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Threesome Kink
Some sexual fantasies are more common than others. Perhaps the most common fantasy of all is having a threesome. The reason comes down to simple math…considering how fun sex can be with a single person, it’s only natural to fantasize about having twice as much pleasure with twice as many lovers.
Most who have this fantasy never get a chance to act it out. Even if they can find two people who are down for some kinky fun, they might not know how to get things started or what sexual options are available to them. We all know that knowledge is power…in this case, a little knowledge may help you make this ultimate sexual fantasy come true.
If you need guidance, you came to the right place. We’ve got the perfect guide to everything from how to have a successful threesome to how doing so can improve sexual chemistry with your current partner (no, really!). Does that mean this guide will help you finally talk your lover into bringing a third to bed? Probably, but you won’t know unless you keep reading and find out for yourself!
What Is Threesome Exactly?
Mechanically, everyone knows what a threesome is…simply put, it’s sex with three people rather than only two people. But here’s the thing: while everyone knows what a threesome is, they don’t usually know how they work, why people seek them out, and why they are as good for your relationship’s health as they are for your sexual pleasure.
If you’ll pardon us for getting a bit Zen on you, it’s best to think of a threesome as a journey rather than a destination. Most who fantasize about this think that realizing this fantasy will make their wildest sexual dreams come true. In reality, though, exploring this kink can help you and your partner discover other fantasies and other ways of strengthening the emotional bond between you. Basically, threesomes offer a unique opportunity to deepen intimacy and uncover new pleasures, from pushing boundaries to embracing fantasies.
And if having a threesome is a journey, then it must begin like all journeys do: with a single step. This guide is going to demystify threesomes, busting long-held myths and opening your mind to a world of naughty possibilities. If you and your partner go into this with an open mind, you’ll learn things about yourself that may forever change how you approach sex.
Ready to get started? That’s great news because we’re ready to help make your wildest fantasy come true.
How a Good Threesome Can Improve Your Sexual Chemistry
It’s a common misconception that one partner asking for a threesome spells the end of a relationship. This assumption comes from the idea that the person asking for this must not be satisfied with what he or she is getting from their current partner.
However, if both couples have a strong relationship and open communication, there is nothing wrong with discussing various fantasies. Maybe the other partner wants to go with it and maybe they don’t. But even if you never go beyond simply discussing the threesome, honestly and openly talking about your mutual fantasies is a great way to bring the two of you closer together.
Believe it or not, actually going through with the threesome can bring you and your partner even closer together. That’s because making the threesome happen will require extensive and intimate communication before, during, and after the act. Above and beyond the sexual pleasure the encounter provides, each of you will emerge from the experience feeling closer together than ever.
And what’s hotter than bonding over the fantasy you’ve been having your entire life?
The Difference Between Threesomes and Group Sex
You’ve certainly heard the terms “threesome” and “group sex,” and you’ve likely heard folks use the terms interchangeably because each involves adding more than one person to the bedroom. However, the terms are actually distinct: group sex involves four or more people and a threesome involves (you guessed it!) only three people.
Additionally, you should know that threesomes are far less common than porn might lead you to believe. Studies show that threesomes, despite being such a popular sexual fantasy, are actually experienced by a smaller portion of the population. How small are we talking? Only 30% of adults surveyed reported having engaged in at least one threesome. Some people are likelier to engage in threesomes than others: the same study found that 43% of sexual minorities (consisting primarily of bisexuals) had experienced a threesome versus only 21% of heterosexuals.
Threesome Variations
Once you start researching threesomes online (even if that research consists mostly of browsing Pornhub), you’ll start noticing some specialized terms. These terms describe the different kinds of threesome pairings as well as the different kinds of lovers who like to engage in them.
By understanding these terms, you and your partner will understand more about how threesomes work and how they have many different forms. Most importantly, you’ll be one step closer to discovering exactly what you want when bringing more than one person into your sex life.
MFM (Male-Male-Female) and FMF (Male-Female-Female) are the two most popular kinds of threesome configurations. They describe whether the threesome will have two males and one female or two females and one male. Pay close attention to where the letters are: MFM means that the men will have no sexual contact with each other and will focus on the woman, and FMF means the women will only sexually interact with the man
MMM (three men), FFF (three women) are pretty self-explanatory terms. These are same-sex trysts in which every partner involved is either a man or a woman.
MFF is the version of a threesome that most heterosexual guys dream of. This is when everyone sexually interacts, with the women having sex with themselves as well as the man.
