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Orgasm Control Fetish
You hold her hands, spreading them wide to the length of the table where she is laying, securing her wrists tightly. Standing at the edge, you thrust deep inside her. She moves with you, responding to your thrusts with high-pitched moans and the desperate wiggling of her hips. Passion splices through your bodies, your eyes meet, and she mouths the words, “Please, make me cum,” her face bearing the distress of a thousand sensations coursing through her body.
Her begging ignites something primordial in you and you move with even more ferocity. Just as she shivers underneath you, about to climax, you pause, brandishing a sly smile on your face. She’s desperate; you can see it in the longing in her eyes, a clear sign of her deep-seated orgasm control fetish.
You hold her shivering frame in your hands as you whisper, “Patience,” in her ear. Her frustration and desire are palpable as you maintain control. You raise her waist carefully to yours and begin thrusting again in a different rhythm, slower and more deliberate. Each movement builds her anticipation, every pause intensifying her need. She whimpers and writhes beneath you, caught between ecstasy and desperation.
The tension grows as you bring her close to the edge repeatedly, only to pull back each time. Her breath quickens, her body arches, and her eyes plead with you for release. Finally, when her need is at its peak and she can barely hold back, you let go of the restraint, thrusting deep and fast until both of you are enveloped in the overwhelming pleasure of release.
Why You Hunger for Orgasm Control
Have you ever thought you might have an orgasm control fetish? If you’ve delayed an orgasm to make the experience last longer or intensify the climax, or if you’re just curious, this article is for you.
Orgasm control is all about taking charge of your or your partner’s pleasure during sexual play. This practice extends the experience to maximize enjoyment. Adding orgasm control kink to your sexual routine has multiple benefits.
It can
- increase the likelihood of orgasms for women,
- introduce new ways of pleasure beyond penetration,
- help treat premature ejaculation in men,
- and improve sexual stamina.
Orgasm control kink is a simple concept that, when practiced correctly, can enhance your sex life. It involves physically restraining the intense state of climax, often described as erotic sexual denial. This practice enhances arousal and tension through restraint techniques. Commonly used in dominant and submissive relationships, it can also be practiced solo.
In BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism), orgasm control is often practiced by the dominant partner. They control the time, nature, pace, and duration of the submissive partner’s orgasms. The dominant partner can also decide if the submissive will experience an orgasm during intercourse.
5 Reasons Why You Should Try Orgasm Control Fetish
Better Orgasms
Orgasm control has grown more popular as a way of increasing the quality of orgasms in the modern century. Pausing an orgasm when it is in motion can help to improve the overall efficacy of it.
Treatment of Sexual Inadequacies
Proof of it being a decades-old treatment for premature ejaculation is seen in medical journals, delaying climaxing is an ingenious way of further maximising the ecstatic sensation.
The Pleasure in Delayed Climax
Delayed gratification in sexual context builds momentum which in return increases the pleasure obtained from an orgasm when it is reached.
Control Over Pleasure
As noticed in the dominant and submissive complex (known simply as BDSM play), orgasm control techniques are employed by the dominant partner to assert control over the submissive’s sexual pleasure in a show of power exchange.
Knowing Your Body Creates Increased Confidence
Nothing quite builds awareness and confidence in one’s body than understanding. Understanding the nooks and crannies of your body by sexually exploring helps a sexually active individual better understand what rocks their boat and builds assertiveness in demanding it.
Sexual Arousal Stages in Orgasm Control Fetish
To learn more about orgasm control fetish, it is important to understand the four stages of sexual arousal. These stages are excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. These stages are better explained below:
Excitement. The excitement stage in sexual arousal has distinct physical attributes like flushed skin, faster heartbeat, quick blood flow to the penis or clitoris and vagina, lubrication of the vagina and withdrawal of the scrotum.
Plateau. The second stage of arousal sees the intensifying of the physical characteristics shown in the excitement stage. In this stage, you can feel yourself inch closer to the edge of an orgasm. This is the adviced stage to stop or slow down stimulation in orgasm control to practice orgasm denial.
Orgasm. Orgasm is characterized by nerve and muscle response which results in an ecstatic feeling, increased vagina lubrication, and semen ejaculation from the penis. When you practice orgasm control fetish, thus is the stage to avoid.
Resolution. This stage marks the commencement of the refraction period which is a temporary duration of time (lasting from a range of a few minutes to a few days) when arousal can’t occur. Also, in this stage, organs return to their pre-aroused state (size and colour) and vitals to their normal state.
