“Most women, in my experience, have occasional “lesbian fantasies,” sexual imaginings that involve other women. They experience these fantasies even if their real lives are predominantly or entirely into heterosexual sex.
Some women accept these images as naturally as their own female anatomy, (of course women think about other women), others see them as raising questions about their own possible bisexuality, while still others worry, wondering if thinking about it means they truly desire it.
Women’s secret thoughts about other women are a mystery within a mystery, and it’s a topic I’d like to explore later. For now, these lesbian sex positions and oral sex positions mentioned below come from lesbians, women who embrace and act on their attraction to other women.”
Welcome to the L Sex Blog!
Allow me to share with you a few best lesbian sex positions, both for penetrative sex and clitoral stimulation, that your sex life will only benefit from.
Whether you’re new to sex with a woman and seeking advice or have years of experience and want to become a bit better, these expert recommended positions will help you and your partner reach orgasm together and overall improve your lesbian sex experience.
In this article, we’ll explore how to get wet quickly and master fingering and licking techniques.
“But where do we start?” Great question! From classic scissors position to experimenting with a pillow, think of it as a treasure hunt for pleasure. Each position is here to offer new sensations and deeper connection.
Why Lesbian Sex Positions Feel so Damn Incredible
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If you ask me, lesbian sex isn’t just great, it’s mind-blowing! Lesbian sex positions focuses on what genuinely feels good—like, really good, like eye contact, clitoral stimulation, plenty of body contact, and deep emotional connection.
Plus, with the freedom to explore and experiment, you’re bound to discover what really drives you wild.
Many myths about lesbian sex can skew our perceptions. A common one is that scissoring or using sex toy like strap ons is the only way to enjoy lesbian sex. Another misconception is that one partner must take on a “male” role for true satisfaction.
These ideas are far from the truth.
Ok, enough of the talk, let’s get to the juice! As a true lesbian, I’ve put together the best proven orgasmic positions sex toy free, but first, let’s focus on a foreplay and where to start.
Tips for Starting Lesbian Foreplay
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Before we get to the positions, whether she’s your date, wife, or part of a threesome, setting the right atmosphere can make the experience unforgettable. Take your time and plan everything step by step for an unforgettable experience. I’ll suggest using these easy and basic steps to start:
Create a Romantic Atmosphere
Light some candles, use gentle scents, and have massage oils ready. Think of soft lighting and romantic music.
Plan a Dinner
Organize or suggest making dinner together. Everyone’s happier when they’re not hungry. Plus, cooking together can be fun and romantic.
Personal Hygiene
Clean yourself well, wax or shave as you prefer, and ensure fresh breath and clean underwear. Feeling fresh boosts confidence. If using a sex toy, make sure to wash it too.
Arousal Tips
Start with slow, teasing kisses. Use your hands to explore her body gently, focusing on erogenous zones. Whisper sweet or sexy things to build arousal. Incorporate a sensual massage with warm oils, paying special attention to areas like the neck, shoulders, and inner thighs. Think of it as a slow temptation, building up gradually.
Set the Mood Emotionally
Compliment her, tell her what you love about her. Make her feel cherished and desired.
Incorporate Playful Elements
Bring in some fun elements like a playful game or blindfolds if you’re comfortable. A little mystery can sometimes heighten excitement.
Now that we’ve covered some important starting tips lets get to what we are here for.
Top 10 Best Lesbian Sex Positions (Without Sex Toys)
1. Standing Rear Entry
In this lesbian sex position, giving partner should stand behind her and use their hands to pleasure her. You can start by gently caressing her back, hips, and thighs, building arousal. Then, try running your fingers lightly over her skin, teasing her with soft touches before gradually increasing pressure.
As you explore, consider variety of touches. Try rubbing her lower back or the back of her neck for a change. You can also experiment with different speeds and rhythms, alternating between slow, sensual strokes and quicker, more intense movements.
Don’t be afraid to be creative! You can incorporate massage techniques like kneading or circular motions to stimulate her muscles and relax her body further. Or, try gently scratching her back with your nails for a shivering sensation.
2. Face to Face
In this lesbian sex position you could either have stand on the bed with your knee bent or lay on your left or right sides face to face. Just make sure partner’s face is in front of yours where you mutually masturbate each other.
