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How to Practice Mindful Tantric Sex for Unforgettable Pleasure

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Tantric sex

I started by running my fingers along her arms, lightly brushing her skin. She shivered, letting out a soft moan that sent a jolt of electricity through me. Her touch was just as tender, her hands slowly exploring my chest and shoulders, each movement deliberate and filled with want. The heat between us was intense, and every gentle caress drew us closer.

With our bodies pressed close in the lotus position, I could feel her warmth and her breath soft against my lips. The tension was thick, our movements slow and deliberate, each one heightening the desire between us. I moaned softly as her hands moved lower, exploring me with a mix of tenderness and hunger.

Our connection deepened with every touch, every breath. The intensity between us kept growing, our desire palpable in the air as we stayed close, wrapped up in each other. The way her body pressed against mine, the way her hands moved, it all spoke volumes without a single word. The night stretched on, filled with soft moans and lingering touches, our bodies communicating in ways words never could. The moment felt endless, a world where nothing existed but the heat between us, building and building as we stayed lost in each other, savoring every second.

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What do you desire sex to feel like for you? Relaxing, euphoric? Do you want calmness accompanied with simultaneous earth-shattering orgasms? When it comes to the enjoyment of sexual intercourse, many people crave more than just the “pump and go” action compared to sharing a deeper connection with their significant other. To satisfy this urge, hundreds of fetishes have been invented with tantric sex being a part of this number.

While it is easy to dismiss tantric traditions as myths or lies, permit me to paint a mental picture that will show you the heights of sexual pleasure you can attain by simply choosing to practice tantric sex. Picture your bedroom with burning candles placed in every corner casting a warm glow on the room and your skin (bonus points if it they are scented) and take a whiff of the beautiful lavender scent wafting around the room.

Listen to the soothing sounds of the soft music blasting calmly from the speakers, lose your worldly cares to the rhythm coursing through you and your clothes, of course (wink). Feel your partner’s hands slowly explore your body and their tongue tease out reactions you didn’t know you could feel as you ease into their body.

Whew! We know you felt that too. Fortunately for your curious self, sexual gratification is just one of the many pleasures you will get when you explore tantric sex. Talk about a gift that keeps on giving! Come with us as we unearth the many dynamics of tantric practice including classic tantric sex position(s), breathing techniques, tantric massage and so much more. I hope you are ready to master your own body and your partner’s heart.

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The Sexual Pleasure Of Tantric Sex

Tantric sex, sometimes referred to as erotic yoga, is an ancient practice that uses sexuality in a ceremonial or yogic setting. Tantric sex has its roots in Hindu and Buddhist tantra and it can be traced back to traditional Eastern spiritual traditions of Buddhism, Taoism, and Hinduism. Tantric sexual practice history dates back at least 7,000 years and this ancient Indian practice is referenced in scriptures including the very famous Kāmasūtra.

These books (called tantras) were written in the sixth century and they explain methods and procedures designed to produce sexual fluids, which were thought to be potent substances used in rituals. Tantra started to incorporate sexual practices for semen retention around the year 1000 as a remedy for premature ejaculation.

Examples of these practices are the hind yogic technique and the penance rite. Tantra has been reinterpreted and modernized in the West, giving rise to a number of forms, including Black Tantra (manifests changes outside the practitioner), Pink Tantra (focuses on couples), Red Tantra (which involves physical practices with another), and White Tantra (involves meditation and visualization).

The psychology behind tantric sex involves an intense combination of spiritual and emotional connection with intimate physical contact. The idea of mindfulness, which centers on the present moment and increases awareness of one’s own body and partner’s energy, is fundamental to this practice as well as the following important aspects:

Intimacy and Connection

Tantric sex goes beyond simple physical pleasure to create a deep sense of intimacy. It promotes emotional openness and vulnerability, which helps couples connect more deeply.

Mindfulness and Presence

To encourage mindfulness, tantric sex enthusiasts make calm, intentional movements, regulate their breathing, and maintain eye contact. This attention to the here and now might result in more gratifying experiences and enhanced senses.

Neural Direction

Because tantric practices are rhythmic, they can synchronize brain activity between couples, enhancing emotions of transcendence and unification through a shared experience.

Freedom from Expectations

Tantric sex is not goal-oriented, in contrast to traditional sexual interactions. This change encourages a more laid-back and pleasurable encounter by enabling people to discover intimacy without the strain of experiencing an orgasm.

