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Rapeplay
It happened to me when I was back in the army. We were out in the field, surrounded by other soldiers, but with limited supplies, we had no choice but to share a sleeping bag. We were all huddled close, trying to keep warm in the cold night air, but I didn’t think much of it—just another uncomfortable night in the field.
We had joked about the idea before, but I never thought it would actually happen.
Then, out of nowhere, I felt it—my friend’s erection pressing against my butt. I silently turned to him, my eyes saying, “What the fuck??”
But before I could react, he grabbed my mouth, his hand firm and commanding, and whispered, “Shut the fuck up.” My heart raced, not out of guilt or fear, but something else entirely. I’d never considered myself gay, but in that moment, I couldn’t deny the pull I felt. There was something about the intensity in his eyes, the thrill of being so close, and the danger of being caught. The fact that we had to stay quiet—any noise could wake up the other soldiers and get us into trouble—made it even more intense.
He held me tight, his body pressed against mine, and I instinctively tried to resist, torn between refusal and the surge of arousal that was taking over. He was relentless, though, his hand on my mouth, his body pressing harder against mine.
And then, with a forceful push, he succeeded. He entered me, and suddenly, my entire body was alive with pleasure. As my body responded to him, I realized this was something I had secretly craved, even if I hadn’t fully understood it before. My mind screamed that this was wrong, that this shouldn’t be happening, but the way it felt—God, it felt so good. It was as if every nerve in my body was on fire, every part of me conflicted but overwhelmed by the intensity of what was happening.
Afterward, he held me close, his voice soft as he asked if I was okay, and the tension melted into something more tender and real.
In this article, we’ll guide you through the ins and outs of rape fantasies. We’ll discuss what it is, its history, and how it differs from sexual assault. You’ll also find tips and advice on how to prepare for and explore rape play, along with suggestions for similar kinks that might pique your interest. Whether you’re new to this fantasy or looking to deepen your experience, this guide will help you navigate rape play with confidence, respect, and a focus on mutual consent.
What Is Rape Play? The Complex Mentality of Forced Sex
Rape play, or consensual non-consent (CNC), is a type of role-playing in the BDSM world where people agree to act out scenarios involving force or coercion (pressure). Unlike those fantasies that stay tucked away in your mind, rape play takes things into the real world, but with some very important rules in place. It’s all about exploring the darker side of sexuality and power dynamics, letting people dive into intense emotions and desires in a totally controlled and safe way.
In forced sex, the dominant partner (playing the “aggressor”) and the submissive partner (playing the “victim”) need to have a rock-solid foundation of trust and communication. Everything is planned out in advance—what will happen, what definitely won’t, and how to hit pause if things get too intense. Safe words, clear signals, and aftercare are key to making sure the experience is positive and consensual for everyone involved.
NB! You might be surprised at how many women have rape fantasies but would never want them to happen in real life. If you’re curious about what goes on in these fantasies, check out Nancy Friday’s 1973 book, My Secret Garden. It’s packed with stories from women who opened up about all sorts of sexual fantasies, including rape fantasies. It’s a fascinating peek into the complex world of female desire.
Sexual Assault vs. Sexual Behavior in Rape Play
It’s important to clearly distinguish between sexual assault and the sexual behavior involved in consensual rape play. Sexual assault is a non-consensual act that causes real harm and trauma. In contrast, the sexual behavior in rape play is rooted in mutual consent, trust, and clear communication. Participants agree on boundaries, safe words, and the actions involved, allowing them to safely explore intense power dynamics. By keeping these practices in place, rape play remains a safe, consensual fantasy, far removed from the reality of sexual assault.
The Historical Context of the Forced Sex Play
The idea of power, control, and non-consent goes way back in human history, even though the term “rape play” is pretty new. Throughout history, sexual relationships often mirrored the power dynamics and gender inequalities of the times. Ancient myths, stories, and even religious texts often featured situations where consent was unclear or entirely absent, reflecting the societal norms and power structures of those eras.