Make sure to look her in the eyes. As you meet each other’s eyes, you may have profound, meaningful talks without speaking a word. One leg may even be slung over the other while yours entwine. You may also create waves of pleasure by rubbing your clitorises against one other or your partner’s thigh. It’s slow, intentional, and very connected. Share a laugh, appreciate the quiet, or whisper some sweet nothings to each other.
When you’re close enough, you can almost feel the pulse, respiration, and little motions of your partner’s body. It’s a full-body affair, not only genital. In this position, you may feel the warmth and closeness of your partner, that stays with you even after the experience has ended.
3. Queening
Queening, also known as “throne” or “face-sitting,” is one of the best lesbian sex positions, in which one of you sits on the face of the other. In this position one partner lie on their back, often on a soft, supportive flat surface such as bed. The “queen,” partner, position her clit on a partner’s mouth and performs oral sex.
One of the most exciting parts about this sex position is the element of control. The top partner or queen is controlling the pace and pressure. Being in charge can feel very impowering. Similarly, the giving partner is totally focused on making you happy, which is a very satisfying setting, don’t you think? With both giving partner and receiving partner hands free, think of what else you can do to each other with your hands, like caressing her face, grabbing her hair, touch her butt and breasts.
4. The 69
One of the most popular positions among queer women is the traditional 69. In this lesbian sex position both partner’s mouth should be on other partner’s clitoris. Mmm yum! One partner could be on the lying on their back and the other positions on top, switch roles occasionally if your neck got tired.
Each touch and each lick fills you with pleasure, deepening the chemistry between you. I’ll suggest to express your enjoyment with soft moans or gentle squeezes. Let every touch speak for you, saying more than words ever could.
And don’t forget the funny moments. One day she might kick you while setting up 69, just laugh about it. It’s about enjoying the experience together, going on an intimate adventure, and cherish every moment. The 69 position is a perfect position for those who want to give and receive in a sensual, reciprocal way.
5. The Scissors
The Scissors is a favorite and one of the best lesbian sex positions. In this sex position you should be facing each other. With both of the partner lying on their sides and forming a crisscross pattern. Because of this, you are able to directly stimulate partner’s clitoris by pressing your vulvas together.
Instead of focusing on penetrative sex as in more conventional positions, the emphasis here is on pressure and friction. If you wish it would go slow or quick, no problem. You may adjust the tempo and amplitude. The advantage of this position is that it guarantees that both partners get equal attention to clitoral stimulation which is fantastic.
This position is super personal. . When you’re face to face, you may look into each other’s eyes, hold each other, touch, caress and find a rhythm. You may even massage each other’s thighs while still enjoying continual clitoral stimulation.
And yes sometimes you’ll be laughing at silly noises your bodies makes and that will also be a part of a unique and very intimate experience.
6. Tribbing
Another classic sex position among queer women is tribbing. Tribadism or tribbing refers to a sex position that involves two women (or people with vulvas) rubbing their genitals together for pleasure. Although it’s commonly referred to as “lesbian tribbing”, it can be done with partners of any sexuality and gender identity – be it bisexual, pansexual, queer, or any other LGBTQ+ identity.
It is also tribbing if the vulva is rubbing against a partner’s thigh, stomach or any other body part. There’s no right way to trib. The main thing is to find the position that works for both of you. One partner may be resting on their stomach, while the other partner tribs them from behind. Or one partner lying on their side or on their stomach being stimulated by the other.
7. The Slider
Comfortable and personal, the Slider is another great sex position. Have your partner sit on your lap but instead of doing anything fancy, just lube up your fingers, make a V shape with your fingers (from index finger to pinkie) and slide them along either side of their clitoris and over their vulva. Use long, slow, consistent strokes for a slow build to huge orgasm.
Because of the nature of this face to face position it promotes eye contact, smiles, and kisses within your reach. Being so close to each other leaves space for whispering, soft bites, face and neck kissing in addition to clitoral stimulation.
8. The Daily Grind
If you both enjoy the kind of orgasm that come from rubbing or grinding against something, this lesbian sex position is an amazing opportunity that create another situation where you can mutually masturbate with hand grind.
To get into this position both partner kneels with hands filled with lube and cup it under your girl’s vulva, while she does the same for you. As you get more turned on thrusting against their hand, you can feel their body responding to your hand and, well, it’s pretty effing heady. Turn your heads to look at each other to make it even more intimate. Another more comfy option would be to try lying face down side-by-side and look at each other while fingering.
