From Brokeback to Bareback
Imagine this: you and your boyfriend are getting hot and heavy on the couch. It’s way past Netflix and chill, and he’s getting ready to penetrate you from behind. That’s when you look up and see him staring at the screen…the two of you had been watching Brokeback Mountain, and he now has the most devilish look in his eye.
“No, just lay back,” he says, grinning. Reflexively, you had been expecting him to get on all fours on the couch, assuming that he wanted to do the usual. Smiling but now knowing where he is going with this, you lay back, your head relaxed against the arm cushion of the couch. That’s when he does something unexpected by straddling your body as surely as a cowboy straddles his horse.
He moves a lubed hand (you didn’t even see him grab it) up and down your shaft before lowering himself onto your cock. It’s a fun bit of role reversal…he’s now controlling the pace and depth, and he seems to be enjoying making you squirm. Just when you’re on the edge of climax, he rocks his hips faster and faster until your eyes go white from an explosion of pure pleasure.
That’s when he leans forward and whispers a single word into your tingling ear. “Yeehaw.”
What is the Cowboy Position?
What if you and your sex life could ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after?
Most people are familiar with the Cowgirl sex position in which a woman straddles her partner and takes him for a ride. Well, boys like to ride too, and that’s where the Cowboy position comes in. In this position, one man straddles another man, taking the penetrating partner’s penis into his ass. Meanwhile, as with Cowgirl sex, the receiving partner gets to sit back and enjoy the ride.
This position is popular with many lovers for many reasons, including how much access it offers to each other’s bodies. Additionally, the person on top can control the depth and pace, which is great for when you want to take things slow. And no matter how fast or slow both of you go, the ample opportunities for eye contact and skin-to-skin contact make this one of the hottest sex positions in the world.
How to Perform it
Interested in being a cowboy? You don’t have to have a ten-gallon hat for this position. For starters, the receiving partner should straddle the penetrating partner’s legs (ideally, they should be slightly bent for best alignment). The partner up top can either rest on his thighs or just use his hands for better leverage while riding.
No matter how enthusiastic both of you are feeling, it’s important to start with slow and shallow thrusts before building up to something faster or deeper. Communication is key, of course, allowing both of you to stay on the same page throughout intercourse.
While memes love to joke about “bouncing on it,” you’re actually better off using grinding motions while on top. This helps the two of you maintain a steady rhythm while minimizing slippage. Speaking of slippage, simply lifting the hips may help the receiving partner with getting penetrated and maintaining penetration.
Sex Position Benefits
Obviously, there is no shortage of different positions that you and your partner can try out. If you’re curious about more hot moves, check out our guide to other gay sex positions for even more ideas. But that brings us the big question: what makes the cowboy position so great compared to positions such as doggy style?
The short answer is that this position offers better control, deeper penetration, and hotter intimacy. Plus, even small adjustments to each other’s bodies (like lifting legs up or simply incorporating sex toys) can enhance pleasure beyond anything you could imagine.
Don’t believe us? Below, you’ll find a fuller breakdown of all the benefits this steamy position has to offer.
Enhanced Control
In the cowboy position, the receiving partner has all the control of…well…a cowboy! They control both the depth of penetration and the speed of sex. This control is pretty hot on its own, allowing the partner on top to either accommodate the penetrating partner’s needs or make them beg for it. Ride’em, cowboy! And for those who enjoy playing with power dynamics in bed, this position can be a gateway to exploring gay kinks like puppy play or exhibitionism.
Deeper Penetration
Speaking of penetration, the cowboy position allows the penetrating partner to go pretty damn deep. When the receiving partner leans forward or backward, the penis can hit angles that it simply cannot hit in doggy style or missionary. Hitting those angles can make sex feel insanely good, and the resulting orgasms will keep both of you “cumming” back for more.
Increased Intimacy
The cowboy position offers just as much emotional intimacy as it does physical intimacy. After all, this position allows for both constant eye contact and access to most of each other’s bodies. By the time you’re done, you’re likely to feel a powerful emotional bond with your partner that other positions simply cannot offer.
Common Variations of the Cowboy
The Wild West had more than one kind of cowboy, and sex has more than one kind of cowboy position. If you’re ready to try something new when you get on the saddle, we’ve got several exciting variations for you to try!
Horizontal Cowboy
This variation allows for intimate face-to-face contact, leaving room for kisses or whispers, while also enhancing deep grinding and full-body contact.
Reverse Cowboy
Reverse Cowboy is exactly what it sounds like: it’s the Cowboy Position, but the receiving partner faces away from their partner. This offers unique angles and a killer view, both of which provide a fun twist on a favorite position.
Sitting Up Cowboy
The Sitting Up Cowboy is another self-explanatory sex position…in this case, both partners (you guessed it!) sit upright during lovemaking. This offers even more intimacy, and it can be easier to make adjustments while in this position. Pro tip: if you have an adjustable bed, getting this position just right is only a click away!
Save a Horse, Ride (Like) a Cowboy!
Now you know all about the Cowboy Position, including how it works, why it’s so fun, and how you can change things up. With this particular position under your hat, sex will never be the same!
But would you like to have a few more sexual tools in your holster, cowboy? Here at Know Your Sins, we’ve got more tips, tricks, and guides than the Wild West had varmints. Keep checking our site to learn everything you need to know to impress the cowboys and cowgirls in your life!
