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“Mhmm,” I moan. “Stop. Stop, please.” I sound scared, but the shaking in my body is from pleasure and excitement, not fear.
“Should I?” he asks, still thrusting into me.
“Yes,” I moan. “You’re hurting me.” I moan again, secretly wanting him to be even rougher.
“I won’t,” he growls in my ear, pounding into me harder.
I feel an orgasm coming. He thrusts a few more times, and I cum with a scream. He follows right after. I look up at him, and he smiles, looking happy.
“Remember, you can always use the safe word if you really want me to stop, love,” he says, kissing my forehead gently.
“Mmkay,” I whisper, half asleep.
“Say it.”
“Raspberries,” I chuckle softly.
The scene above shows what a steamy Consensual Non-Consent (CNC) session might look like between you and your partner. Keep reading to understand more.
So What Exacly is CNC kink?
CNC is a kink practice within BDSM where partners give prior consent for scenarios that might seem forceful. This is not the same as rape play. CNC is consensual and pre-negotiated, with clear boundaries set by both parties. One partner agrees to give up control within these boundaries, making it different from actual non-consent.
In CNC, participants role-play scenarios with predetermined boundaries and behaviors. This ensures a consensual enactment of non-consensual sex fantasies. Intense actions like impact play or using restraints may be involved. However, they are part of the agreement and not abuse. CNC is a unique interest in fantasy and kink. It offers an exciting experience for those who practice it safely and consensually.
Consensual Non-Consent (CNC) involves pre-negotiated boundaries and roles, making it distinct from actual non-consent or abuse. It provides a safe space for exploring intense sexual fantasies within BDSM.
Hang in there because we are going to explore CNC and how to incorporate it into your sex life.
What Does CNC Kink Involve?
Consensual Non-Consent (CNC) involves role-playing and creating a scene where consenting adults agree to engage in a forced sexual activity beforehand. The dominant partner acts as though the submissive has waived consent, but in reality, it was given earlier.
The dominant uses force while the submissive acts as the victim. CNC is also known as ravishment, with the dominant called the ravisher and the submissive called the ravished. It is a consensual exchange in sex acts involving predefined roles and boundaries.
When exploring CNC roleplay with your partner, good communication is crucial. Effective communication ensures safety and comfort for both of you. It helps you establish boundaries, limits, and safe scenarios for a comfortable CNC experience.
Why Do People Enjoy Being Forced?
It is quite challenging to pinpoint a single reason explaining why different people are attracted to specific sexual fantasies or kinks. However, we can offer a few reasons why you might be interested in CNC (Consensual Non-Consent).
Sexual Blame Avoidance
This theory suggests that some individuals fantasize about forced sex to avoid guilt, blame, or anxiety associated with consensual sexual activities.
A Tool to Work Through Trauma
Engaging in CNC can also stem from an attempt to heal from past trauma. While it can be therapeutic and help individuals process experiences like sexual assault, it’s crucial to seek professional help for traumatic experiences. CNC kink play should not replace therapy, and those with past traumas are strongly advised to consult a certified sex therapist or a licensed psychologist.
Release of Control
Another allure of CNC kink is the opportunity to experience release by surrendering control. In CNC scenarios, control is completely transferred to the dominant partner.
On the other hand, some people enjoy this kink without any specific reason, simply seeking to explore their more primal instincts.
Types of Consensual Non Consent Kinks
There are different forms of CNC kink:
- Rape Fantasy. A rapeplay fantasy is a scenario where a person imagines being involved in forced sex. It is a type of role-playing where one partner acts as the victim and the other as the aggressor. Some people also incorporate Gun Kink into these fantasies, adding an extra layer of fear and control, as the presence of a firearm heightens the intensity of the scenario.
- Somnophilia. Another form of CNC is somnophilia. This involves someone being sexually aroused by a person who is asleep or unconscious. Often called the Sleeping Beauty syndrome, arousal heightens when the sleeping person wakes up due to sexual contact.
- Blackmail. In this form, one person pretends to blackmail the other, creating a scenario of power and control within consent. Clear boundaries, limits, a safe word, and effective communication are crucial for safety and enjoyment.
- Kidnapping. This involves role-playing a scenario where someone is held or abducted against their will but within consensual terms.
- Hypnosis. This form involves putting someone in a state of hypnosis to carry out sexual or erotic acts on them.
- Selling. This type of CNC involves role-playing a scenario where the submissive is sold into sexual slavery.
- 24/7 or TPE (Total Power Exchange) Relationships. These relationships can also be considered a form of CNC. The submissive relinquishes complete control over every part of their life to the dominant.
Consensual Non-Consent kinks are part of the BDSM community. They involve intense role play where all parties agree to scenarios that depict non-consensual sex, even though full consent has been given.
These fantasies are healthy and normal expressions of your sexuality.
