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The Reverse Missionary
Is the missionary position not really doing it for you anymore? Or do you simply want to shake things up a bit? Then trying the reverse missionary sex position could be a great option for you!
Reverse missionary is an exciting twist on the traditional missionary position. It provides new angles and amazing clitoral stimulation. This position is great for couples wanting to try something new.
In this article, we’ll cover how to perform the reverse missionary, its benefits, and tips to enhance your experience.
What Is the Reverse Missionary Position?
The reverse missionary position, sometimes called the inverted missionary position, is a twist on the classic missionary position.
Instead of the person with a vulva being on the bottom, they’re on top. The person with a penis or sex toy lies on the bottom. It’s essentially flipping the traditional dynamic.
You might be thinking: “Isn’t that just the cowgirl position?” Well, it’s similar, but there are some differences.
The penetrating partner opens their legs, and the receiving partner lies between their lover’s legs. The receiving partner puts their legs straight out behind them, just like the penis owner would if they were on top. The penetrating partner enters their lover either vaginally or anally.
In my experience, this can be a little bit trickier to navigate than the traditional missionary position. But once you’ve got the hang of it, it’s fantastic!
The versatility of the reverse missionary makes it a great position for any adult, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.
It’s a fun option whether you’re with a long-term partner or in a new relationship.
Why Do People Like the Reverse Missionary Sex Position?
There are lots of reasons people enjoy this sex position. Some of them are probably obvious, others less so. Let’s take a closer look together.
It Feels Good
One of the main reasons people love this position is because it feels good for both partners!
You can vary things between shallow, targeted penetration, and deeper penetration. It’s also ideal for G-spot stimulation.
I find that this position is particularly good for clitoral stimulation. I also like that when you’re on top as the receiving partner, it gives you quite a bit of control. That can be exciting for both partners.
The reverse missionary position is perfect for exploring new sensations. It offers angles that are a bit different than other woman-on-top positions like the cowgirl position.
Accessible and Inclusive
This sex position is a fantastic option for a wide range of people. It’s inclusive for couples of any gender, with any body parts, and of any sexual orientation.
You can have vaginal or anal sex in this position. You can have penetrative sex with a penis owner or use strap-on toys. There are so many options! At KYS, we love a position that’s inclusive of all.
As a disabled woman, I love that this position is inclusive and low-impact! You don’t have to be bouncing all over the place as the receiver for it to feel good. It’s more about grinding and slow, intense pleasure – and who doesn’t love that?!
If the penetrating partner has back pain or is disabled, the inverted missionary is a perfect option. It lets them lie back and rest their back. For extra support, I recommend placing pillows where they’re needed, such as under their lower back.
The disability magazine ‘Disability Horizons‘ explains that positions that involve lying down can also be excellent for those who struggle with fatigue. That’s because it lets you reserve energy while also having the fun you deserve!
If you have a tilted cervix or suffer from chronic pelvic pain during sex, this position may be more suitable for you because it allows you to focus on more shallow penetration if you prefer. It also gives you more control over the depth, angle, and pace of the thrusting as the receiver.
This is also a fantastic choice if the penetrating partner is larger or heavier than the receiving partner.
Building Intimacy
I find that the inverted missionary allows for a much more romantic and intimate connection than many other woman on top positions. You’re very close to one another with your bodies fully pressed together. You can maintain eye contact and focus on a slower, passionate pace.
This position can strengthen the emotional connection between you and your partner. Plus, the increased physical contact just feels really good!
Role Reversal
The role reversal during the inverted missionary can add an element of vulnerability and exploration. This can really add to your sexual experience.
It can be exciting for the penetrating partner to have less control and do less of the ‘work’ in this position. Being on top can allow the receiving partner to feel more in control of both their own and their partner’s pleasure.
In cisgender heterosexual relationships, this role reversal can be particularly exhilarating as it challenges the idea of traditional gender roles. As a disabled woman, being on top and being the one in control can feel empowering! It’s fun to explore these additional emotions and experiences through sex.
Exploring Dominance and Submission
If you’re into BDSM, engaging in reverse missionary can add to dominance and submission dynamics by allowing partners to explore their roles more freely. This position allows the receiving partner to be more dominant, which can be fun.
Research suggests that exploring these power dynamics can also be about enhancing trust and building stronger connections. If you like spicing things up in the bedroom, trying new positions like this is also a great time to explore other kinks and fetishes.
How to Perform the Reverse Missionary Position
Positioning for the reverse missionary is straightforward but requires coordination.
Start with the penetrating partner lying on their back with their legs spread. The receiving partner then lies on top, between their partner’s legs. The receiving partner can lift one left or you can maneuver together until the penetrating partner can enter their lover.
