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The Seashell Sex Position
Seashells aren’t just for the beach, they’re for the bedroom too! Well, the seashell sex position is!
If missionary sex position is your go-to position but you fancy something a bit different, possibly even a bit sexier, then this one is for you.
This guide will talk you through everything you need to know to explore the seashell sex position. Grab your beach supplies and let’s go!
What is the Seashell Sex Position?
The seashell sex position is very similar to missionary but with some interesting adjustments. The receiving partner lies on their back with their legs bent back towards their torso. The penetrating partner gets on top of them, supporting their weight on their hands to enter them.
This angle allows for much deeper penetration than the missionary position, with all of the same benefits. In fact, it might provide the deepest penetration possible (certainly one of the top three I’ve tried)!
So why is it called the seashell position? Well, the receiving partner’s body is curled up and bent into a sort of shell shape! It’s as simple as that.
Who Can Try the Seashell Sex Position?
Any couple can try the seashell position, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. It’s great for penetration by penis owners or by those using sex toys. I love this position when I’m the person on top using a strap-on! Plus, it can be used for either vaginal or anal sex. Make sure to sneak peek to our anal sex positions guide filled with recommendations from sexperts to enhance your pleasure.
Is it Accessible?
This position requires quite a bit of flexibility and strength as the receiving partner, so it’s not the most accessible position. However, once you get into position, it’s reasonably easy to maintain and the penetrating partner does most of the work.
If you’re on top and are disabled, you may find it uncomfortable to rest on your arms for long periods. I’d say take it slow and don’t be afraid to make changes to suit your needs.
Why Do People Like the Seashell Sex Position?
You probably already have a good idea of why people like the seashell sex position. There are so many benefits! Let’s take a closer look.
Sexual Pleasure
The most obvious reason people like the seashell position is because it feels good! It allows much deeper penetration than the traditional missionary position. If you get the right angle, vagina owners can even enjoy some G-spot stimulation.
It’s a perfect position for clitoral stimulation if the receiving partner has a vulva or manual stimulation if the receiver has a penis. That’s a win, because honestly, who doesn’t want extra pleasure?
Intimacy
This is a great position for intimacy, just like missionary. You’re close to each other and you can maintain eye contact.
I find it’s a great position for dirty talk and for being able to see your partner’s facial expressions during sex.
Versatility
Many people like this sex position because it’s so versatile. It can be used by anyone for vaginal or anal sex. It’s great for adding sex toys, and you can adapt it easily to suit your needs.
With a simple change of leg position, you can change the sensations for both the giver and receiver.
How to Perform the Seashell Sex Position
Mastering the seashell sex position is easier than you might think, and the rewards are well worth the effort I promise! Before you know it, you’ll be nailing this position (pun completely intended).
The receiving partner should start by lying down on their back. They can then lift their legs and bend them back as far as they get them. Aim to have your ankles as close to your ears as possible.
The penetrating partner should then kneel in front of them and lean forward over them, with their arms on either side of their partner’s head to support their weight. The penetrating partner can then adjust their angle until it feels right and begin to thrust.
The person on top is in control with the seashell sex position. They do the thrusting and control the movement. The person on the bottom focuses on holding their position (and enjoying themselves, of course).
If you’re disabled and are the receiving partner, you can ask your partner to help you get your legs in the right position. If you struggle to keep them there, you can use your hands to hold onto your legs for extra stability. I prefer putting my legs on my partner’s shoulders to keep them stable, then I have my hands free to touch my partner or stimulate my clit.
I highly recommend choosing a soft surface like a bed or sofa and using supportive pillows to reduce strain. Remember there’s no shame in using props and supports – the whole point is to have fun and to do that, you need to be able to feel as comfortable as possible.
Variations of the Seashell Sex Position and Similar Positions
There are plenty of variations of the seashell sex position if it’s not accessible for you, or if you just want to shake things up. There are also lots of similar positions that offer similar benefits.
I’ve included some of my favorites below. Take your time to explore and try different options to see what works best for you and your partner.
The Classic Shell
Of course, we have the classic seashell position, which is the one we’ve discussed. It combines deep penetration, intimacy, and plenty of pleasure. What’s not to love?
But it’s not the most accessible for those who struggle with mobility or flexibility.
