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The 69 Position
I met her at the door after work and she saw the desire in my eyes. She barely had time to kick off her shoes before I pulled her onto the couch, my hands hurriedly removing her clothes.
I kissed her neck, then worked my way down her body with my mouth. I savored the taste of her skin as I kissed her breasts.
With a teasing smile, she whispered, “Let’s try 69, I want to taste you“. My heart raced with excitement!
I quickly undressed and laid back with a pillow behind my head.
She climbed on top, her body perfectly positioned over mine. Her pussy was in my face and my cock was in hers.
I felt her hot breath on my shaft as I started gently teasing her with my tongue. That first touch of her tongue sent waves of pleasure through my whole body.
We became completely lost in the passion of the moment….
What Is The 69 Position?
The 69 is a sexual position that allows couples to give each other oral sex at the same time.
In this position, you and your partner face in opposite directions. That way, each person’s mouth is near the other’s genitals.
The sixty-nine can work for any two people, regardless of gender or body parts. In fact, if you check out our article on the best lesbian sex positions, you’ll find a section dedicated to the 69.
To me, the appeal of the 69 is sharing mutual pleasure and increasing intimacy. Sounds fun right? It really can be, but it can also have some challenges.
Don’t worry – we’ve got you covered. In this article, we’ll explore everything you need to know about the 69 position.
The History of the 69
You might be wondering, “Where did the 69 come from?” Well, the concept of mutual oral pleasure has been around for centuries. It’s one of the most popular ways of giving oral sex.
It’s even referenced in the Kama Sutra – an ancient Indian text that explores the art of love, relationships, and sexuality.
You’ve probably also seen it talked about in films and TV shows, like the comedy “Zack and Miri Make a Porno”, or on the show “Sex and the City.”
The Psychology of 69 – Why Oral Sex in This Position is So Popular
So, why do people love this position so much? For many, it’s because you can give your partner oral pleasure at the same time as receiving it, rather than taking turns.
For others, it’s more about the feeling of intimacy. For some, it’s even seen as a symbol of sexual equality!
In my experience, it can also be a great way to explore and try new things with your partner.
How Does the 69 Position Work?
Now we know the basics of what the 69 position is, but how does it actually work? Essentially, you arrange your bodies so that one person’s genitals are in the other person’s face so you’re free to give oral pleasure.
Being in this position can be a bit uncomfortable sometimes, especially if there’s a height difference between partners. It can also be difficult if one or both partners struggle with mobility, like I do.
Thankfully, there are lots of variations of the sixty-nine (which we’ll talk about soon). It’s all about figuring out what is most comfortable for you as a couple.
What Does the Girl Do in the 69 Position?
The 69 can look overwhelming at first, but once you’re in position, it’s no different from how you’d usually give oral sex.
If you are a person with a vagina, your partner will use their tongue on your pussy. Likewise, you’ll give your partner a blow job or cunnilingus just like you would in any other position.
What Does the Guy Do in the 69 Position?
The second partner will also give and receive oral sex the way they usually would.
You don’t just have to stick to oral when you’re 69ing. Don’t be afraid to get your hands involved or use some sex toys to enhance the experience. You could even use flavored lube to stimulate your senses.
Variations Of the 69 Sex Positions to Try
There are lots of different variations of the 69 position. I recommend trial and error to find out what is right for you.
Classic 69
The ‘classic’ is the most common variation. One person lies down on their back. The other person gets on top of them and straddles their partner’s head.
Usually, the heavier person is on the bottom. The bottom position can also be more comfortable for those with disabilities. The person on top usually has more control.
Seated 69
Since it can sometimes be weird and awkward for one person to be directly on top of the other, a more comfortable variant is the Seated 69 position. Where the receiver sits while the giver kneels on their knees in front or stands in downward dog position. The one giving pleasure can kneel on a pillow in order to protect their knees (some of us are getting old!) while pleasuring their partner.
The Pillow Lift
Using a pillow under the hips of the person on the bottom can improve alignment. It’s particularly useful for partners with height differences.
You can also use a pillow to protect your partner’s neck and ease discomfort in any 69 variation.
Sideways 69
Just like it sounds, with this variation both people lie on their sides with their faces at each other’s genitals.
The sideways 69 is my personal favorite. It’s more accessible for people with disabilities like me. It can also be comfier for partners with different body sizes.
Standing 69
If you’re physically fit and want to challenge yourself, why not try the standing 69? Yep, that’s right. One partner stands, picks up their partner, and turns them upside down! The standing partner holds onto the other – impressive!
Threesome 69
if you want to involve a third person, this is the position for you. All three people lie on their sides facing another partner’s genitals, in a triangle formation.
Things To Consider When Performing the 69 Sex Position
Here are some tips to make the 69 position work better for you:
Talk to your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t. Clear communication and consent is key.
If focusing on giving and receiving oral sex at the same time is tricky, try taking turns. There are no firm ‘rules’ – it’s about what works for you.
Experiment with different techniques to see what you like.
Add in a sex toy or even a sex swing if you really want to go all out.
You can also orally stimulate your partner’s anus to enhance pleasure. Why not try exploring different anal sex positions to make it even more exciting?
If your neck or jaw gets tired, take a break or switch positions.
Remember to use protection like condoms or dental dams if you’re not in a monogamous relationship. Oral sex can still transmit STDs.
If something doesn’t go to plan, try to laugh about it and try something else. It happens to all of us when trying something new!
Perhaps most importantly, focus on having fun rather than worrying about timing or technique. After all, that’s the whole point, right?
Final Thoughts
The 69 can lead to exploring different oral positions and sexual practices. You might even feel like exploring new kinks and fetishes to add a whole new level of excitement to your sex life.
The 69 position is about increasing intimacy and enjoying each other’s bodies. It might take some practice to get the hang of it, but with patience and experimentation, you’ll get there. In my experience, it’s well worth it!