9. The Laconic Lounger
If you’re looking for a comfortable and intimate lesbian sex position that prioritizes rubbing and connection, try the Laconic Lounger. Its Ideal for those calm nights when you just want to be close or for those sleepy Sunday mornings.
Picture yourself and your partner lounging on a plush sofa, with one of you nestled between the other’s legs spread. To get into this position have your partner lie on their back, kneel between their legs and draw slow circles around their clitoris with one hand. Because of closeness, access to different erogenous zones is easier. Use your free hand to massage their breasts.
This position can also be elevated with a sex wedge under their upper back. In addition the person laying down can be blindfolded while the giving partner uses ice play, candle wax, and feathers for sensation play.
10. The Curious Cat
This is a great position for anal sex and penetrative sex lovers. In this sex position, have your partner get on all fours. Gently and slowly, use lubricant to finger their anus with your thumb while simultaneously stimulating their vagina with your index finger. Apply pressure by bringing your two fingers together from opposite directions inside of them to create an incredible feeling for them via internal stimulation. Then, with your spare hand, play with their nipples or lips. Remember, when I mentioned being a curious cat, I mean switch on your curiosity fully.
For a vaginal penetration option, try exploring some deeper penetration reaching for her G-spot, or try rubbing her clit simultaneously, if she’s into it. Don’t forget to pay attention to her reactions. But keep checking in to make sure she’s loving it!
More Tips to Enjoy Lesbian Sex
Know Your Anatomy. Understanding the vulva and clitoris is essential for ensuring pleasure. Many people are not well-versed in this part of the body.
Communicate Preferences. Discussing likes and dislikes with your partner is crucial. Not everyone enjoys the same things, so communication ensures mutual pleasure.
Be Honest and Open. If you’re new to lesbian sex, sharing your feelings and anxieties with your partner can enhance the experience. Honest communication helps both partners understand how to please each other.
Discuss Safe Sex Practices. Safe sex is important in lesbian relationships too. Talk about using dental dams for oral sex, latex gloves, finger cots for digital stimulation, and condoms on toys to ensure comfort and safety.
Focus on Foreplay. Start with foreplay, including kissing, touching, and teasing, builds arousal and ensures both partners are fully engaged and ready.
Use Lubricants. High-quality lubricantscan enhance sensations and make every touch more pleasurable.
Explore Different Positions. Experiment with various positions to find what feels best. Each position can offer unique sensations and intimacy.
Incorporate Toys. I am personally not a fan but you may try vibrators, dildos, and other toys can add extra stimulation and variety to your sex life.
Practice Mindfulness. Being present in the moment and focusing on the sensations can enhance the experience and increase the chances of orgasm.
Mutual Masturbation: Watching each other can be incredibly sexy and a great way to learn what your partner enjoy, mutual fingering is a must try as well.
How to Lick Like a Goddess in Oral Sex
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When it comes to licking and fingering, mastering the techniques can take your intimate experiences to the next level. Here’s a detailed guide to help you out:
Licking Tips
Hygiene Matters: Freshen up before diving in. Clean hands, trimmed nails are essential. (lesbians know)
Start Slow: Begin by kissing and teasing the surrounding areas. Start with gentle kisses on the inner thighs and around the vulva. This builds anticipation and temptation.
Focus on the Clitoral Hood:
Technique: Use the flat side of your tongue for broad strokes. Start with slow, gentle licks up and down the vulva, avoiding direct contact with the clitoris initially.
Move to the Clitoral Hood: Gradually move to the clitoral hood. Use the tip of your tongue to make small circles around it. This can build arousal without overwhelming sensitivity.
Swirling Motion: Try swirling your tongue in a figure-eight pattern over the hood. This variation can provide a mix of sensations.
Mix It Up:
Different Strokes: Alternate between long, slow licks and short, quick flicks. Use the flat of your tongue for broader strokes and the tip for more focused stimulation.
Pressure Variations: Apply different levels of pressure. Start light and gradually increase based on your partner’s reactions. Use the underside of your tongue for a softer touch and the top for firmer pressure.
Tongue Side: The underside of the tongue can be softer and more flexible, providing a different texture and sensation compared to the top side, which is firmer.
Communicate: Check in with your partner. Ask if they like what you’re doing and if they want more or less pressure. Pay attention to their body language and sounds for cues. Consistency is key once you find what works.
Fingering Tips
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Start Slow and Shallow:
Caressing: Begin by gently caressing the entire vulva. Use your fingertips to lightly trace around the labia and over the clitoris without applying too much pressure.