This way can be tricky though, and isn’t how I would personally recommend getting into position. I find it much easier to just start in the cowgirl position. Then I straighten my legs and have my partner open theirs until we’re in the right position.
Some people like to start out in the missionary position and then ‘flip’ their partner over and rearrange themselves into the inverted missionary position. This takes quite a bit of strength. If the receiving partner is plus-sized like me, it might not be the best method (depending on the strength of the ‘giver’, of course).
Once in position, the penetrating partner can bend their knees for better leverage. The person on top can bounce, wiggle, and grind to enhance pleasure.
You can make adjustments to make sure you’re both comfortable and enjoying the experience.
What Does the Woman Do in the Reverse Missionary Position?
The receiving partner is on top in this sex position. They lie between their partner’s legs with their legs straight out.
They are the ones in control with the inverted missionary, so they grind and move in a way that feels good for both partners.
What Does the Guy Do in the Reverse Missionary Position?
The penetrating partner lies on their back with their legs slightly bent and open. Essentially, they lie back and enjoy! They can also move their hips in time with their partner, which can increase pleasure.
They have their hands free to support their partner or explore their partner’s body.
Top Tips for Enhancing Your Inverted Missionary Experience
If you’re ready to give the inverted missionary a try, I’ve included some top tips to guide you:
Chat with your partner first – communication and consent are always crucial.
Use protection (think condoms if needed), especially if you’re not in a monogamous relationship.
The penetrating partner can fondle and caress to amplify sensations.
Consider adding in sex toys. You could use a small vibrator during grinding, a cock ring on a penis owner, or a butt plug for some enhanced anal play.
Talking dirty and integrating techniques like edging can prolong pleasure and maintain high intimacy levels.
I highly recommend the receiving partner rotating their hips if they’re able to enhance the grinding experience – it feels so good!
Consider using lube or condoms with ridges and other textures to introduce new sensations.
Use supportive items like rolled towels or pillows to help maintain proper posture and reduce strain on the hips and back.
Take breaks and make any necessary adjustments to prevent discomfort. Communicating your needs during sex is not ruining the mood – sex is supposed to feel good, not uncomfortable.
If a partner experiences excessive strain, pause and adjust the position or switch to a different one.
Similar Sex Positions to Explore
If you like the idea of the inverted missionary, you might find you love other similar sex positions. I’ve included some of my favorite alternatives below.
Cowgirl
Of course, I had to include the classic cowgirl position. This is a favorite for many couples and is another one where the receiver is on top.
With this position, the receiver straddles their partner and sits upright. The penetrating partner lies on their back.
The person on top can grind and bounce to their heart’s content. They can lean forward or back to change up angles and add new sensations.
Just like with the reverse missionary, this allows the receiving partner to be in control. It can lead to intense clitoral and G-spot stimulation.
Reverse Cowgirl
The reverse cowgirl works the same as the cowgirl, except the receiving partner faces away from their lover. This allows for interesting new angles and plenty of shared pleasure.
One of my favorite things about this position as the receiver is that you can lean forward while riding your partner and enjoy being spanked!
Helicopter Position
The helicopter sex position, named for its resemblance to a helicopter, is popular among thrill-seeking couples. It’s also known as the bumper cars position.
The partner who is going to be penetrated supports their weight with their elbows and knees, with their butt tilted up in the air. The penetrating partner faces the opposite way. They position themselves on top of their lover (think top to tail). They balance on their hands and rest their hips over their partner’s butt.
Bridge Sex Position
In the bridge position, the receiver either sits on a sturdy surface (like a table) with their butt near the edge. The penetrating partner stands in front of them, between their legs. Or one partner kneels or stands to penetrate, while the other forms a bridge by placing their feet and hands on the bed, lifting their hips. This elevated position provides an fantastic visual and tactile experience, with deep penetrations and captivating views.
The receiver can wrap their legs around their partner’s waist (that’s my favorite option). Or you could rest your ankles on your partner’s shoulders or arch your back – you can play around to see what feels good.
The Irish Garden
The Irish garden position is similar to the reverse missionary, except the receiving partner is on top and facing away from their partner.
Both partners are still lying down, but this time the receiving partner’s legs go to either side of their partner’s hips. The penetrating partner can prop themselves up slightly to get a better view of their lover and offer support.
Final Thoughts: Switching It Up Is Fun!
The reverse missionary is a great way to spice things up. It’s fantastic for both beginners and those who are more advanced in the bedroom. It’s also incredibly inclusive, which is what we like to see!
If you fancy trying the inverted missionary, go for it! Start exploring and enjoy discovering new levels of intimacy and pleasure.