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How To Practice Tantric Sex

Like any other fetish, tantric sex has to be accompanied by mutual consent and respect for your partner’s body autonomy. To effectively practice tantra, here are a few tips and tricks to guide you:

1. Establish a Safe Space

Pick a peaceful, distraction-free setting. Use cozy furniture, scented candles, and soft lighting to create the ideal atmosphere. Choosing a massage candle, which melts at a lower temperature than conventional candles and is composed of body-safe waxes such as soy or vegetable blends, is the key to selecting the ideal scented candles for you.

If you have sensitive skin, look for moisturizing ingredients like shea butter, coconut oil, and essential oils. Stay away from candles with “hot” or “warm” oils and candles formulated with toxic ingredients. Scents such as lavender, vanilla, bergamot, and passion fruit can contribute to the calming, sensual atmosphere of tantric activities, so be on the lookout!

2. Mindful Breathing and Eye Gazing

Concentrate on meditation, and coordinated, deep breathing with your partner. This improves connection and helps you stay rooted in the here and now. Face each other while seated, making eye contact. This brings your energies into harmony and fosters connection.

3. Intentional and Slow Exploration

Apply light, and continuous pressure. Begin by examining non-sexual regions of each other’s bodies, being totally present as you go. Prior to starting, talk about your expectations, such as more pleasure or a closer connection. Instead of racing towards an orgasm, concentrate on the journey. Tantric sex is a lot more than just penetrative sex. Enjoy the feelings, spiritual awakening and the deep connection you have during the experience.

4. Tantric sex positions

The following are a few of the most popular and useful ones to try:

  • Yab Yum Position: In this exercise, one partner sits cross-legged, and the other faces them from their lap, putting their legs around the waist of their seated spouse. Deep closeness, eye contact, and coordinated breathing are made possible as a result.

  • Lotus: This is a variation on Yab-Yum in which both couples sit cross-legged and face one another. The insertive partner is encircled by the receptive partner’s legs.

  • Goddess: The insertive partner lies on their back, and the receptive partner squats over them, permitting synchronized breathing, eye contact, and pace control by the responsive partner.

  • Missionary: This is the traditional role, but with a wild twist. Look each other in the eyes, breathe in unison, and concentrate on the feelings rather than the climax.

  • Spoon: The insertive partner enters from behind, and the receptive partner rests on their side. Ths permits simple access to the genitalia for manual stimulation and skin-to-skin contact.

  • Seated Twist: Partners twirl their torsos and legs together while sitting cross-legged facing one another promoting intimacy and thorough penetration.

  • Coital Alignment Technique (CAT): This is a missionary version in which the receptive partner presses their pubic bones into her clitoris with each thrust by moving their body forward.

5. Toys and other objects

Here are some items that can be integrated:

  • Massage Oils and Candles: These can be used to enhance touch, creating a warm, sensual experience. Scented candles can also set the mood, while massage oils allow for slow, luxurious touch.

  • Feather Ticklers: A feather tickler can heighten sensitivity, teasing the skin with light, gentle strokes to build anticipation and pleasure.

  • Silk Scarves or Ropes: Soft silk scarves can be used for light bondage, restricting movement in a way that heightens other senses or enhances trust. They can also be used to blindfold, which can make every touch feel more intense.

  • Crystal or Glass Wands: These can be used for internal massage, focusing on slow, deliberate movements that align with tantric principles of prolonged pleasure.

  • Yoni Eggs: Typically made of jade or other crystals, yoni eggs can be used by those with a vulva to strengthen pelvic muscles, increasing sensitivity and enhancing sexual energy.

  • Ben Wa Balls: These small weighted balls can be inserted to stimulate the pelvic floor muscles, adding a subtle, ongoing sensation that can deepen arousal.

  • Vibrators: While tantric sex often focuses on slow, intentional movement, a vibrator can be used to stimulate areas like the clitoris or perineum, complementing the slower rhythm with added intensity.

  • Sacred Space Items: Objects like crystals, incense, or special fabrics can be used to create a sacred space, helping to focus the mind and energy on the experience.

  • Tantric Music: Playing soothing, meditative music can help set the mood and keep both partners relaxed and focused.

  • Chakra Stones: Placing chakra stones on different parts of the body can help align energy centers, enhancing the spiritual aspect of tantric sex.

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Get Your Sexual Energy Flowing By Including Tantra In Sexual Intercourse

The goal of modern tantric sex practice is to make spiritual or energetic contact while engaging in sexual activities. Tantric sex is a multidimensional technique that has developed over the ages by fusing spirituality, sexuality, and ritual. In order to stimulate sexual energy, this practice uses breathing, music, and movement practices as earlier stated.

