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13 Best Gay Sex Positions
When you first come out or are preparing for your first queer sex experience, it can be really intimidating. So many questions run through your head: What if you don’t know what you’re doing? Are you going to be good at it? What if they’re more experienced? I’ve been there (although as a queer woman rather than a gay man).
Ultimately, it’s all about learning as you go and enjoying yourself with someone you find attractive! It’s not as nerve-wracking as it first seems, I promise.
Whether you’re here because you’re a beginner or you simply want to spice up your sex life with some new sex positions, we’ve got you covered. This guide will introduce you to the best gay sex positions, as well as talk you through some top tips for a safe, enjoyable sexual experience.
Types of Gay Sex
Before we get started with gay sex positions, let’s take a look at some of the ways you can share sexual pleasure with your partner. It’s not all about penetration (although that can be a fun part of it).
Manual Stimulation
This sounds fancy, but it just means hand jobs! It’s masturbating each other by either using just your hands or using sex toys.
This is a great way to start exploring if you’re a beginner, as it can feel a bit less intimidating. Plus, you already know what feels good because you’ve probably been doing it to yourself for a long time! But it can also be a very enjoyable part of gay sex even if you’re experienced.
This doesn’t just have to involve using your hands on the penis and balls. You can also finger the anus and stimulate the nipples.
Oral Sex
Oral sex involves using the tongue and mouth to stimulate your partner’s genitals. Probably the most common way to do this is getting into a blowjob position, meaning using your mouth and tongue to suck and lick each other’s penis and balls.
You can also try rimming or analingus positions, which means using your tongue to stimulate the anus.
Frotting
Although the name doesn’t sound particularly appealing, this is a very pleasurable act. It’s a gay sex staple! Frotting is the practice of rubbing two penises together or masturbating them together while they’re touching.
Mutual Masturbation
As the name suggests, this involves both penis owners masturbating themselves at the same time. This could be while you’re kissing, while you’re watching porn, while you talk dirty to each other, or while you touch other areas of each other’s bodies.
It can be really sexy to face one another so you can watch each other masturbate while you pleasure yourselves.
Penetrative Sex
Finally, we have penetrative, gay anal sex. This involves one penis owner inserting their penis into their partner’s anus. You might hear the penetrating partner referred to as the ‘top’ and the receiving partner referred to as the ‘bottom’.
Top 12 Best Gay Sex Positions to Try
Below are the 12 best gay sex positions according to gay men across the internet. These positions are focused on penetrative anal sex, but don’t forget you can experiment with analingus positions and manual stimulation too.
1. Missionary
The missionary position isn’t just a classic for cisgender heterosexual couples – it’s also a favorite for gay sex! In this position, the bottom lies on their back with their legs spread. The top lies in between their partner’s legs. The receiving partner can wrap their legs around their lover or raise them depending on what feels best.
This position gives the top the most control over pace and depth. Since you’re face-to-face, it’s fantastic for intimacy. It allows for kissing, eye contact, and communication. The bottom can masturbate while being penetrated, or have their top do it for them!
I highly recommend popping a pillow or sex wedge under the bottom’s hips to help get just the right angle for penetration.
2. Spooning
In the spooning position, partners lie side by side. The penetrating partner lies behind the receiving partner so they can penetrate their partner’s anus.
This is a fantastic position for relaxed, intimate sex. There’s so much skin-to-skin contact, plus your hands are free to explore one another. The penetrating partner can reach around to stroke their lover’s cock.
The spooning position is one of the best gay sex positions if you’re disabled or struggle with fatigue. Neither partner has to support the other’s weight and you can make the experience slow and romantic. For the same reasons, it’s also a great option if there are height or weight differences between partners.
3. Doggy Style
We all know the traditional doggy style position – it’s a classic, especially for anal. The bottom is on all fours and the top is on their knees, penetrating them from behind.
This is a perfect position for more dominant tops and submissive bottoms because the top has pretty much all the control. For the same reason, it’s great for involving BDSM play and spanking.