FMM: This is another threesome where every participant has sex with each other. That means the men are having sex with each other as well the woman.
The Daisy Petal Threesome Position
Those who have a threesome for the first time often have a hard time knowing who should do what. Most of us have spent our whole lives having sex with only one person at a time. So when the time comes for a threesome, it takes a bit of creativity to make sure that one partner doesn’t feel left out while the other two are having fun.
Fortunately, there’s a sex position that is ideal for both FMF and MFF partners: the Daisy Petal position. Below, you’ll learn more about how this position works and what makes it so damn hot for each partner when you’re in bed.
The Women: The two women lie down close to each other, usually on their sides or backs, with their heads positioned near one another. This setup creates a “petal-like” shape when viewed from above, hence the name.
The Man: The man positions himself between the two women, often in the center or alternating between them. In an FMF threesome, this makes it easy to center attention on the man without the women having sex with each other. But the participants can exchange positions in an MFF threesome, allowing easy sexual contact between the women.
Why Are People Crazy for Threesomes?
If you ask the average guy why he loves the idea of a threesome, he’s likely to give a simple answer: two butts, four boobs. For most men and women, there’s no such thing as too much of a good thing in the bedroom, and having twice as much of everything they love about sex is a powerful incentive to make a threesome happen, especially when you’re sexually attracted to both of your partners.
Beyond general hedonism, though, there are some surprising psychological motivations for threesomes. Some people simply want to spice up their relationship by doing something new, and others do it because they want to satisfy a partner’s fantasy or just see them happy. And for a surprising number of people, having a threesome is a way of satisfying their curiosity and crossing something kinky off their sexual encounter bucket list.
At the end of the day, there are as many reasons to have a threesome as there are couples wanting to try it. Regardless of your own motivation, the tips below will help you bring this fantasy to wet and wriggling life for you and your partners.
Pre Threesome Tips
Every good threesome begins the same way: with open and honesty communication. You and your partner need to open up about your fantasies and discuss whether both of you even want to go through with this. Assuming that both of you are down to clown, plenty of further discussion is needed to figure out how you want the encounter to go.
For example, most threesomes involve a mix of genders. If you are a man asking your female partner for a threesome with another woman, it’s important to know whether she would wish to have sex with the woman or keep things entirely focused on you. That same advice applies, of course, to threesomes with two men and one woman.
There’s also the obvious question of determining who the third person in the encounter will be. Is it someone you both know, or do you want to work together in finding someone on an app like Tinder or Adultfriendfinder?
As you can tell, having a threesome involves plenty of planning. Just consider it prolonged foreplay to get you excited for the main event!
Will Having a Threesome Destroy My Relationship?
There are many misconceptions about threesomes. Some believe they damage relationships, lead to jealousy, are only for the daring, lack emotional connection, are always spontaneous, and are a sign of unhappy relationships. In reality, threesomes can enrich relationships when approached with mutual consent and open discussion (yes, even if you’re married). Emotional connection and fulfilling relationships come from considering each person’s wants and boundaries.
Like most things in life, you’ll get out of a threesome what you put into it. Respect, communication, and preparation are essential for a happy encounter. Studies show that the benefits include fulfilling fantasies, discovering new sexual sensations, and enhancing partner communication. And it’s ultimately up to you and your partner whether this will be a one-off kinky event of a regular part of your ongoing sexual dynamic.
Crucial Things to Consider Before Entering a Threesome
Let’s say that you and your partner have talked it out and are down for a threesome. Even beyond your open discussion and mutually enthusiastic consent for the idea, there are a few things you need to consider before getting started.
A number of things, such as changing views on sex, cultural norms, and the desire to experiment with non-monogamous play in a stigma-free setting, can affect a person’s decision to join a threesome. If your partner doesn’t love the idea of a threesome, this may be why, and these concerns may affect someone else’s willingness to join a couple in the bedroom.
While couples can benefit from threesomes, such as more intimacy and communication, it’s vital to be mindful of any possible concerns, such as the increased risk of infections and jealousy. Many people belatedly discover that they cannot effectively separate physical sensations and emotions and end up developing feelings for the third person that might disrupt the relationship. When a threesome does drive a couple apart, this is usually the reason why.
The misconception that threesomes always break relationships is one of the most popular misconceptions. In reality, they can enhance ties rather than weaken them when handled respectfully, with permission, and with well-defined boundaries. It’s not about throwing caution to the wind but instead about creating a shared, positive experience that makes everyone feel content and connected.
