Ice Play

Picture this…

You and your partner are like two horny bunnies, diving into each other for some well-deserved fun. As he sucks on your neck and kisses your ears, you can’t help but moan, “Oh, shit, baby, you make me so hot.” Inspired by your reaction, he gets a brilliant idea mid-kiss; “Why don’t we try ice play?” He swiftly grabs some ice cubes from the fridge, wets them with water, and after slowly lining his lips with the ice cubes, he says, “Let’s try this again.”

Perched on top of you, he kisses down your neck with his ice-cold lips, smirking at your soft whimper. Using his skilled tongue, he slowly traces the chilled water droplets from the melting ice cube around your hardened nipples. He knows he’s doing something right when you grab his hair and moan louder. He moves lower, the ice water trailing down to your wet middle, where he plays with the ice cube around your slippery, dripping tip, stroking you with sensual intensity.

You groan, shudder, and tremble…

Welcome to Ice Play

If this scene above makes your blood rush with excitement, then ice play kink might be your thing. If you ever wondered how it feels to be tantalized with cold in the midst of heat or been curious about exploring these frosty desires or looking for new ways to turn up the chill in your play. You’re in the right place—we’ve got everything you need to know, so keep reading!

Ice Play as a Form of Temperature Play

Incorporating sensory play with ice can be a very fun and interesting way to sensualise your sex life. It is a form of temperature play, which often comes in two variations: Fire play, and Ice play. Fire play, while less used and more dangerous, is a form of BDSM play that uses the intensity from heat and warm water/liquids like lubes, honey and dripping hot wax (hello wax play!), to create sexual pleasure and intensity.

On the other hand, ice play creates chilled and icy sensations from materials like ice cubes, ice water, and even frozen/chilled sex toys made from steel and glass. It also incorporates cold drinks and food like ice cream and milkshakes (yum!), and even frozen peas. It’s easy to see the plethora of exciting ideas you can use these for.

This cold temperature play is a very astonishing kink to introduce in your sexual adventures. The frosty sensuality it offers balances up the heated intensity from great sex. It is also a genius way to include power play between you and your partner(s).

Whats Behind Sensory Ice Play?

Many sexologists and sex experts believe that temperature play attaracts because of the intense sensory experiences it offers. The contrast between a warm environment or situation, versus a cold lip, tongue, food, or ice cubes being run over a person’s skin, is enough to send chills down our backs quite literally.

Temperature play works by stimulating the nerves in our body parts, thereby increasing our blood flow, which creates more pleasure and excitement. Have you ever swum in ice-cold water? Remember how hard your nipples got when you came out of the pool? Especially if you were wearing a thin swimsuit.

Yes. That is sexy. And that is what cold temperature play tastes like.

The Role of Ice Cubes, Cold Foods/Drinks, and Sex Toys in Erotic Temperature Play

Ice cubes are some of the best materials to use when playing with cold temperature. It’s a magic wand that allows you tweak and turn it however way you want, to generate legs-shaking, fingers-digging, orgasmic pleasure from your partner.

Ice blocks can be kept in the freezer (in an ice cube tray) till it is ready for use, where you can run it over your victim’s body as you please. Cooling ointments can also be sensual when introduced into your temperature play, including cooled lubes to natural materials like massage oils.

Sex toys are very fun and very readily available for the temperature play kink. There are various sex toys made from metal/stainless steel, as well as medical-grade Pyrex glass. This kind of glass is sure not to break inside you (no one likes that), while guaranteeing you non-stop cycle of cold, erotic pleasure. If you’re feeling particularly innovative, you can even make your own ice dildo with at-home natural materials, to fit your perfect size!

These stainless steel and glass dildos, vibrators, and G-spot/P-spot stimulating toys are also great for cold temperature play because of their heavy weights, as well as their ability to retain temperature. They can be kept in freezers, or even suspended in cold water, and still be ready for use when you need that cold-hearted fuck.

Practical Ways to Engage in Icy Kink 

There are various fun and practical ways to engage in this frosty temperature play.

For Women/People with Vaginas

When using ice chips, you can run it through her erogenous zones, letting it melt along the way. From her inner thighs, ears/earlobes, behind her knees, to along her spine, on her nipples, abdomen and neck. And even inside her elbows, her feet, between her toes, etc.

Combining Hot and Cold

You can also incorporate ice for hot and cold sensations. What makes temperature play so sexy is the temperature contrast. So including a bit of fire play or warm/heated ointments, like tiger balm, hot wax/melted wax play, or plastic wrap around her, while teasing her warm pussy with an ice chip is sure to make her scream your name. You can also suck on her clit, while teasing her pussy with ice on the outside. Thereby creating a heated balance from your mouth to the chill from the ice.

Advanced Techniques

If you’re feeling extra nasty while playing, you could even spread ice cream or a cold drink all over her as you eat her out. Pour some melted wax over her body for that hot-cold contrast, and then make her eat her own cum mixed with the tasty cold food. Delicious! And don’t forget sex toys. However, it’s important to be very careful when dealing with ice inside a vagina, as it gets sharp as it melts, cutting your partner in the process. We obviously don’t want that, so it’s advisable to only use ice on the surface area/vulva, or remove it almost immediately if inside the vagina.

