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CBT Kink
When we use the term CBT, we’re not talking about cognitive behavioral therapy. Instead, we’re discussing cock and ball torture!
For some people with penises, the term ‘cock and ball torture’ might make them cringe and cup their balls protectively! But for others, it can open up a whole new world of sexual pleasure. Since you’ve read this far, I’m guessing you’re in the second category (or you have a partner who’s intrigued by the idea).
Either way, you’re in the right place! In this article, we’ll delve into what a CBT kink entails, why people enjoy it, and how you can explore it safely.
What Is a CBT Kink?
CBT stands for cock and ball torture. It’s a form of BDSM that involves applying pain or discomfort to the penis and/or testicles for sexual pleasure. Despite its intimidating name, many find it an exciting blend of pain and pleasure.
The thought of ‘hurting’ such a sensitive part of the body may sound shocking, but it’s actually quite a common fetish.
There’s a wide range of types of CBT play (we’ll talk about those more later). Pain can range from mild titillation to intense dick torture. Some people prefer to focus on humiliation rather than the pain itself. So CBT doesn’t even have to involve directly painful activities! You can focus more on teasing and new sensations, rather than pain. It’s very individual to the people involved.
The word ‘torture’ can be quite off-putting for some people. So, you might hear it referred to as a cock and ball play instead. Both meant the same thing, and both are valid.
The person doing the ‘torturing’ is often referred to as the dominant partner. You might also hear the phrases ‘dom’, ‘top’, or ‘sadist’ (referring to S&M). The partner who is receiving the CBT is usually the submissive partner. They are sometimes referred to as a ‘sub’, ‘bottom’, or even ‘slave’.
These roles aren’t fixed. People can fluctuate between dominant and submissive depending on the type of BDSM they’re engaging in, and the partner they’re with. That’s the case for me! We sometimes refer to ourselves as ‘switches’ because we can switch back and forth.
People who engage in CBT often enjoy other types of BDSM kinks and fetishes too. CBT is often part of other types of play, like S&M.
Any consenting adult with a penis and testicles can enjoy CBT, along with a partner of any gender.
Why Do People Like CBT?
If you don’t know much about cock and ball torture, at this point it’s natural for you to wonder: “Why do people like it?” People can be drawn to CBT play for a plethora of reasons that reflect their personal desires and experiences. Common reasons include:
Pleasure hormones: The release of endorphins caused by pain can heighten the sexual thrill. Engaging in cock and ball torture can also cause an adrenaline surge, which makes it exciting!
Power dynamics: CBT can allow couples to explore intricate power exchanges. Some scientific theories suggest that it’s natural to seek these power dynamics and explore them. Many people use cock and ball torture to enhance their dominant and submissive dynamic.
It’s taboo: CBT offers participants a chance to venture into societal taboos. Humans are naturally drawn to things we’re ‘not supposed’ to enjoy. Basically, engaging in acts regarded by many as “off-limits” can be sexy and feel ‘naughty’. And you can’t tell me that feeling naughty isn’t a turn-on!
Increased sensitivity: Cock and ball torture can increase blood flow to the genitals, making them more sensitive and amplifying sensations. Essentially, what I’m saying is, pain can make pleasure more intense.
Challenging ‘gender roles’: For cisgender men and women in heterosexual relationships, it can be interesting to challenge the idea that men are the ‘strong’ ones. Switching things up can be cathartic for both partners! For the woman, it can be therapeutic to be in charge, especially in today’s male-dominated society.
Dealing with feelings: Some experts think that this type of sexual behavior is a way of dealing with feelings in an indirect way. They refer to it as a displacement behavior.
Building confidence: Some people find CBT can enhance their confidence levels and heighten self-perception. As a disabled woman, I find that being in a dominant role during BDSM play makes me feel empowered!
Increasing intimacy: Any form of BDSM requires open communication, a close connection, and a lot of trust. Especially when it involves pain and aspects of danger! In my experience, this can significantly increase the intimacy between you and a lover.
Escaping daily life: For many people, a CBT kink can provide an escape from day-to-day life and the stress that comes with it. I love that you can leave your worries outside the bedroom, step into a new role, and focus on the captivating mix of pain and pleasure.
Is CBT Dangerous?
The question on your mind is probably: “But is it dangerous?” After all, it’s a very sensitive and delicate area!
