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Urolagnia: A Guide to the World of Sexual Watersports

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Urolagnia

You might not have heard of urolagnia, but I’m betting you’ve heard of water sports or golden showers. They’re all referring to the same thing!

If you haven’t tried urolagnia yourself, you’ve probably heard someone talking about it or seen it mentioned on TV. If you’ve seen season four of the show ‘You’ on Netflix, you’ll have seen a golden shower! Or how about a personal favorite of mine, Sex in the City – in one episode, Carrie’s date is a politician who has a pee fetish!

Lots of people joke about it, but in reality, many people love involving water sports in their sexual play (and no, I don’t mean white water rafting).

So what exactly does urolagnia involve and why do people like it? This guide will answer all your questions. Let’s navigate these waters together (pun intended).

What Is Urolagnia?

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Urolagnia is a sexual kink or fetish where someone is aroused by urine or the act of urination. They might enjoy urinating on their partner or being urinated on. Or they might like watching someone urinate. They may enjoy other types of piss play, such as consuming urine or wetting themselves.

Many people find the act of urination erotic, whether it’s the sound, the scent, or the feeling of liquid on their body.

Urolagnia is derived from the Greek words ‘ouron’ (urine) and ‘lagneia’ (lust). Urolagnia is also known as urophilia or more commonly, watersports, pee play, or piss play.

The term ‘golden shower’ is commonly used to describe a specific sexual act within urolagnia, where one person urinates on another during sexual activity.

Often, urolagnia is part of other forms of BDSM play. It’s commonly involved in power dynamics or kinks under humiliation category.

Any adult of any gender or sexual orientation can have a piss kink, and it’s more common than you might think!

According to a survey in a book by Justin Lehmiller, PhD at least 19% of cisgender, heterosexual men are interested in piss play, as well as 40% of queer men. It’s not just men, though! The same survey showed that at least 8% of cisgender, straight women and 20% of queer women were into watersports. So, you’re certainly not alone if it’s something you enjoy or have considered.

Why Do People Enjoy Urolagnia?

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Now you know how popular it is, you might be wondering why so many people love piss play. There are actually lots of reasons!

Many people like it because it’s ‘taboo’, and it’s fun to do things that are seen as naughty. Urination is typically a private act, and the act of sharing it with a partner can feel both rebellious and intensely intimate.

This sense of intimacy can also be appealing. It can make you feel closer to your partner to share something so private with them. Plus, I always find that trying a new kink or fetish involves lots of communication and understanding, which can build trust as well as introduce more excitement into your sex life.

For some, the power dynamics involved add an extra layer of sexual excitement. The roles of dominance and submission can be deeply erotic, with one partner controlling when and where the other can urinate. People who enjoy BDSM play that involves humiliation may use urinating on their partner as a way to humiliate them. Or they may ‘make’ their partner wet themselves or urinate in front of them.

Other fetishists find excitement in the pressure and urgency of holding a full bladder, deriving pleasure from the physical sensations and the eventual release. However, it’s important to mention that this carries risks, which we’ll discuss later.

The sensory experience of urolagnia also plays a significant role in its appeal. The warmth and wetness of urine, not to mention the distinct smell, can be stimulating for some people.

Some people enjoy the sight of their partner urinating. The visual of seeing a ‘squirt’ of liquid coming from their lover can mimic ejaculation, which may be arousing.

In some cases, people love the feeling of letting go and releasing their inhibitions. It can feel freeing, especially in a society with so many demands and rules.

Is Urolagnia Wrong?

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At the end of the day, we’re all different. Our sexual preferences can be as unique as we are, and that’s ok!

Although there’s a lot of stigma around fetishes and kinks, they’re actually a normal part of sexual desire.

As long as any piss play you engage in is consensual and done safely, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it!

How to Talk to Your Partner About Urolagnia

Starting a conversation about urolagnia with your partner can be daunting, but it’s essential for a healthy and consensual sexual relationship.

Start with explaining what urolagnia is, why it interests you, and how you think it could enhance your sex life. Clear communication can help demystify the kink and make it less intimidating.

If they’ve never done it before and aren’t really sure what it’s about, I’d recommend showing them using porn or a scene from TV if that’s something they’re open to. This might help them to visualize exactly what it is you want.

Make sure they know there’s no pressure to participate and that you care about their comfort and boundaries. You might want to say something like, “I’ve been thinking about this for a while and it’s something I’d like to try with you, but if you don’t want to that’s completely ok”.

Prioritize your partner’s comfort and consent, discussing boundaries and comfort levels openly. Consent involves not just agreement but also feeling safe and respected.

They might need some time to process the idea – remember you’ve been thinking about it, but this could be a complete surprise to them. So let them have some space and time if needed, and come back to the conversation later.

If they aren’t interested in water sports and it’s simply not for them, then you have to respect that. You may be able to find ways to experiment with your interests on your own, during masturbation, for example.

Being receptive to your partner’s feelings and reactions is crucial. This openness can facilitate a more honest dialogue about sexual interests. You never know, they might open up about their own fantasies or kinks they’ve been wanting to try. It could be the start of an exciting new chapter in your sex life.