This practice prioritizes intimacy and mindfulness over only sexual pleasure in order to reach higher realms of consciousness and connection which can dramatically improve the quality of relationships, helping it stand the test of time. These factors are further explained below:

Open communication

Talking about feelings, boundaries, and desires can’t be pushed aside in tantric sex. By encouraging partners to talk about their preferences and vulnerabilities, this approach fosters emotional honesty in a secure environment. In order for tantric exploration to be successful, trust and understanding must be developed by such communication. This can be done by regularly checking in to discuss what went well and what didn’t after tantric sex, which will further strengthen their bond and intimacy.

Intimacy Implications

Closeness, both physically and emotionally, is enhanced by tantric rituals. Couples can develop a strong sense of connection through coordinated movements, attentive breathing, and eye contact. It is also possible for couples to discover their emotional and physical strengths by focusing on being present with each other resulting in a more satisfying connection. furthermore, establishing a sacred environment for lovemaking has a ceremonial quality that improves intimacy between partners.

Improved Sex

Tantric sex changes the emphasis from getting an orgasm to savoring the intimate experience. This method teaches partners to deeply appreciate each other’s bodies and energies, which frequently results in longer, more enjoyable sexual interactions encouraging fun and exploration. This can also rekindle any relationship previously lacking excitement and passion in the bedroom and encourage more fulfilment and satisfaction as they get more attuned with each other’s bodies.

Enhanced Confidence

Tantric sex encourages openness and vulnerability. Partners gain trust in one another by discussing personal experiences together and being able to communicate their wants and anxieties without fear of criticism. Beyond the bedroom, this trust improves the dynamics of the partnership as a whole.

Strengthened Emotional Bond

Tantric sex promotes a stronger emotional connection between lovers. By emphasising mindfulness and being present, people more easily communicate their emotions and experiences, which promotes understanding and empathy. This emotional connection might result in more empathy and assistance in day-to-day interactions.

Relief from Stress, Relaxation, and Spiritual Development

Tantric meditation techniques have the potential to lessen anxiety and tension. Couples can release tension by entering a state of relaxation through deliberate, leisurely movements and deep breathing. This peaceful moment together can improve relationship happiness in general. Tantric sex is equally seen by some as a spiritual discipline that fosters progress in both relationships and the self. By exploring their values and beliefs together, a shared spiritual journey can strengthen the bond between partners.

Pushing Your Limits

Tantric sex encourages partners to step outside of their comfort zones. When people learn new things about themselves, including their sexuality, this exploration can help them become more self-aware and grow personally. Open communication about these limits can improve the bond between the two of you. Tantric sex also helps partners better understand each other’s wants and desires when it comes to sex. As a couple learns to accommodate one another’s tastes and rhythms, their sexual compatibility may increase and they may have more fulfilling interactions.

Practicing Mindfulness and Patience Everyday

Tantric sex incorporates mindfulness practices that have applications outside of the bedroom. Engaging in this sexual practice can help couples become more attentive and present in their daily interactions, which can improve their relationship’s harmony. Tantric sex also teaches couples the importance of patience by emphasizing the process rather than the result. This patience can be carried over into other aspects of the relationship, creating a dynamic that is more understanding and helpful.

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Conclusion

Tantric sex is a lovely technique that has many benefits for your relationship. You and your partner can experience intense levels of intimacy and pleasure by putting an emphasis on presence of mind, connection, and exploration. Keep in mind that tantric sex is a journey of discovery, so embrace it with an open mind and a joyful spirit. There is no “right” way to go at it, just start simple if you’re new to tantric techniques.

Truly, making space for intimacy is vital to any partnership. With care and understanding, set aside moments to rediscover one another through playful exploration. Gaze into your lover’s eyes, breathe as one and flow where your hearts lead without friction or force. By experimenting patiently in an atmosphere of trust, discern together what awakens you both until each form fits like flesh. Speak your truth openly yet gently, defining boundaries while sharing what stirs your being so comprehension grows between hands, lips and souls.

As you explore tantric practices, consider trying different sex positions,  incorporating sensory play ideas to heighten your experience or get some awesome ideas from ASMR article which can deepen your connection and make each moment even more memorable. 

Throughout your exploration, keep in touch with each other as the success of sex depends heavily on consent, mutual trust, and respect. In the end, there is much more to tantric sex than just physical enjoyment, it’s a route to increased self-awareness, spiritual development, and fulfilling relationships.

Every area of your life together can benefit from tantric sex, so enjoy the journey, discover, explore, and most importantly, enjoy yourself.

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Samuel Davis Senior Author & Content Manager
With a background in journalism and a strong interest in psychology, Samuel combines his storytelling skills with a passion for exploring kink and fetishes, crafting content that's engaging, insightful, and fun for readers.✍️📚