For example, in many ancient cultures, stories about gods and heroes frequently included acts of abduction or force, symbolizing power and dominance. These tales not only reinforced the existing power dynamics but also explored the tension between power and submission.
As societies progressed, the concept of consent began to take shape. In medieval and early modern Europe, legal documents started to address consent more directly, though their understanding was still quite different from what we know today. It wasn’t until the 20th century, with the rise of modern psychology and the sexual liberation movements, that people started openly discussing sexual fantasies, including those involving non-consent.
In today’s BDSM communities, rape play has become a way to safely explore these age-old dynamics of power and control. It allows participants to engage with complex emotions like vulnerability and dominance, all within a safe, consensual, and carefully negotiated framework.
How to Prepare for Consensual Rape Play
If you’re excited to explore consensual rape fantasy, the key to a thrilling and positive experience lies in preparation, communication, and creativity. Here’s how you can make your fantasies come alive while keeping everything safe, fun, and consensual.
1. Get Inspiration from Books
Before jumping in, why not explore your fantasies further, here are some of our top picks:
My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday is filled with real stories from women exploring their deepest desires, including rape fantasies.
The Sexual Life of Catherine M. by Catherine Millet, a provocative memoir,
A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, which dives into the psychology behind sexual fantasies.
Note: These books can spark new ideas and give you a better understanding of what excites you.You might even find other fantasies that you want to incorporate into your play.
2. Get Ideas from Rape Play Movies
Movies are a fantastic way to visualize scenarios and get inspired. Here are a few that explore CNC and forced sex theme:
1. The Piano Teacher (2001)
Why Watch: It’s a stark and unsettling exploration of the darker sides of desire, where consensual non-consent plays a significant role.
2. Chloe (2009)
Why Watch: A nuanced exploration of trust, betrayal, and the psychological intricacies of desire, touching on themes of consensual non-consent.
3. Elle (2016)
Why Watch: A provocative and complex film that explores the psychology behind rape fantasy scenario in an unconventional way.
4. The Night Porter (1974)
Why Watch: A dark and psychological exploration of trauma and control, where consensual non-consent plays a central role.
Note: Watching these with your partner can help you discuss what elements you’d like to include or avoid in your own play.
3. Join BDSM Communities and Learn
Getting involved in BDSM communities can be incredibly beneficial. Whether it’s attending local events, workshops, or joining online forums, these spaces offer a wealth of knowledge and a chance to connect with others who share your interests. Here are some places to start:
FetLife: An online community with groups dedicated to consensual non-consent, BDSM, and more. It’s a great place to ask questions, learn from others, and find local events.
The Society of Janus: A San Francisco-based BDSM organization offering workshops, events, and resources for those exploring kink.
The Eulenspiegel Society (TES): Based in New York City, TES is one of the oldest BDSM education and social organizations, offering classes and events.
Note: When you join these communities, introduce yourself by saying, “Hi, I’m interested in exploring consensual non-consent scenarios. I’m looking for advice and would love to hear about others’ experiences.” This opens up conversations and helps you connect with like-minded people.
4. Talk It Out – Get Excited Together
Communication is important, and it can be part of the fun! Start the conversation with your partner by sharing your fantasies. Here are some ways to kick things off:
“I’ve been reading about consensual non-consent, and I’m curious to try it. What do you think?”
“I saw a movie with an interesting roleplay. How would you feel about trying something similar?”
“Some ideas from My Secret Garden got me thinking—what kind of fantasy would you want to explore together?”
Note: Discuss what excites you, any concerns, and what boundaries you want to set. This builds anticipation and trust before the play begins.
5. Get Creative with Role-Play Scenarios
This is where you can let your imagination run wild! Think of this as scripting your own movie. Here are some of our role-play ideas to consider:
The Intruder: One partner plays the role of a stranger who sneaks into the home, catching the other by surprise.