The Hidden Truth Behind CNC Kink
Some women may imagine consensual sex to escape worry, guilt, and self-blame. This idea suggests that women feel judged because of cultural views on women being sexually active. Therefore, thinking about being coerced into sex might free them from the anxiety of being labeled “slutty” and allow them to enjoy sex.
Researchers have explored several theories related to women’s fantasies, such as openness to sexual experiences, sexual desire, and other sexual behaviors. Studies show that women with higher levels of eroticism, more receptiveness to imagination, and positive attitudes towards sex report more arousal by thoughts of rape.
This suggests that these fantasies might reflect sexual delight and confidence rather than a desire to escape responsibility.
Overall, new studies do not support the idea that escaping responsibility is the main reason behind women’s sexual fantasies. Instead, willingness to experience and positive attitudes about sex seem to be more important factors in explaining why women have more fantasies about CNC and rape play.
Rape Fantasy VS Sexual Assault
The concepts of sexual assault and rape fantasies are separate and have different implications.
Non consensual sexual fantasies involving sex are known as rape fantasies, and they are frequently accompanied by feelings of helplessness or coercion. You may find these desires exciting, but it doesn’t always mean that you want to be sexually assaulted in real life. A number of things, such as personal sexual preferences and exposure to violent sexual stimuli, might affect such fantasies.
Non consensual sexual act imposed onto another person without their agreement constitutes sexual assault, which includes date and acquaintance rape. When a perpetrator knows the victim and engages in sexual assault, it’s known as acquaintance rape, also called date rape.
NB! It is a severe crime that may have a long term negative psychological and emotional impact on the victim.
A Rape Fantasy that Ones came True
At a summer concert, a beautiful young woman attended with a friend. They were having a great time, surrounded by a sea of people. It was dark, everyone was loud and happy, and the atmosphere was electric. After a few drinks, she lost her friend in the crowd. Her phone died, leaving her unable to reconnect.
Despite the chaos, she felt a gentle touch on her back. It felt so nice that she didn’t turn to see who it was. The rubbing continued, making her feel increasingly aroused. Suddenly, a guy behind her lifted her skirt and entered her. She pretended not to give consent, but her actions told a different story as she began to move in rhythm with him.
They shared this intense, secret moment amidst the noise and excitement of the concert. Both climaxed hard. Her screams of pleasure were drowned out by the loud music. When it was over, he kissed her neck and disappeared. This left her with a unique and unforgettable memory.
Communication and Boundaries
In CNC relationships, communication and setting boundaries are crucial. Choose a safe word that is unique and not part of the play. Avoid using “stop” or “no” as safe words since they are part of the role-play.
You and your partner can create a BDSM contract to outline activities you want or don’t want in your CNC scenes. This helps ensure clear communication and sets limits.
- Examples of activities to include are genital touching, sex toys, pinching, rope bondage, squeezing, and penetration.
- Activities to avoid might include punching, slapping, choking, spitting, and painful restraints. If you want to push boundaries, discuss them with your partner first.
Talk about what you feel comfortable with, what arouses you, and any turnoffs or soft limits. Setting respect boundaries ensures both parties agree on limits and know what to expect during play.
Effective communication is the foundation of CNC kink fantasies. It allows partners to discuss their desires and limits openly, ensuring everyone is on the same page.
Bringing up CNC with your partner
Bring up consensual non-consent (CNC) only after you and your partner have established trust. A strong foundation in your relationship is important before introducing CNC kink.
Introduce CNC to your partner gradually. Start by exploring closely related kinks. Then, slowly discuss your sexual desires and boundaries.
Clearly explain why you enjoy CNC Kink. Share how your partner can support you and the steps involved in a consensual non-consent relationship. Research CNC, its risks, and safety measures. Make sure both of you understand what CNC includes.
Choosing a safe word is a must. Use it to stop or slow down when a scene becomes too intense. After CNC activities, prioritize aftercare. Address any emotional or physical effects that arise. The dominant should show care and support for the submissive after CNC scenes or rape play.
Embrace your desires
Consensual non-consent (CNC) in BDSM can be incredibly intense and deeply rewarding when approached with care and mutual respect. Clear communication and well-defined boundaries are essential for ensuring a safe and fulfilling experience. Remember, CNC fantasies are more common than many realize, and there’s nothing wrong with exploring them in a consensual and trusted environment.
CNC scenarios allow for the exploration of power plays, offering the chance to push personal boundaries in a way that can feel both freeing and exhilarating. This can include various forms of control, from physical to emotional. For example, one way to add more intensity to CNC scenes is through Ignore Fetish, where the dominant partner purposely ignores or withholds attention from the submissive as a form of control.
In the end, CNC is about trusting each other, mutual pleasure, and enjoying the journey together. So, explore your kink, have fun, and keep discovering what excites you—both in CNC and beyond!