The answer is yes, it can be dangerous. It comes with significant health risks depending on the methods and tools used. The primary risk is pretty obvious – damage to the balls and penis. That’s why being very careful and following safety precautions is vital.
The important thing to remember is that most forms of BDSM come with an element of risk. This type of activity is often referred to as a risk aware consensual kink (usually shortened to RACK). That simply means that all parties involved are consenting adults who are aware of what they’re getting into. They know the risks and have made an informed decision to engage in cock and ball torture.
For a lot of people (myself included) the risk is a big part of what is thrilling about it. That might sound silly at first. But lots of people enjoy taking risks. Think about adrenaline junkies going bungee jumping, rock climbing, or white water rafting! Others prefer the illusion of taking risks, like going on a really fast rollercoaster. It’s a very similar thought process to BDSM.
In my opinion, any activity that can be dangerous is about weighing up the risks versus the rewards. How much pleasure and enjoyment are you going to get out of it? For some people, it won’t be worth it. For others, it definitely will!
Stigma and Lack Of Understanding
Unfortunately, there’s stigma and judgment surrounding kinks and fetishes of all types. People who like these types of activities are often seen as ‘freaky’ or even ‘perverted’. But that isn’t true!
In fact, modern medicine says that an interest in kinks and fetishes does not indicate a mental illness. Unless your fetish interferes with your ability to function in your day-to-day life, it isn’t a disorder nor is it harmful.
Usually, these negative views stem from misunderstandings and misconceptions. People tend to fear what they don’t understand. It’s really important that we clarify that CBT is very different from abuse or sexual violence. Those acts are non-consensual. A CBT kink is completely consensual.
If you’re interested in cock and ball torture, you’re not weird and your desires aren’t ‘wrong’. You’re totally valid and should feel free to explore that side of yourself.
Types of Cock and Ball Torture
There are lots of different CBT methods. Some people only like one technique, while others like to experiment with many different methods and sensations.
Let’s take a look at some of the most popular methods together.
Ball Busting
Ball busting is a method of ball torture that involves kicking, kneeing, or punching the testicles. It originates from Japanese Tamakeri, where Asian women hit men in the balls. Many people use ball busting as a general name for any type of cock and ball torture that focuses on the testicles.
The main safety consideration with ball busting is ensuring you don’t use too much impact and damage the testicles. If you’re a beginner, start with your hands and use gentle impact to see how you both feel.
Ball Stretching
Yes, this is what it sounds like. Ball stretching is literally stretching the testicles and pulling them away from the person’s body. Some people do this with their hands and others use tools, like ball stretchers. Some people even hang weights from the ball stretchers.
Start with lighter weights and maintain communication as you work your way up to avoid injury. If you’re a beginner, I’d recommend starting with gentle pressure using your hands.
Tickle Torture
Tickle torture is one of the more beginner-friendly activities you can try. It involves bondage methods to stop the submissive from moving or ‘getting away’, then tickling them. It might sound silly, but it can be very effective!
Tickle torture is pretty safe as long as you restrain your sub carefully and use safe words when needed.
Ball Crushing
Ball crushing involves the submissive partner having their balls crushed, usually by the foot of the dominant partner. Some doms use a vice or ball crushing toy. The intensity of the crushing is down to the submissive and their dominant to decide.
It’s possible to cause blood clots, testicle trauma, or even testicle rupture with this type of play. So do your research, use proper tools, and maintain open lines of communication throughout. Beginners may want to start by using their hands to squeeze and introduce gentle pressure first.
Genital Flogging and Spanking
You’ve heard of spanking, but have you ever thought about genital spanking? Genital flogging or spanking involves slapping sensitive genital areas with your hands or tools like floggers, whips, paddles, or canes.
Just make sure you don’t spank too hard to avoid harming the cock or balls. Start slowly and gently until you get the hang of the pressure needed.
Genital Bondage
I think we’ve all heard of bondage – the movie ‘Fifty Shades of Grey” along with other media made it more ‘mainstream’. But did you know you can use bondage on the genitals? This involves binding or restricting the penis and/or balls using rope, straps, bondage tape, and other tools. Some people use toys like specialized cock rings, testicle cuffs, and cock cages.
Be careful not to wrap the genitals too tightly and cause damage. You don’t want to restrict blood flow too much.