The Woods: In this scenario one partner gets “lost” during a hike and meets a mysterious figure who takes control. Note: A secluded forest or park adds to the excitement.
The Office: Set the scene in a workplace where one partner is the boss who takes what they want from an employee after hours, adding an element of authority and power imbalance.
The Old Times: Transport yourselves back in time—perhaps a medieval lord takes a servant, or a pirate claims a captive. Note: Costumes and props can add realism and fun.
The Stranger: Pretend to meet as strangers in a bar or club, where one is “abducted” and taken to a different location. Note: The excitement lies in the unpredictability.
The Secret Agent Mission: One partner is a spy captured by the enemy. The captor interrogates and coerces the agent, who resists but ultimately “gives in.” This combines elements of interrogation with physical restraint, adding layers of intensity.
Important Note: Get specific about what’s allowed, what’s off-limits, and set up your safe words.
6. Set Up Safe Words and Signals
Safe words are your lifeline in these scenarios—pick something simple like “red” for stop. If you’re using gags or other restraints, agree on non-verbal signals too, like a double tap or dropping an object. These safety measures ensure that everyone stays comfortable and the play remains consensual.
7. Plan Aftercare
The fun doesn’t stop when the play ends—aftercare is crucial for unwinding and reconnecting. Plan what you’ll need afterward: cuddles, a warm bath, some snacks, or quiet time together. Use this moment to process what happened, share what you loved, and ensure you both feel safe and valued.
8. Build Anticipation and Reflect
Start the excitement early by sending teasing texts, setting up a mood playlist, or leaving hints about what’s to come. Afterward, take time to reflect together on what worked and what didn’t. This helps deepen your connection and ensures your next experience is even better.
And If You Like Rape Play Fantasies, You Might Also Like…
Consensual Non-Consent (CNC Kink): Similar to rape play, CNC involves role-playing scenarios where one partner pretends to be non-consenting, but everything is carefully pre-negotiated.
Domination and Submission (D/s): D/s centers around one partner taking on a dominant role while the other submits. It can range from verbal commands to physical restraint, often intersecting with rape fantasy scenario where control and trust are must.
Rope Bondage: A specialized form of bondage that uses ropes to restrain or position a partner. The intricate use of ropes not only restrains but also adds a layer of artistry, making the power exchange even more profound.
Impact Play: Involves striking the body with hands, paddles, whips, or other tools to deliver controlled sensations. It’s about exploring the boundaries between pleasure and pain, making it a powerful way to engage in consensual power dynamics.
Edging and Orgasm Control kink: These kinks involve delaying or controlling a partner’s orgasm to build tension and enhance pleasure. The dominant partner controls the submissive partner’s release, adding another layer of power dynamics.
Fear Play: This kink uses fear to heighten arousal, where one partner creates a scenario that induces fear—all within the boundaries of safety and consent. It’s a way to explore primal emotions and push psychological limits.
Pegging BDSM: In this kink, a woman uses a strap-on to penetrate her male partner, often flipping traditional gender roles and power dynamics. It’s a unique way to explore control and submission from a different angle.
DDlg Kink (Daddy Dom/Little Girl): Focused on a nurturing, protective dynamic, this kink involves one partner taking on a dominant, paternal role (Daddy Dom) and the other adopting a more submissive, childlike role (Little Girl). It emphasizes care, emotional intimacy, and power exchange.
- Futanari Rape: A fantasy involving a dominant futanari (a character with both penis and vagina) taking control in a non-consensual scenario.
Exploring rape fantasies and risk free rape play is a deeply personal journey that requires a safe, consensual, and respectful environment. It’s about understanding the complexities of desire, power, and control, and finding ways to explore these themes in a manner that is both sexy and safe.
By communicating openly, setting clear boundaries, and prioritizing aftercare, you can create a space where these intense fantasies can be explored without crossing into harmful territory.
Remember, sexual fantasies are a normal part of human experience, and there’s no shame in exploring them with care and consent.
