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Welcome to the wonderful world of cunnilingus. Excellent choice!
Lucky for you, at KYS, we’ve put together a guide on the most popular and easy-to-perform cunnilingus positions. You’ll also find explanations on why people love giving oral sex, some key cunnilingus techniques, why lesbians are often great at it, and tips on how to get started.
Our goal is to give you a better understanding of cunnilingus positions and how to enjoy them to the fullest.
What is Cunnilingus?
Cunnilingus is a fancy word for an act of orally pleasuring the vulva, in simple words the act of pussy eating. And while some are just into the act itself, others take it deeper, turning it into full-on pussy worship experience.
It comes from the Latin words cunnus (vulva) and lingua (tongue). Yes, the Romans were very into it.
They probably had frescos of people doing it—you know, art. Basically, cunnilingus is using your mouth, tongue, and sometimes hands to pleasure the vulva, especially the clitoris, and involves giving oral sex. It’s been around for centuries because, surprise! People really like it.
Great oral sex on a woman can be one of the most pleasurable experiences, but it helps to know a few things in advance.
Why Do People Love Giving Oral Sex?
Well, it’s intimate. It’s slow and sensual (if you’re doing it right). And, for many women, it’s one of the best ways to achieve orgasm!
Think about it, the clitoris, with about 8,000 nerve endings and oral sex gives it the attention it deserves. On top of that, there’s something deeply connective about focusing entirely on your woman pleasure.
In short, people love cunnilingus because it simply feels amazing and it can create a real sense of closeness.
Oral sex, unlike penetrative sex, allows you to slow down and literally savor each moment. This can lead to a more relaxed and enjoyable experience, free from the pressure of reaching a specific goal. It’s mostly about the journey, not just the destination. Moreover, experimenting with different cunnilingus sex positions can uncover new sources of pleasure for both of you.
“You could be the first to give her new sensations, what’s better than that?”
For those who struggle with orgasm or have difficulty communicating their desires, oral sex can be a pleasure bomb. It provides an opportunity to discover what feels good and to communicate that to your partner, improving both your pleasure and your connection!
“If you’re unsure, remember that a woman who has sex with another woman often know best how to approach cunnilingus due to shared anatomy.”
Why People Say That Lesbians Are Great at Oral Sex?
This one is easy to explain: a lesbian, as a woman, has the same equipment and often practice cunnilingus, so most of them know exactly where to go (with their tongue) and what to do. No one understands the complex details of a clitoral hood better than someone who has one.
They know what feels good because they’ve experienced it themselves. They’re in tune with the subtle cues: the moans, changes in breath, body movements, and even the tension in their partner’s muscles. This allows them to adjust the rhythm and pressure perfectly. Not to mention, lesbians often experiment with a variety of sex positions to find what works best and gives their female partner direct access to their most intimate parts.
This is why lesbian sex is often reported to close the orgasm gap compared to heterosexual interactions. This is likely because there’s often more focus on the clitoris, which is the main source of pleasure for most women.
In addition to that, partners are usually more in tune with each other’s needs and comfort, which makes the experience more satisfying for both.
It’s not about comparison, but rather understanding what works best for many women. In other words, experience and understanding matter.
How to Get Ready for Oral Sex
Before getting into the delicious world of oral sex positions, a little preparation can go a long way:
Start with communication. Any sex coach or sex expert will tell you that: Start with an open dialogue to your partner about what you both enjoy, any boundaries you have, and any concerns. This sets the stage for a comfortable and confident experience.
Hygiene. A quick shower or bath can make you feel fresh and ready, and it’s a considerate gesture for your partner. Some couples also take cunnilingus to the next level with fluid play, like a rainbow kiss—where the person performing oral sex on a menstruating partner kisses someone right after, mixing menstrual blood and semen in the mouth.
If you’re concerned about STIs, consider using a dental dam or other barrier method for added safety.
Creating a comfortable space can also enhance the experience. Turn off the bright light, play some soothing music, or use aromatherapy to set a sensual mood.
Protect Your Neck. Oral sex shouldn’t be a pain in the neck. Use pillows to support your head and shoulders.
Pillow Under Hips. Lifting the receiver’s hips with a pillow makes everything easier to reach.
Sex Toys. Using sex toys in conjunction with oral stimulation can provide additional sensations and intensify sexual pleasure. Womanisers and g-spot stimulators are often favorite for this type of pleasure.
The more relaxed and comfortable you both are, the more enjoyable the cunnilingus sex experience will be.
How to Start with Cunnilingus?
Cunnilingus Techniques and First Steps
First, relax. There’s no rush.
To perform cunnilingus start by teasing around the vulva, light kisses, slow licks, and soft touches. Don’t go straight for the clit. Think of it like cooking, you’ve got to preheat the oven. As things heat up, you can increase the intensity.
Use the flat of your tongue for broader strokes, which are typically more pleasurable than using the tip.