Despite what many people think, threesomes aren’t only for extremely kinky people. Actually, plenty of people have very similar fantasies about threesomes just as they do about winning the lottery or traveling to a tropical destination. Fortunately, it’s much easier to arrange a threesome than win the lottery.
Still hung up on why you or anyone else might want a threesome? Remember that motivations are a bit like pizza toppings: everyone enjoys different things and has their own reason for doing so. Some people want to experience excitement and adventure, while others want to experiment with BDSM or just liven up the bedroom. As with pizza toppings, some people enjoy traditional pepperoni, while others prefer pineapple.
Additionally, keep in mind that when it comes to trio sex, mutual respect is the secret ingredient that makes threesomes delicious for everyone involved, communication is essential, and consent is the priority.
Role-Play Scenarios You Can Practice with Your Partner(s) Today
For many who fantasize about it, actually having a threesome will be exciting enough. However, if you’re a veteran kinkster or just someone who likes to plan scenes, here’s some good news: a good role-play fantasy works just as well for threesomes as for couples. And we’ve got a few ideas below to help you add even more heat to the hottest fantasy of your life.
Caught in the Act
Imagine a couple having sex in public (hello candaulism kink!) and being discovered by a higher authority. They decide to carry on with their naughty actions in front of the authority who is watching in order to stay out of trouble, which sets up an exciting and daring scene that is filled with spontaneity and excitement. Plus, this is a great excuse to put someone in a police uniform, and he might have to use those handcuffs before you know it.
After School Special
Picture two female students who have been sent to detention and a seductive teacher who administers a quiz where every incorrect answer results in a piece of clothing getting removed from the body of the students ultimately leading to naughty sex between all three participants. Sure, it’s taboo, but the best roleplaying scenarios usually are!
Blindfold Bluff
Indulge in a situation where one or more lovers are blindfolded to heighten their arousal and excitement. This scenario adds a sense of surprise and mystery for everyone involved. Plus, this is a great opportunity for you to discover the pleasure of sensory play during sex even as your partners both explore your body.
A Spontaneous Gym Hookup
Imagine a scenario in a gym’s changing room where three men (or three women), after a tough workout, find themselves alone and the tension begins to build. What starts as casual conversation about their routines and progress quickly turns into something much more intense. The confined space and steamy sauna atmosphere create the perfect setting for them to explore their curiosity and desires. As they strip off their workout clothes, the situation escalates into a spontaneous unforgettable sex, that blends their mutual attraction with the excitement of being in such a public, yet private, space.
CNC Play
One of the most taboo fantasies is Consensual Non Consent Kink in which a submissive woman is kidnapped, restrained, and forced to carry out a series of sexual tasks. This scenario can be particularly exciting if everyone is already into BDSM, and a threesome provides a chance for even spicier scenarios (like a woman being ravaged by some moving men who overpower her in her own home).
Boundaries Are A Love Language
Boundaries serve as both your and other partners’ navigational guides. It’s crucial to make sure that everyone’s needs are satisfied and respected when negotiating these boundaries, much like when choosing between rest periods and pit stops. Recall that the key is to work as a team and to ensure that each person feels heard and respected and manages to “come” to their road trip destination.
Establishing a cozy environment is similar to selecting the ideal music for your sexual commute – ensure that everyone feels included, set the tone, and maintain open lines of communication. Put safety first by having honest conversations about health issues and safe sex practices, just as you would before getting behind the wheel of your car.
And don’t forget to have fun on the journey! Maintain open channels of communication, check in frequently to see whether everyone is still in agreement on your map (boundaries), and most of all, enjoy yourselves while you explore each other’s bodies.
Three’s a Party, and You’re Invited
Trust us: there are few things hotter than a good threesome. But making it good happens long before you start having sex. And unexpected things can happen to even the best-planned tryst. That’s why self-awareness, clear communication, and trust between all lovers is vitally important, especially during sex itself.
Remember that road trip metaphor from before? With a threesome, you need to agree on the itinerary, set ground rules, and make sure everyone’s comfortable. By staying respectful and open-minded, you can turn a potentially rough trip into a smooth one full of memorable moments and shared laughter. So, grab a seat, talk openly, and remember that the key components of a threesome are thoughtfulness, curiosity, and just the right amount of sexual chemistry to keep things exciting.