Tips for Exploring Urolagnia

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If you and your partner are on the same page and want to give piss play a go, then get ready to have some fun! I’ve included my top tips for both pleasure and safety below.

Tips for Integrating Urolagnia into Sexual Play

Here are some tips for getting the most out of urolagnia:

  • Start slow: If you’re new to this, you’ll want to start slow and work your way up to make sure you both feel comfortable and aren’t overwhelmed. Why not try watching each other pee or even just leaving the bathroom door open while you pee to begin with? Then you can move on to involving urine in your sexual play.

  • Choose your location: Obviously, water sports and golden showers can be messy. So choose a location where mess isn’t a concern, such as the shower or bath. That way you don’t have to worry about it and can relax and enjoy. Alternatively, you can put down a waterproof blanket to protect your bed. You can actually buy specific sheets for watersports. You’re already going to be a bit nervous if it’s your first time trying it, so the last thing you want is to have cleaning up to worry about.

  • Make a plan: Chat with your partner about what you want to try together and how you want to approach it. Discuss boundaries – being clear about what you don’t want is just as important as talking about what you do want. For example, you might want to talk about what areas of your body you will accept being peed on and which you won’t.

    • Experiment: Play around with different ways of involving water sports in your sex life. You might want to take turns peeing on each other to see how it feels and what you like. If you already have a BDSM dynamic, you will likely enjoy involving piss play in your other fetishes. Some people want to try smelling, drinking, or touching each other’s pee. Others want to pee inside each other.  And for those who enjoy cum play, try felching, which involves sucking semen out of the vagina or anus after ejaculation.  Experiment safely until you figure out what you both enjoy.

  • Relax and have fun: Often when we try new things, it can be nerve-wracking and make us feel on edge. There’s no one ‘right way’ to introduce watersports into your sex life and it’s supposed to be fun. So try to relax, have fun, and don’t put too much pressure on yourself.

Safety Tips

For the most part, practicing urolagnia is safe but there are some risks involved. Contrary to popular belief, urine isn’t sterile – it contains bacteria! So, as with any bodily fluids, when they’re exchanged, there’s a chance of infection or STIs. Get tested regularly and stay safe.

If you play around with holding your pee, it can increase your risk of UTIs (urinary tract infections). It can also strain your bladder and pelvic floor. We wouldn’t advise to do this often or for long periods.

There are some other risks too. For example, if you introduce urine into the vagina or anus, it can disrupt the PH balance and cause irritation or infection. Ingesting urine isn’t particularly safe either. Whether you swallow it or just hold it in your mouth, it has the potential to cause infection or illness.

Golden showers are generally safe as long as there aren’t any wounds or broken skin because the skin creates a barrier. However, some people might find that urine can cause skin irritation. This is more common in people who are repeatedly engaging in watersports. When the skin is regularly exposed to urine, it can lead to skin conditions.

Here are some safety precautions you can take to ensure your piss play stays fun:

  • Informed decisions: Be fully aware of the risks of watersports so that you can make informed decisions.

  • Consent is key: Make sure you both consent to any sexual activity or water sports. Respect one another’s boundaries.

  • Safe word: Choose a safe word that either of you can use if you find that you aren’t enjoying yourself and want to stop.

  • Stay hydrated: Staying hydrated is essential, as it dilutes the urine and makes piss play more pleasant. Diluted urine also reduces the risk of skin irritation.

  • Avoid open wounds: Since urine contains bacteria, it can cause infection, so avoid getting pee in open wounds.

  • Avoid eyes: You should never have pee near your eyes as the risk of infection or irritation is high. Some people choose to wear goggles during golden showers so they can fully immerse themselves in the experience.

  • Post-play hygiene: Good hygiene is critical and, of course, you’re going to want to clean up afterward. Showering together using warm water and mild soap can help maintain cleanliness and add to the intimacy of the experience.

  • Aftercare: Aside from cleaning up, it’s important to check in with each other and chat about how it went afterward. Reconnect and just spend some time with each other winding down from the excitement, especially if this is a brand-new experience.

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Alternatives if Golden Showers Aren’t for You

Not everyone is into urolagnia, and that’s perfectly normal. If it’s not your thing, there are lots of other kinks and fetishes you can explore with your partner. It doesn’t make you ‘boring’ or mean you’re missing out. It’s ok that people like different things, just like people have different interests in day-to-day life.

You could still enjoy BDSM without the piss play, or you could simply explore some new sex positions! Whatever you’re into is valid – it’s all about enjoying yourself.

Final Thoughts: Water Sports Can Be Exciting

Watersports can be an exciting way to spice up your sex life and introduce new levels of intimacy to your relationship.

If urolagnia appeals to you, why not dive in? Just make sure you take safety precautions and do everything consensually. Have fun!

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Samuel Davis Senior Author & Content Manager
With a background in journalism and a strong interest in psychology, Samuel combines his storytelling skills with a passion for exploring kink and fetishes, crafting content that's engaging, insightful, and fun for readers.✍️📚