Cowgirl Position – Discover How to Ride Him Right

Cowgirl Position

Most people are familiar with the famous Big & Rich song “Save a Horse (Ride a Cowboy),” and the cowgirl sex position allows women to do just that. It’s a popular position because it’s more than just physically and visually stimulating…it’s also a killer way to build both intimacy and confidence. This position gives the woman more control (giddyup!), allowing her to very easily set the pace and rhythm. And the man gets to relax and experience a great view.

It’s fair to say this is one of the most popular sex positions in the world. Despite that popularity, many women feel uncertain about taking the reins and fully embracing their cowgirl desires. This guide will walk you through the basics and more advanced techniques, allowing you to maximize pleasure as you ride off (or should that be get off?) into the sunset.

What is the Cowgirl Position?

Cowgirl position is a sex position where the man lies flat on his back while the woman straddles him. During this position, she can control the speed, direction, and depth of penetration, which is always a turn-on because it’s a great change of pace and allows her to discover what feels best. And she gets to fully take control in bed, which is often a major turn-on for both partners.

Now that you know more about what cowgirl is, it’s time for the fun part: learning more about how it works!

How Does It Work?

Cowgirl starts with the man (or woman with a strap-on) lying flat on the bed. This position makes things more stable for the person on top while giving the one on the bottom a great view.

Next, the woman on top straddles her partner while facing him. This is super intimate, but it also allows her to control the rhythm and how deep her partner goes. Many women love this because it provides a powerful sense of control while letting them discover what feels best.

Plus, reverse cowgirl has as much variety of movement as you want to give it. A woman on top may sway side to side rather than just go up or down, or she might try to shake her waist. In some cases (especially if you’re doing any dom/sub play), it can be fun to stay completely still and force the partner on the bottom to do all the thrusting.

While cowgirl is mostly associated with vaginal sex, it’s also a great position for anal sex. Because the woman on top controls depth, she never has to worry about her partner going too deep inside of her and causing unwanted pain.

Cowgirl Position From Her Angle

For women, cowgirl is fun because they can experiment with different movements. This includes bouncing, grinding, making circular motions, or anything else you can think of. All of this adds up to more stimulation, which is why women love this position so much.

If you watch much pornography, you’ve likely seen plenty of women engaging in the traditional cowgirl position. Fair warning: bouncing may not always be as pleasurable as it appears in porn and might not provide the most effective stimulation, but it’s still worth experimenting slowly and cautiously. As with all sex positions, you should ensure your vagina is wet or well-lubricated to enhance comfort and improve the experience.

In most cases, grinding during cowgirl sex is insanely pleasurable. By leaning slightly forward (use your hands for support as needed) and moving your hips, you can stimulate your clitoris and even your G-spot. This leads to plenty of pleasure and complete control (which is pretty pleasurable in and of itself). It’s not the kind of thing people normally talk about, but plenty of women who can’t easily orgasm can do so via cowgirl.

The more you try this position, the more you can try some advanced variations. This includes tracing shapes with your circular movements (try tracing an “8”!), which can feel great while giving your partner quite a show. The reason it feels great comes down to basic biology: by engaging your pelvic muscles in this way, you can increase the intensity of the experience while giving your vagina a serious Keigel workout. All that pelvic tightening adds extra stimulation, making the entire experience more pleasurable for both you and your partner.

Cowgirl Position from His Angle

For men, the cowgirl position is a real “win/win:” they get to feel great without doing much work, all while getting a sexy view of their partner. And he’s not always staring at what you think: sure, the sight of bouncing breasts can be pretty hypnotic, but guys also love seeing women’s faces during cowgirl. A woman’s expressions of pleasure combine with the sensual movements of her body to create images that will have a permanent home in his “spank bank.”

One advantage for men in this position is having their hands free, allowing them to add extra stimulation if desired. For instance, they can use their hands or a vibrator on the clit, making this sexy position even more pleasurable.

Another major advantage for guys is that it can be easier to keep a firm erection in this position (always a good option after he’s had a few beers). However, some guys may cum too quickly because they aren’t in control of the thrusting. If the fellow is worried about that, he can always put his hands on her hips and try to slow down the pace. Or not…after all, many women are flattered at how quickly they can make a guy lose control like this!

How To Spice Up The Cowgirl Sex Position

There are many ways to add excitement to the cowgirl position, these include:

Exploring Cowgirl Variations

As you can see, cowgirl is a sex position that men and women alike adore because it takes the pleasure of sex to the next level. Whether you’re already a fan of this sex position or looking to ride for the very first time, you should know that there are several variations of this position that all have something in common: each one feels amazing to each partner!

Reverse Cowgirl:

Arguably, reverse cowgirl is the most famous variation of this classic sex position. In reverse cowgirl, the woman on top faces away from their partner’s legs, creating a unique angle of penetration. As usual, the giver sits back and can simply enjoy the view or stimulate his partner with her favorite sex toy or simply by using his own hands. Speaking of stimulation, this position stimulates various areas depending on the curve of the erected penis for the woman and the prostate for the man.