Is Orgasm Control Kink Same as Forced Orgasm, Orgasm Denial or Edging?
Orgasm control in partnered sex or individual sex (masturbation) can be explained under the following three subheadings: Forced Orgasms, Orgasm Denial and Edging.
Forced Orgasms: Involves the compelling of a climax that is not within the receiver’s voluntary control.
Orgasm Denial: This practice of orgasm control is characterized by stopping the sexual partner from reaching orgasm.
Edging: Edging is a sexual practice that involves putting off orgasm to encourage the participating sexual partner to reach a euphoric state in intercourse.
Of these three practices of orgasm control, edging is the most commonly practiced. Edging is also referred to by different names, some of which are peaking, teasing, surfing amongst others. It involves the ceasing of an orgasm when an individual or their partner is at the edge of it. Edging has popularly been practised as a form of treatment for premature ejaculation.
How to Practice Orgasm Control Fetish with Your Partner(s)
Consent and communication are crucial before starting any control tactics with your partner. Communication maps out boundaries, and consent reinforces them. Always get explicit permission before acting out your fantasies. And whenever you are ready to explore, here’s how to spice things up:
- Masturbation: Involves stimulating one’s genitals to orgasm. Practice orgasm control by pausing stimulation when orgasm feels close, delaying it, and extending orgasm duration.
- Ballooning: Helps with premature ejaculation. Find a sensitive area on the penis and rub until close to orgasm, then stop. Repeat as needed.
- Squeeze Method: Stimulate sexual parts until near orgasm, then squeeze the penis tip to stop orgasm. Resume stimulation after thirty seconds until orgasm is reached.
- Use of Sex Toys: Incorporate vibrators, dildos, and butt plugs into foreplay and intercourse. Use toys until the recipient is close to orgasm, then pause.
- Tantric Sex: Move slowly and intentionally, tapping into the energy between partners. Inhale slowly before orgasm and visualize moving the orgasmic energy from your genitals to your head. Have your partner run their fingers from your sexual organ up your body. Repeat for a full-body orgasm.
- BDSM Role Play: Include dominant and submissive role-play, bondage, and masochism. Control a partner’s orgasm smoothly within BDSM’s power play dynamics.
- Chastity Belts: Use devices like chastity belts for women or penis cages for men to reduce or eliminate genital stimulation, employing delayed gratification.
- Porn: Watch porn with your partner without touching yourself or each other. This can be a hot and exciting way to practice orgasm control.
How Orgasm Control Fetish Can Help You Achieve Great Emotional Bond
Sexual experiences and emotional intimacy are closely linked, influencing connection and satisfaction. Sexual interactions, physical contact, and the production of oxytocin—the “bonding hormone”—boost feelings of closeness and affection.
Although sex without emotional intimacy is possible, long-term partnerships usually involve both, creating a more satisfying and healthy experience. Trust underpins this connection, fostering safety and security essential for healthy sex.
Emotional connection and attentiveness outside of sexual activities can improve sexual encounters within a partnership. Recognizing that different people have varied perspectives on sex due to culture, past experiences, and individual expectations is crucial to navigating intimate relationships.
The relationship between sexual and emotional intimacy varies from person to person but often plays a significant role in developing strong bonds and promoting pleasure in relationships.
Being in the kinky community for a while, I witnessed a young couple of friends feel their love life slipping into routine. Seeking to reignite the spark, they explored orgasm control kink. What began as a lighthearted experiment grew into a beautiful experience of unforegetable pleasure, trust, and intimacy. This triumph revived their relationship and inspired exploration. Through communication and an open mind, they found that orgasm control wasn’t just about denial but about heightened sensations and deeper connections.
In Conclusion, You’ll Cum, Eventually… Not Just Now (*wink*)
Wrapping up our journey into the exciting world of orgasm control kink, it is important to note that exploring this pleasurable world can offer sexually active individuals and their partners the opportunity for sexual proficiency and heightened climax moments.
The practice of orgasm control—whether it be orgasm denial, edging, or forced orgasms—is deeply rooted in trust, communication, and consent. Discussing details beforehand is crucial to create a safe space for sexual exploration and to ensure clear communication.
I wish you a pleasure-filled journey of self-discovery, unbridled intimacy, and sexual fulfillment in your kinky life.
Cheers to more intense orgasmic adventures in kinky play and to being the master of your own body!
You’re welcome to explore other common and weird fetishes and become a part of the KYS community by sharing your stories in the comments. Let’s celebrate the diversity of desires and experiences together!
