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Queening
Isabella positioned herself above him, her legs straddling his head.
“This is queening,” she said with a sultry smile, her voice full of authority. “I am your queen, and tonight, you will serve me with your mouth.”
Adrian’s heart raced as Isabella lowered herself onto his face.
He knew his role: to please her. His tongue began to explore her pussy.
Isabella started moving her hips, slow and deliberate. Her pleasure intensified as she rode Adrian’s face.
As her need grew, Isabella’s movements became more urgent. Her pleasure built until she finally exploded in a climax that left her body trembling.
Adrian was breathless, his face soaked, and his cock hard with desire.
Isabella looked down at him, a satisfied smile on her lips.
“You’ve served your queen well,” she whispered, her fingers gently stroking his hair…
What is Queening?
When it comes to oral sex, there’s a position that takes the idea of worshiping your partner to a whole new level – literally! During queening, the woman (or person with a vulva) uses their partner’s face as their throne.
Queening is an oral sex position within which the woman squats over her lover’s face to receive oral pleasure. The partner on the bottom gives her cunnilingus. The position allows the person on top to feel empowered.
Have you ever heard the term ‘sit on my face’? Well, queening is where that comes from. You might also hear the position referred to as ‘face sitting’.
Anyone with a vulva can take the dominant ‘top’ position, and anyone of any gender can be the partner on the bottom. It’s worth noting that the person on top can have a cock, but this would be called ‘kinging’ rather than ‘queening’.
In this article, we’ll tell you everything you need to know about queening so you can try it safely.
Why Is It Called “Queening”?
The position is called queening because it refers to the woman as royalty, sitting on the throne of her partner’s face. It’s a powerful symbolism, positioning the person with the vulva as the dominant partner.
The ancient art of queening has been recorded throughout history. Some people have even traced it back to Ancient Egypt and Japan!
I love the thought that in bedrooms across the world, some women were treated like royalty by their partners for all those years!
In the Victorian Era, there were even ‘queening stools‘ to make the position more comfortable. The stools had a hole in them, and the submissive partner would lie underneath the stool to provide pleasure.
Why Do People Like Queening?
Now we know the basics of the position, but why do people love it so much? There are lots of reasons, including:
Pleasure: This is the most obvious reason. Giving your partner oral sex is enjoyable, and receiving it is orgasmic. In this position, the woman can control the pressure and pace, therefore ensuring a climax.
Power play: Queening offers the ‘giver’ the chance to explore their submissive side. I’ve found that with female partners, for me the most pleasure is in the giving rather than the receiving! Queening is often related to kink and BDSM, but not always.
Empowerment: As we’ve already mentioned, sitting on your partner’s face can be extremely empowering for women and puts them in a dominant role.
Building intimacy: Trying new positions and allowing your partner to be in a position of dominance can increase intimacy and build trust.
Switching up ‘gender roles’: If you’re in a cisgender, heterosexual relationship, it can feel liberating to challenge traditional gender roles. In these roles, women are often seen as submissive, but queening flips the script!
Types of Queening
Queening isn’t a one-size-fits-all position. There are several variations that couples can try.
Classic Queening
This is the standard type of queening. One partner lies down and the other squats over them, straddling their face.
Reverse Queening
Just like it sounds, this variation is face sitting in reverse. The queen squats down over her lover’s face, but this time facing her partner’s feet. This offers a different angle. In my experience, it’s also great for rimming!
Knees Down
Being able to squat over your partner’s face for an extended period takes a lot of strength. The knees down position can be more comfortable for the face sitting partner, especially if you’re disabled like me.
Just like it sounds, with this variation you simply put your knees down on either side of your partner’s head rather than squatting.
Chair Queening
If kneeling isn’t accessible for you, don’t worry – we don’t leave disabled queens out here!
Remember the queening chair we mentioned earlier? Well, why not ‘create’ your own version by simply sitting on the edge of a chair or the edge of your wheelchair with your legs spread? Your partner can get down on their knees to serve you.
If you fancy treating yourself, you can even buy a queening chair online!
How to Try Queening: Overcoming Challenges
Queening can be quite a tricky position for many people. If it isn’t done right, it can even be quite dangerous.
That sounds a bit ominous, but don’t worry. I’ve included my top tips below to help you try face sitting safely:
Talk to your partner: The most important thing is to talk to your partner first. Make sure you understand each other’s boundaries and talk about your concerns. I recommend having a safe word or signal, so either of you can indicate clearly if you want to stop. Consent is always key with any type of sex!
Don’t use your full weight: Don’t put your full weight down onto your partner’s face and literally ‘sit’ on it, as this can restrict their breathing (even if you don’t weigh much). Some submissive people may enjoy you ‘smothering’ them with your pussy or ass for short periods, but make sure to discuss this thoroughly first.
Trial and error: If squatting doesn’t work for you, don’t be afraid to try some of the other queening variations. You can also move around to figure out which positioning hits the right spot.
Use tools and supports: There’s no shame in adjusting positions to work for you. You could introduce pillows or a chair, or use your hands to give yourself extra support if you’re on top.
Start slow: If you’re new to queening, start slow. Try short sessions and keep the lines of communication open. This will help you to build confidence and find out what feels good.
Take breaks or switch things up: Even for the fittest of people, squatting for long periods can be uncomfortable. So take breaks when they’re needed or switch positions.
Have fun: Sex is supposed to be fun! Try not to get caught up in whether you’re ‘doing it right’. If it feels good and everyone involved is enjoying themselves, that’s all that matters.
Final Thoughts and Other Options
Queening is more than just physical pleasure – it’s an adventure in power, trust, and connection. It can open up new levels of sexual satisfaction!
If you like the idea of the woman being in control, why not check out other similar positions like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl? Or if you’re craving more tongue-to-clit action, we have plenty of other cunnilingus positions that could work for you.
If none of that’s your style, we’ve got plenty of guidance on other sex positions and sexual practices. You could even introduce roleplay to spice up your sex life!
There’s a whole world of options out there for you to explore – so, go and enjoy yourself!