Doggy style allows for deep penetration and prostate stimulation. However, it can be quite intense and doesn’t give the bottom much control, so it’s not always the best option for beginners.
4. Standing Doggy Style
Just like it sounds, this position is doggy style, but both partners are standing up. The top is behind their partner, holding onto their hips. The bottom can be bent over the bed or other solid structure for support.
It’s one of the best gay sex positions for deep penetration and hard thrusting. Just bear in mind, it’s another one that can be a bit too intense for beginners.
This option is a bit trickier and requires more strength than the classic doggy style. However, I find it can be comfier for both partners because you don’t have to hold all your weight on your knees.
5. Prone Bone
In the prone bone position, the bottom lies on their front. The penetrating partner lies on top of them and enters them from behind. The bottom can move their legs to adjust the angle and depth of penetration.
This is one of the best gay sex positions for deep penetration combined with intimacy. It’s much more intimate than doggy style, as it allows full-body contact. Plus, it’s typically more comfortable to hold for longer periods.
I wouldn’t recommend this position if the bottom partner is plus-sized and has a large stomach. If you’re like me, you might find it uncomfortable to lie on your stomach for long periods.
6. Cowboy
Yep, you’ve guessed it. This is like cowgirl sex position, but for penis owners! The penetrating partner lies flat on their back while the receiving partner straddles them, facing towards them.
This is a great position for first-time bottoms because they are completely in control of the depth and pace. It gives you a chance to get used to the feeling of being penetrated and to experiment while you figure out what you like.
Keep in mind that the receiving partner is the one doing the work here, so this might not be the best position if you struggle with strength and mobility.
7. Reverse Cowboy
Just as it sounds, the reverse cowboy is the cowboy position but with the receiving partner facing away from their lover exactly like in the reverse cowgirl. The receiving partner can lean forward or lean back onto their partner’s chest to play around with angles.
This position offers a different angle of penetration and can feel fantastic if done right. However, it’s hard to achieve prostate stimulation in this position.
8. The Arch
The arch position is kind of like the cowboy position – the penetrating partner is on their back on the bed and the receiving partner is on top of them. But this time, the penetrating partner either lies back or sits upright, supporting their weight on their hands with their arms behind them. The receiving partner puts their feet flat on the bed, leans back, and supports their weight with their hands and feet.
This creates a perfect angle for intense penetration and prostate stimulation. It’s really important that thrusting is slow and careful so as not to hurt the penetrating partner’s penis.
This gay sex position is better for more experienced partners, as it can be tricky. Since it requires a lot of flexibility and control, I also wouldn’t recommend it for people who struggle with strength or mobility.
9. Anvil Position
If you’re looking for one of the best gay sex positions to spice up your sex life, then the anvil could be the right choice for you. The receiving partner lies on their back with their knees bent and legs raised. They put their legs on the top’s shoulders. The penetrating partner stands or kneels to enter them.
This position requires more strength and mobility than many of the other options on our list. However, it can be worth it for flexible couples who want something a bit more exciting. I recommend putting a pillow under the bottom’s hips to help with the right angle and to improve stability.
10. The Body Guard
If you’re looking for the most classic standing position for gay sex, the bodyguard position is the one! You can think of it like doggy style, but both partners are standing up. The receiving partner faces away from their lover and the penetrating partner enters them from behind.
The bottom can stabilize themselves by raising one leg and resting it on the bed, or holding onto a solid surface. The top has the most control, but both partners can move more freely than with doggy style. It’s a great option for sex in the shower!
11. Suspended Congress
This is probably the most athletic and challenging position on our list. Both partners stand facing each other. The top picks up the bottom with their hands wrapped around their thighs and back. The bottom should have their legs bent and wrapped around their partner. The bottom can put their arms around their partner’s neck.
The top then enters the bottom, supporting their weight. For extra stability, either partner can have their back against a wall or other solid surface. It can feel great, but it’s difficult!