Reverse cowgirl can even be adapted for adventurous spaces, like in a car, making it a perfect fit for those exploring Car Sex Positions. It also provides a more comfortable position for the partners who are shy or otherwise do not like eye contact during sex.

Horizontal Cowgirl:

While reverse cowgirl changes this sex position very dramatically, other variants are a bit more subtle, including horizontal cowgirl. While the traditional cowgirl position has the person on top sitting upright, the horizontal cowgirl sex offers a different angle of penetration, having the woman lean forward on the man’s chest. For women, moving the body forward in this position stimulates the G-spot more during penetration, and some find moving in this variant easier on their legs.

Squatting Cowgirl:

In addition to reverse cowgirl and horizontal cowgirl, there’s also the squatting cowgirl sex position. While squatting, the woman straddles her partner in an unconventional way by lowering herself onto him while kneeling in a split crotch position with her knees bent. This position is harder on the legs because it uses more muscles and requires more endurance, but it provides better thrusting and better control of the motion. Speaking of control, this position makes it easy to change things up by dancing, moving up and down, or just doing some old-fashioned grinding. As usual, the partner on the bottom gets to focus on the excellent view and the exquisite pleasure.

Sitting Up Cowgirl:

To try the sitting-up cowgirl, have your partner sit up with their legs either folded or stretched in front of them. It can be more comfortable to do it if they have a wall or support behind them. You then sit across their lap with both of you sitting upright, meaning neither person needs to bend for seriously intimate physical contact.

The proximity makes it easier for you to rub your clitoris against his pelvis, which is often enough to drive both of you crazy. Don’t be afraid to put him to work, though: in this position, can potentially suck on your nipples and neck while running his hands all over your body.

Incorporating Sex Toys

You might not think so at first, but cowgirl is a great position for using sex toys. This includes vibrators and cock rings. If you’re feeling kinkier, this position lends itself to some light BDSM play because it’s easy to restrain the person on the bottom while you ride. Because you control all the movement and can stop at any time, you can edge your partner while making him beg for release. Trust us: he’ll thank you later!

Safety and Precautions

Safety isn’t the sexiest topic, but mishaps during cowgirl can put an end to your naughty riding. To keep your fun times from ending early in the worst possible way, here are some tips and precautions to consider.

Communicate Clearly

Before trying this position, have an open conversation with your partner. The idea is to figure out each other’s limits and preferences before starting. If you do want to experiment with some light BDSM (like restraining the person on the bottom), now is the time to talk about it.

Keep the communication active during sex. Keep checking in with each other small adjustments, like changing speed or angle…sometimes, a small question can make a big difference in your pleasure. Constant communication also reduces the risk of any injuries or discomfort during the act.

Ensure Proper Support

When you’re on top, use your hands to maintain balance and provide extra support when leaning forward or backward. This prevents too much pressure from hitting any one part of your body.

Be mindful of your leg and hip positioning by taking breaks if you feel fatigue or cramping, and consider placing pillows or cushions under your knees or hips to reduce discomfort.

Also, it is important to help your partner by placing a pillow under their lower back if they are lying flat; This definitely makes them more comfortable and also alters the angle of penetration. That means more comfort for him and more pleasure for you!

Lubrication

You might think you’re wet enough, but it’s always good to have lube on hand. It can reduce friction, prevent discomfort, and enhance pleasure during sexual activities. Proper lubrication helps prevent irritation or chafing, especially when there’s frequent movement or pressure on sensitive areas (which is kind of the goal of cowgirl).

Lube is even more important when transitioning from vaginal penetration to anal penetration. Remember, different parts of the body are going to need more lube than others! And if you’re using a sex toy (especially a big one), lube can make insertion smoother and more enjoyable.

Grind Instead of Bouncing

In standard cowgirl, the man’s penis may slip out and can hit his partner’s pelvis or butt, both of which can be painful. To minimize risk, the rider can concentrate on grinding instead of bouncing up and down. Alternately, even gently rocking your hips can work. This reduces the chance of any unwanted slippage while offering killer clitoral stimulation.

Experiment with Other Sex Positions

Cowgirl is a popular and versatile sex position that can be easily adapted for any kinks or sexual preferences. To get the most out of it, open communication with your partner is always essential. Take the time to talk together and figure out what both of you think would be hot to try.

If you enjoy girl-on-top positions, check out our guide to the Amazon sex position

For a more laid-back option with deeper penetration, try the spooning position.

Personally, my favorite is the 69 position (nice!), perfect for giving each other what the Red Hot Chili Peppers would call “simultaneous release.”

Beyond these classic positions, explore more empowering kinks and fetishes, like the fem dom kink where she takes “girlboss” to a whole new level. Role-playing can also bring your fantasies to life, and you don’t even have to roll for initiative (unless you want to). Are you a girl into other girls? In that case, you need to check out our guide to the best lesbian sex positions. After reading up on all these naughty tips, your sex life may never be the same!