The Half Shell
I absolutely love this variation – it’s slightly more comfortable to hold as the receiver and it provides new sensations. The receiver lifts one leg and leaves the other down on the bed. The penetrating partner is between their legs just like missionary.
The half shell creates a tighter entrance which feels great for both partners if the penetrating partner has a penis. I also love that it’s easier to kiss in this position.
The Adapted Shell
If you aren’t flexible enough to manage the classic seashell sex position, then this could be a great alternative for you. Instead of the receiver’s legs being up by their head, they bend them and tuck them up, like in the tucked missionary. You can wrap your arms around your thighs for extra support. It still allows for excellent access for anal or vaginal sex and I promise you it feels amazing.
The penetrating partner can kneel or lean backward, which can make it more accessible for them too. Top tip – pop a pillow under the receiving partner’s hips to raise them up.
The Kinky Shell
Some people call this the ‘naughty’ shell, but I prefer the kinky shell. This variation of the seashell position involves a bit of BDSM, which is something I love! It’s the same position as the classic seashell, except you add restraints to the receiving partner’s ankles.
You could use chains, rope, or bondage tape among many options. It’s a fun way to bring out your kinky side.
The Butterfly
The butterfly position is similar to the eagle sex position and can be more comfortable for both partners in my experience.
The penetrating partner kneels rather than leaning over their partner. The receiver rests their legs on the giver’s shoulders for deeper penetration and easier clitoral access.
The Adapted Butterfly
If you’re a beginner, struggle with mobility, or simply want to make things more comfy, this adapted butterly position could be great for you.
It’s the same as the position above, except with pillows under both partners to provide extra support and make the angle easier to maintain. Plus it has all the benefits of the seashell sex position.
The Eagle
The eagle sex position involves the receiving partner lying on their back, legs spread, while their partner kneels over them.
It still offers that deep penetration and intense eye contact you’re searching for. But it can be easier for the receiving partner to hold this position if they struggle with bending their legs back.
Tip to Enhance the Seashell Sex Position
To help you get the most out of the seashell sex position, I’ve included some of my top tips below:
Prepare for action: Since the seashell position requires quite a bit of flexibility for the receiving partner, it’s a good idea to do some stretches to prepare your body. That might feel a bit silly at first, but think of it like any other form of exercise. Or picture it as sexy yoga. The last thing you want is to strain yourself during sex and have to stop when it’s just getting really good! Don’t forget the foreplay either (not that you would, it’s part of the fun).
Consent and communication: Chat with your partner before trying the seashell position. Talk to them about any concerns you have and set clear boundaries. You both need to fully consent just like with any sexual activity.
Use protection: Whether you’re a penis owner or using a sex toy, using a condom can help to prevent STIs. I also recommend getting regularly tested so you don’t have to worry so much.
Use lube: Lube makes things run more smoothly and ensures both parties are comfortable. If you’re going to be having anal sex, lube is vital as the anus doesn’t lubricate itself like a vagina.
Be mindful of deep penetration: Don’t get me wrong, deep penetration can feel absolutely amazing! But it’s not going to be comfortable for everyone. The seashell position creates an angle that allows the penetrating partner to get really deep inside their lover, so take it slow at first and be mindful. Keep communicating during sex – if something hurts or doesn’t feel comfortable, say that! Don’t be embarrassed! Your partner should want you to be comfortable after all.
Add sex toys: In my opinion, there’s always room for sex toys! They enhance pleasure and are great fun to experiment with. Depending on the gender of you and your partner, you could add a vibrator for clitoral stimulation, a cock ring for penis owners, or even butt plugs for an additional sensation.
Try different angles and variations: The penetrating partner can adjust their angle of entry and the receiving partner can move their legs. So experiment and see what feels best for both of you.
Switch positions: If you start to feel uncomfortable, remember you can switch between the missionary position and the seashell position and back again. Or mix in other sex positions. In fact, I highly recommend it because it feels orgasmic and helps prevent muscle strain.
Final Thoughts: Some Seashells Are Sexy!
The seashell sex position is a fun variation of the well-loved missionary position. It offers deeper penetration, as well as all the benefits of intimacy and close contact.
Just remember that open communication, protection, and consent are key. So, if it sounds good to you, why not give it a try and see if you enjoy it?