Initial Insertion: When ready, gently insert one finger into the vagina. Let it rest inside for a moment to feel the textures and warmth.
Introduce a Second Finger:
Stretching: If comfortable, add a second finger. Gently stretch the vaginal opening slightly. Use a “come here” motion to target the G-spot, which is located on the front wall of the vagina about two inches in.
Technique: Curl your fingers upward and apply gentle pressure. Move your fingers in a steady rhythm, varying the speed and pressure to see what feels best.
Play with Pressure and Rhythm:
Pressure: Experiment with different pressure points. Light pressure can tease and build arousal, while firmer pressure can provide deeper stimulation.
Rhythm: Start with slow, deliberate strokes. Gradually increase the tempo as your partner’s arousal builds. Consistent rhythm can help maintain and build arousal.
Get Creative:
Free Hand: Use your free hand to caress other erogenous zones, such as the clitoris, nipples, or inner thighs.
Oral Stimulation: Combine fingering with oral stimulation. While your fingers are inside, use your tongue to lick and suck on the clitoris.
Position Changes: Try different positions for variety. Elevate your partner’s hips with pillows or change angles to target different pleasure spots.
Oral Sex Preparations
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Before getting into the delicious world of oral sex, a little preparation can go a long way:
Start with communication. Any sex coach or sex expert will tell you that: Start with an open dialogue to your partner about what you both enjoy, any boundaries you have, and any concerns. This sets the stage for a comfortable and confident experience.
Hygiene. A quick shower or bath can make you feel fresh and ready, and it’s a considerate gesture for your partner.
If you’re concerned about STIs, consider using a dental dam or other barrier method for added safety.
Creating a comfortable space can also enhance the experience. Turn off the bright light, play some soothing music, or use aromatherapy to set a sensual mood.
Protect Your Neck. Oral sex shouldn’t be a pain in the neck. Use pillows to support your head and shoulders.
Pillow Under Hips. Lifting the receiver’s hips with a pillow makes everything easier to reach.
Sex Toys. Using sex toys in conjunction with oral stimulation can provide additional sensations and intensify sexual pleasure. Womanisers and g-spot stimulators are often favorite for this type of pleasure.
The more relaxed and comfortable you both are, the more enjoyable the oral sex experience will be.
How to Start with Lesbian Oral Sex Positions?
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Positions where one partner performs oral sex on the other can vary, offering different sensations and levels of intimacy. Let’s get into the oral sex techniques and first steps together:
First, relax. There’s no rush.
To perform oral sex start by teasing around the vulva, light kisses, slow licks, and soft touches. Don’t go straight for the clit. Think of it like cooking, you’ve got to preheat the oven. As things heat up, you can increase the intensity.
Use the flat of your tongue for broader strokes, which are typically more pleasurable than using the tip.
Try mixing long, slow licks with shorter, faster ones.
Use your hands by gently massaging the thighs or inserting fingers to stimulate the G-spot, while combining tongue and fingers can be overwhelming for some, it can be incredibly pleasurable for others
Keep checking in with your partner’s body language. If they’re pushing toward you, keep licking! You’re doing something right. If they’re pulling back, it might be time to switch things up.
Once you find the rhythm that works, stay consistent until they reach orgasm.
Final Thoughts
Trying out oral sex and different lesbian sex positions is the perfect way to bring some fun to your sex life (and maybe even skip cardio for the day!). Apart from classic lesbian sex positions, some may also enjoy gentle anal play and anal sex. If your first lesbian sex positions experience felt a bit awkward or maybe you felt unsure about the technique, don’t give up just yet.
If you think it could be more enjoyable with a little more practice or a smoother setup, it is definitely worth trying again. Like most new sexual experiences, trying new sex positions can take a bit of getting used to, and that learning curve can be part of the fun. Just make sure to prioritize what feels good and keep safety in mind at all times.
What Else is Out there?
If you’re looking for inspiration, or want to explore beyond lesbian sex positions, there are other fantastic sex positions and sexual practices to try.
Like sensual practice of Tantric sex, which focuses on both partners’ pleasure and mindful connection.
Or lesbian threesome positions. Why not get the knowledge and try some of these with two partners instead of just one?
Our article on cunnilingus positions highlights how these oral sex techniques work well for anyone, even if you’re not a lesbian!
We wish you to experiment, and maybe even try different gay kinks and positions, and most importantly—enjoy the journey!