Temperature and Sensation Play
This is a great method to pair with genital bondage in my experience. The bondage leaves the exposed areas so much more sensitive, making playing with other sensations even more intense. I love using hot wax and ice during temperature play to introduce different sensations – it’s so much fun!
Just be careful with the wax and get the right type of candle to avoid injury.
Urethral Play
Urethral play refers to the insertion of objects into the urethra during sexual activity. Typically, this is a tool called ‘sounds’. It’s a more advanced method. As well as discomfort and pain, it can amplify sensations when it’s done properly.
Lubrication and sterilization are crucial to avoid harming the penis or causing an infection.
Needle Play
We’re getting a bit more intense now! Needle play incorporates sterile needles penetrating skin surfaces, merging painful experiences with direct physical pleasure. That’s right, we’re talking about piercing the skin here.
Needle play should be done very carefully and only with sterile, hypodermic needles. Since blood is involved, you should be very careful about blood-borne diseases. This one is not for the inexperienced!
Knife Play
Another one that’s not for the faint-hearted is knife play. This can involve knives, swords, daggers, or anything similar. They’re most commonly used to cut away clothes, evoke a sense of risk, or gently scratch the skin. However, for those into the more extreme side of CBT, knife play can involve directly painful activities.
As we said above, if there’s blood involved, it’s crucial you’re careful and maintain good hygiene to avoid blood-borne diseases.
Electrostimulation
Another advanced form of cock and ball torture is electrostimulation. Dominants use toys that deliver an electric current to the submissive’s genitals. A variety of electrostimulation toys are available with varying strengths of electrical current. It can range from a gentle buzz to a much more intense shock.
Always do your research first and use professionally bought toys (not homemade ones) to avoid significant health risks like electrocution. If you’re disabled and have a medical device that has metal parts or you have a pacemaker, avoid this type of play for your safety.
Tips For Trying Cock and Ball Torture
I’ve included some of my top tips below for CBT beginners to help you get started:
Do your research: It’s important you do plenty of research so you know the risks and how to try CBT safely. You’re reading this article, so let’s a great first step!
Communication: Talk to your partner and when you think you’ve talked enough, talk some more! Communication is key. Make sure you’re on the same page about your expectations, likes, and dislikes. Remember that consent is the most important thing at every stage.
Set boundaries: Set clear boundaries with each other about what you do and don’t want. Most importantly, respect each other’s limits.
Pick safe words: A safe word is a word or phrase that you wouldn’t normally use during conversation or sexual activity. You can say it when you have reached your limit and want to stop your CBT session. I recommend a traffic light system – one word for ‘stop’ (red light), one to say ‘I’m getting close to my limit’ (amber light), and one to reassure your partner that they can keep going (green light).
Be sober: Cock and ball torture involves a lot of risk, so you must be sober and present in the moment. You need to be able to focus and have appropriate reaction times.
Don’t leave the submissive alone: Never leave the submissive alone if they’re restrained, even for short periods, as this could be dangerous.
Have safety supplies on hand: Have a collection of safety supplies ready and near you. This might include medical scissors to cut restraints, keys for locks, and a first aid kit.
Start mild: Start with mild pain-inflicting activities until you learn what your thresholds are.
Use your hands: Some CBT tools can be expensive. Start with your hands and more affordable toys until you figure out if CBT play is for you.
Keep an eye on circulation: Always watch carefully for any loss of circulation if you’re restricting the genitals. If you notice swelling, changing color, bruising, or numbness, stop your session immediately.
Experiment with techniques: If you’re not sure what you like, experiment together to figure out what works.
Keep things hygienic: Clean and check all of your toys and tools regularly.
Get medical help if needed: If you need medical attention, go and get it. That sounds obvious, but many people avoid seeking help due to embarrassment or fear of judgment. It’s better to be embarrassed for a short time than to have permanent damage to your genitals!
Aftercare: After your session, take some time to reconnect, cuddle, and bond. I like to use this time to talk about how the session went and what you want to change next time.
Have fun: This all sounds quite worrying and while it’s important to take the risks seriously, you should also have fun! That’s the whole point, right?
Summary: CBT Is More Fun Than It Sounds
Cock and ball torture can sound quite confronting when you first hear about it, but many people find it enhances their sex life.
If CBT appeals to you, chat with your partner and give it a try. Just remember to take it slow and have fun!
You might also want to check out some other similar kinks and fetishes that pair nicely with CBT, like impact play, wax play, and femdom kinks.