Try mixing long, slow licks with shorter, faster ones.
Use your hands by gently massaging the thighs or inserting fingers to stimulate the G-spot, while combining tongue and fingers can be overwhelming for some, it can be incredibly pleasurable for others
Keep checking in with your partner’s body language. If they’re pushing toward you, keep licking! You’re doing something right. If they’re pulling back, it might be time to switch things up.
Once you find the rhythm that works, stay consistent until they reach orgasm.
Top 11 Cunnilingus Positions:
1. Doggy Style
In this awesome oral sex position the receiver gets on all fours like in doggy style position, while the giver gets behind them. This position provide easy access to lick from behind. Besides, the receiver can lean into pillows for added comfort.
2. Heir on the Throne
In this most classic cunnilingus position, the receiver sits on a chair or lies on their back, legs spread, and the giver kneels between them. It’s like the missionary sex position of oral sex—everyone knows it, and it works. The giver has full access to the pussy, and there’s plenty of room to play with fingers or hands.
3. Closed for Business
Here’s a comfy one, the receiver keeps their legs tightly pressed together, and the giver nestles in. The pressure of the thighs against the giver’s face adds to the oral stimulation.
It’s a tighter fit, but that’s kind of the point. Positioning the legs slightly apart can also change the sensation, making the cunnilingus sex experience juicier.
4. The Ball of Fun
In this cunnilingus sex position, the receiver curls into a ball, bringing their knees toward their chest while lying on their back. This position exposes the pussy for easy access and feels more intimate due to the body curl.
Leaning forward in this position can further enrich your sex and provide better access and engagement with the female partner body.
5. David Copperfield
Here is the fun one to break your boring routine. This cunnilingus sex position is usually done in bed with a blanket for added comfort and ease.
The receiver stays comfortably under the blanket while the giver disappears into the sheets. It adds some fun and mystery, and let’s be honest, everyone likes a little bit of a surprise every now and then.
6. 69
69 is an incredibly enjoyable position for both, in the 69 position, one partner lies on their back while the other positions themselves on top, facing the opposite direction with their back toward the ceiling. The beauty of 69 is that it’s a give-and-take situation, offering mutual pleasure, incredibly erotic for both partners.
7. Seated Oral
Here is a the seated oral sex position. It’s a sort of face-sitting, but with less emphasis on the sitting part. In the Face Time position, the receiving partner can control exactly how much intensity they want by straddling their partner and pressing their vulva against their mouth, while the giving partner sits back and has their hands free to squeeze the thighs and/or masturbate during because you’re so damn hot!
8. Kivin Method
In this cunnilingus sex position, the giver lies perpendicular to the receiver, forming a “T” shape. Imagine the receiver’s body as the top line of the “T” and the giver as the vertical line.
The giver focuses on quick, short licks directly on the clitoris from the side. This sideways angle gives a different type of stimulation compared to the typical head-on approach, which can make the sensations feel more intense and varied, while also allowing for more of the vulva to be stimulated.
The Kivin Method is changing the angle for licking in oral sex!
9. Queening/Face Sitting Position
Queening is a chance for a woman or a vulva owner to ride someone’s face and be a Queen of the day! In this popular position the receiver takes full control by riding the giver’s face.
The receiver decides here how much pressure and speed they want, making it a powerful, dominant position that gives the partner direct access to pleasure both the anus and vagina.
For the giver, it’s the perfect opportunity to lie back and focus entirely on pleasing their partner, with a pure dedication to the task at hand.
10. Reverse Face Sitting Position
Reverse face-sitting is exactly what it sounds like. The giving partner lies down and the receiving partner sits on his face but facing backward. In addition to providing fun variety and backdoor access, this intimate position allows the receiver to take control of stimulation and pace.
Final Thoughts
Remember, if your first cunnilingus experience felt a bit awkward or maybe you felt unsure about the technique, don’t give up just yet.
If you think it could be more enjoyable with a little more practice or a smoother setup, it is definitely worth trying again. Like most new sexual experiences, trying new sex positions can take a bit of getting used to, and that learning curve can be part of the fun. Just make sure to prioritize what feels good and keep safety in mind at all times.
If you’re looking for inspiration, or want to explore beyond cunnilingus and oral sex, there are other fantastic sex positions and sexual practices to try.
Like sensual practice of Tantric sex, which focuses on both partners’ pleasure and mindful connection.
Or Lesbian Sex, known for its emotional deepness and sensuality. Why not get the knowledge and try some of these practices yourself?
Our article on lesbian sex positions highlights how these techniques work well for anyone, even if you’re not a lesbian!
We wish you to experiment, try different kinks and positions, and most importantly—enjoy the journey!
F.A.Q.
Do Most Cunnilingus Positions Expands?
When I say “most cunnilingus positions expand the sex experience,” I mean they offer different angles and access points to the vulva and clitoris, which can lead to varied sensations and heightened pleasure.