For men/People with penises

Consider playing with other parts of his body asides his dick, which is where most people immediately go. Explore his body parts like a canvas, and you’re the cold-hearted painter. Use the various frozen/icy items readily provided to you by the gracious sex gods- ice cubes/chips, sex toys, delicious cold meals. And let them be your foreplay, making him wet as fuck. You can also rub the ice cube around his balls as you suck on him. So the warm heat from your mouth pleasantly contrasts the coldness you’re inflicting on his testicles.

Advanced Techniques

Inversely, you can also suck on his balls, while rubbing the ice blocks around his dick. Additionally, you can put an ice chip between your teeth and play with his tip. Also, while giving him a blowjob, you can use one of your hands to stroke the ice on his dick. Watch how he rises harder and harder for you. However, be careful not to bite off more than you can chew when placing the ice chip between your teeth, in order to avoid choking. Things can go from the south pole to the north desert sooo fast and not in the good way.

Sex Toys

Sex toys are also great to use here, as a number of men love vibrators being used on them, as well as the prostrate sex toy which also comes in metal and glass forms. These icy prostrate toys can help men hit their P-spot, rewarding you with a well-deserved, heated, delicious cum-sperience.

You can also take it to a higher level and subject your victim to direct cold exposure. This refers to making them lay outside in the snowy weather. The amount of clothes, or lack of, is dependent on you, of course.

Subjecting them to this sort of environmental ice bath is one of the peaks of Ice Play. However it is also one of the most dangerous, as you have to watch your partner for hypothermia, frostbite, freezing, numbness, and even fainting. So, make sure to pay attention to your partner as you have fun.

The Story of Mel and Lisa

When playing with ice, you or your partner(s) are often subjected to having one or more of your basic senses cut off. This could appear in the form of blindfolds, earplugs, and even being bound in the air. By allowing your partner take control of how much intensity you feel, you both can learn things like surrender, acceptance, trust, and even a great sense of responsibility.

Often, parts of your body subjected to ice play may experience mild to significant numbness. How your partner handles this, knowing when to continue and when to stop, greatly influences the trust you place in them and the reassurance you feel in their presence.

For example, Mel and Lisa frequently engage in water play and ice sensation play. However, Mel thinks it’ll be a great idea for them to take it to the next level. Play in the snow. Mel subjects Lisa to being left in the freezing snow naked, and the sexual pleasure she feels is on another level. However, after a while, Lisa seems to be feeling a bit… sick. She tries to communicate, but she can’t seem to move or speak. Mel, paying attention, immediately jumps into action and protects her girl, getting Lisa out of the snow and into a warm blanket immediately. She makes her a hot cup of tea, cuddles with her, and keeps checking in to be sure that Lisa is okay.

Lisa feels better now that she’s been put in a warmer air inside, and she feels safe in Mel’s comfortable arms. She feels relieved that Mel noticed right away when she wasn’t feeling alright, and now, she trusts even deeper that Mel will always be there to get her out of trouble if any of their kinks go south again. Pun unintended.

Integral in BDSM play is trust, communication and respect, even as you disrespect their body with an icy kink. Successfully achieving these high levels of arctic sensual pleasure will help re-assert your partner’s trust in you, as well as their openness to try even more wilder, sexier, interesting kinks in the bedroom.

Consent and Safety in Ice Play

As with all forms of BDSM play, one thing is essential. Yep, you guessed right- consent. When playing with temperatures like ice, it is integral to communicate with your partner before, during and after the wild, kinky sex. Make sure you have their permission to go ahead with playing, and make sure they’re in it 100%.

While engaging in the play also check in to be sure they’re still into it. Make sure they’re alright and they do not feel sick or uncomfortable. At any sign of discomfort, stop. Pause if they get dizzy. They’re not too comfortable with how numb they feel? Wrap up. They’re confused/disillusioned and want a break? You’re done. It is meant to be a fun experience, so keep it that way for your partner(s).

When using ice blocks or chips, a good tip is to make sure it is wet in some way before using them on your partner. Especially if you intend to place the chip inside them. This is to avoid the harsh sharpness from dry ice, which could hurt/prick you and your partner(s). You can lubricate your ice by running water or even lube over it. This makes the ice more slippery, wet, and fun.

After engaging in ice play, also make sure to check in on your partner(s) physically, emotionally and mentally. Some kinks aren’t for everyone, no matter how interesting or exciting it is. Confirm that they’re okay and haven’t caught a cold, frostbite or hypothermia. Also check to know how much they enjoyed playing, and if they would like to do it again.

Embrace Your Chilling Desires

As you can see, temperature play is a very exciting way to spice up your sex life, and it’s practiced by way more people than you think. There are many resources to help you enjoy your ice kink to the maximum, use them! From at-home, inexpensive materials like ice cubes, chips and trays, to iced foods and drinks, and metal and glass sex toys.

If you like cold temperature play, you’ll also find other sensention play exciting. But be sure to do lots of research, preparation, and check-ins with your partner before engaging. Therefore, don’t be scared to introduce this fun fetish to your partner. As you will be surprised at the cold-blooded things they’d also like to do to you. *wink wink.*