words like “worthless,” or “pathetic” might be used, depending on what you and your partner are comfortable with. In addition to verbal degradation, specific fetishes like Small Penis Humiliation (SPH fetish) are common.
SPH involves belittling the size of the submissive’s penis, often through phrases like, ‘Is that all you’ve got?‘ or, ‘No wonder you can’t please anyone with that.
Physical Humiliation
Here, the focus is on actions that make the submissive feel humiliated. This could involve being made to perform embarrassing tasks, like crawling on the floor or wearing humiliating clothing.
Public Humiliation
Some people enjoy being humiliated in front of others, either in a controlled BDSM environment or in a discreet public areas.
Dehumanization
In this type of humiliation, the submissive is treated like an object or a lower-status being. This could involve being used as furniture or being ordered to perform degrading tasks.
Emotional Humiliation
Humiliation isn’t always about what’s said or done physically. Sometimes, it hits hardest on an emotional level. In emotional humiliation you make someone feel vulnerable in ways that play on their insecurities. Teasing their skills, highlighting flaws, or making them feel inadequate. Sometimes, it’s the emotional side that creates the biggest impact.
Online Humiliation
This humiliation type can involve sending embarrassing photos or videos, following demeaning instructions via text or webcam, or participating in humiliating tasks that are shared only between the dominant and submissive. This form of humiliation allows partners with long-distance relationships or those seeking more private forms of play to explore their kink even when physically apart.
BDSM Humiliation play and Erotic Degradation Ideas
Here are some humiliation ideas to explore, keeping in mind that everything should be consensual, safe, and within boundaries:
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Verbal Teasing: Use light insults or pet names like “bad girl,” “dirty boy,” or “slut.” These words should be discussed in advance to ensure they’re arousing, not hurtful.
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Degrading Commands: Have the submissive perform tasks like begging for attention, crawling on all fours, or fetching an item in an embarrassing way. It’s not about the task itself but how it makes them feel.
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Public Display: If you’re both comfortable, try playing with Exhibitionism Kink in public humiliation in, like giving the submissive a secret task to complete in public, something that’s noticeable to them but discreet enough for others not to notice.
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Objectification: Treat the submissive like a piece of furniture—make them act as a footstool or serve as a table for drinks. This type of play emphasizes the loss of status and turns the submissive into an object for a brief time.
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Embarrassing Roles: Roleplay scenarios like Sissification or Pet Play Kink where the submissive has to perform a role that they might find humiliating. In Sissification a male submissive is made to dress or behave in feminine ways. It often includes teasing or name-calling, like, “You’re such a pathetic little sissy,” or, “You’ll never be man enough.” This can be combined with tasks that make the submissive feel embarrassed, such as serving, or be a pet serving their owner. The idea is to create a scenario where they feel lesser in a fun, erotic way.
Remember, the key here is that the erotic excitement comes from the emotions stirred by these actions. It’s about embracing feelings of vulnerability in a controlled, consensual environment.
Humiliating and Degrading Words, Insults, and Nicknames
It’s essential to negotiate these terms in advance. What works for one person may be way too much for another. For example, while one submissive might love being called a slut, another might find that term genuinely hurtful. Establish a list of acceptable words before the scene starts to ensure everyone stays within their comfort zone.
Some common humiliating words and phrases include:
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Slut, whore, or dirty girl/boy for those who enjoy being sexually shamed.
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Worthless, pathetic, or useless when the focus is on lowering someone’s status.
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Pet, slave, or toy for those who enjoy being objectified.
When you’re erotically humiliating your partner, you’ll often criticize, judge, command, or instruct them. You can blend some of the creative insults mentioned earlier with phrases like the ones below to create the perfect degrading combination:
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“Is that the best you can do?”
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“Is it in yet? I can’t even feel it.”
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“Your [body part] looks so ugly.”
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“You’re completely worthless.”
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“I tell my friends about your pathetic [body part], and they always laugh.”
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“You’re lucky I haven’t dumped you yet.”
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“You’re nothing more than a disgraceful two-dollar prostitute.”
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“Do you want everyone to know you’re a sissy?”
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“You can only get that hard? Are you even attracted to me?”
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“There are plenty of people who would serve my every need if you can’t.”
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“I can touch you whenever I want, but you can’t touch me.” (while fondling)
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“Shut your dirty whore mouth.”
To make the most of these phrases, remember that variety is fun, switch things up to keep the tension fresh and exciting.
Another technique you can try is having your partner repeat the insults back to you. If you call them a “dirty slut,” have them confirm by repeating, “I am a dirty slut.” You can also use repetition for confirmation when your partner says something dirty: “I know you’re [repeat their words].”
If you want to turn up the intensity, push it a step further. If your partner calls themselves a “dirty whore,” tell them they’re the filthiest whore to ever exist. You get the idea!
You can easily combine these humiliating phrases with dirty talk to take things to the next level.
Things to Consider Before Playing With Sexual Humiliation
Humiliation kink can be psychologically intense, so please make sure to take a few steps before getting in. Here are some essential considerations:
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Communication: This is a given in any BDSM play, but it’s particularly important in humiliation. You need to talk openly with your partner about what kinds of humiliation you’re both interested in, as well as what’s off-limits. Some people may love verbal insults, while others might find certain words triggering or harmful.
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Safe Words and Check-ins: Make sure to establish a safe word that either of you can use to pause or stop the scene. It’s also a good idea to check in with each other during the scene to ensure that everything feels okay.
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Understand Triggers: Humiliation play can leave emotional wounds, so it’s important to understand your own and your partner’s triggers. If certain insults or scenarios are too emotionally charged, leave them out of the scene.
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Aftercare: Humiliation play can leave the submissive feeling sensitive and hurt, so aftercare is essential. Make sure not to neglect aftercare tips in the next paragraph.
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Set Clear Boundaries: Decide what is off-limits from the start. Maybe your partner is okay with being called names but doesn’t want to be publicly humiliated. Or perhaps they enjoy some light teasing but don’t want to be involved in physical degradation. Be specific about what’s okay and what’s not.
Aftercare Tips to Make Humiliation More Enjoyable
After humiliation play, it’s important to maintain a positive emotional balance and focus on the aftercare.
You may start by asking your partner how they’re feeling and ensure that no boundaries were crossed.
Think of what you could do to make them physically comfortable like: hugging, caressing their head, scratching their back or telling them something nice.
I personally like when my partner hugs me in his arms, after I’ve been the filthiest whore ever existed, caressing my hair, scratching my back and kissing the tip of my nose, and telling me how intensely he came, and how good I am in sucking….its like butter for my ears and it is so encouraging… I could really lay there for hours listening to him..
Remind your partner that the scene was consensual and separate from your genuine feelings. Hydration and open communication are main factors, allowing both partners to share any emotions and process the experience together.
Conclusion
Remember, if your first experience doesn’t go as planned—maybe you couldn’t think of what to say during the teasing or took it personal or felt a bit awkward—don’t give up on it just yet.
If you think it could be more enjoyable with a little more practice or a smoother setup, it’s definitely worth trying again. Like most new experiences in BDSM, humiliation play can take some getting used to, and that learning curve can be part of the fun. Just make sure to prioritize what feels good and keep safety in mind at all times.
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