I wouldn’t recommend this position for beginners or those who struggle with mobility, lack strength, or have any back or neck pain (especially if you’re the top).
12. Pirates Bounty/Sideway
Without a doubt, this is one of the best gay sex positions for deep penetration and mutual pleasure.
This position is a bit like missionary but possibly even better! The bottom lies on their back and puts one leg in the air. The top kneels between their legs and puts the bottom’s elevated leg on their shoulder as they enter them. The bottom can also bend their other leg to adjust the angle and depth of penetration.
This position allows eye contact, touching, kissing, and manual stimulation for the bottom. The extra deep penetration can be intense with this one, so I wouldn’t recommend it for beginners.
13. Reverse Launch Pad
The Reverse Launch Pad is an awesome anal sex position if you want your lover to feel you deep. In this position, both of you are facing the ceiling, with the receiving lover sitting on his partner’s penis, nice and relaxed, while the other supports from behind for easy access. The bottom lover can hold the arms of the receiving one to thrust deeper, letting you both go as deep as you want. This position is perfect for some amazing fun together.
Tips for Safe and Enjoyable Gay Sex
Now that we know the basics, I’ve included some top tips below to enhance your experience:
Prioritize hygiene: Hygiene is crucial for safety and comfort. Make sure you wash your penis and anus thoroughly before gay sex. Some people prefer to douche, but this is optional.
Focus on foreplay: Longer foreplay increases pleasure and prepares the body for penetration. Spend plenty of time kissing, touching, teasing, and generally having fun exploring one another.
Communication is key: Open, honest communication is vital. Both partners need to fully consent to any sexual activity. You can also discuss your preferences, boundaries, and concerns with your partner for a better overall sexual experience.
Practice safe sex: Talk to your partner about their sexual history and whether they’ve been tested for STIs. The safest way to have gay sex is by wearing condoms – yes, you can get STIs from anal!
Use lots of lube: The anus doesn’t lubricate itself, so using lube is vital during gay sex. Otherwise, you can cause injury. Both silicone-based and water-based lubricants are suitable for anal sex, reducing friction and enhancing pleasure.
Aim for the P-spot: The P-spot is the male G-spot (it’s the prostate). When it’s stimulated, it can feel incredible. So if you’re on top, aim for the P-spot!
Experiment: Try different positions and techniques to see what feels good. You could even try involving kinks and fetishes. Talk to your partner to figure out what you both want.
Use sex toys: Speaking of experimenting, why not try introducing sex toys into your sex life? It can enhance pleasure and make new positions even more fun! There are all sorts of toys you can try, from vibrating cock rings to anal beads.
Check-in afterward: After gay sex, you’ll want to clean up and then spend some time with each other. Check-in with each other and make sure you’re both feeling good about the experience.
Have fun: Probably the most important piece of advice I can give you, especially if you’re a beginner, is to remember it’s supposed to be fun. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself or worry about what gay sex is ‘supposed’ to look like or feel like. Instead, try to relax into it and enjoy experiencing new things.
Final Thoughts: Enjoy Exploring the Best Gay Sex Positions
No matter whether you’re a beginner or someone more experienced, exploring some of the best gay sex positions can be great fun and enhance your sexual experience. You might discover new levels of pleasure!
Remember, communication and gradual exploration are key to ensuring comfort and maximizing pleasure. Now go and enjoy yourself!
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the best gay sex position for beginners?
The cowboy position is great for beginners since it allows the bottom to control the depth and speed.
How can I ensure comfort during anal sex?
Make sure you use lots of lube to prevent injury. You can also experiment with different positions to see what feels comfortable. Communicate with your partner and don’t be afraid to speak up if something doesn’t feel good.
What are the benefits of using vibrating cock rings?
Vibrating cock rings can feel great, increase pleasure and can even help you stay hard for longer. They’re a fun way to explore new sensations together!
