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Surrendering to Her Command
“Now, come over here and do as you’re told.”
These are the words of your childhood…the words of an older woman telling you in no uncertain terms what your instructions are. But there’s nothing childish about what you’re doing now, trying to meet the gaze of the older woman in your bed. There was a smile on her dark lips as she spoke, but her voice held the firmness of command. At a single gesture from her, you crawl forward, looking into her eyes for both approval and permission. She nods, and you begin eating her pussy like a man who has been starving for days.
She continues to be very directive while you taste her, giving commands whenever she needed a change in pace or the addition of a finger. Between commands, she idly stroked your hair, murmuring between moans. Her words burned into your brain: “you’re doing so good, baby…mommy is so proud of you.” Your face flush with the heat of her pussy and the equal heat of her words, you redouble your efforts to make her climax.
Soon enough, that’s exactly what she does, but her dirty talk didn’t fully disappear into her powerful screams of release. Your head firmly between her thighs, you can hear two words she keeps saying while holding your hair firmly in one strong hand: “Good boy…GOOD BOY.”
Just like that, your own aching cock suddenly gives up, and you cum all over your own bed without even being touched. Instead of being disappointed, though, she takes you in her muscular arms, brushing your hair and repeating that you’re a good boy in a soft, husky voice.
Why did all of this turn you on so much? Why did you cum without even being touched? That’s easy…you have a mommy kink, of course!
Cum to Mommy
You’ve probably been attracted to dominant women your entire life. But have you ever stopped to figure out why that is?
Countless people around the world feel the way that you feel but they are hesitant to put a label on it. However, a perfectly useful label exists: mommy kink. Simply put, those with this ink aren’t just interested in being dominated by women…they also love the idea of a relationship with someone who knows how to nurture them and otherwise take care of their needs.
Does that sound a bit familiar? We’ve got you covered…keep reading to discover a guide filled with everything you need to know, including where this kink comes from and how you can bring it into the bedroom to spice up your love life in a big way.
What Exactly is this Kink?
Those who are new to it are often surprised to discover that the mommy kink is firmly rooted in BDSM culture. That’s because, at its heart, this kink involves power dynamics in which you submit yourself to the will of a powerful and dominant woman. However, this goes beyond being physically dominated in the bedroom…for many with a mommy kink, a big part of the thrill is that they see the mother figure as someone who can nurture them and also take care of their emotional needs.
There are different ways to make the mommy kink happen, of course. Some couples may limit this kink to high-protocol conversations and dirty talk where the mother figure is addressed by a title such as “Ma’am” or “Mommy.” Speaking of dirty talk, sex may include maternal phrases or praise talk like “you’re doing a good job, mommy’s so proud of you” and the ever-popular “good boy.” Other couples may take things further, though, with complex roleplaying scenarios and/or ageplay, the latter of which can be popular if the mother figure isn’t actually older (or much older) than her lover.
The most common misconception about the mommy kink is that those who have it wish to literally have sex with their mother. However, this is much more emotionally abstract…this kink simply means that you’re attracted to those who have maternal qualities (like the mixture of being dominant and nurturing) you are attracted to. It’s very similar to the daddy kink…these women don’t literally want to have sex with their fathers, but they are drawn to men who have paternal qualities.
Still on the fence about whether or not you even have this kink? Below, we’ve got a breakdown of the most common signs of this particular desire.
How to Tell If You’re Into Maternal Domination?
The most likely reason you are reading this is that you want to know whether or not you have a mommy kink. As usual, it all begins with taking a closer look at your fantasies. Do you find yourself fantasizing about sex with an older woman, like a boss or an old teacher? This may indicate that you are interested in power dynamics…specifically, having sex with women who you see as having more power than you either literally or physically (“muscle mommies” are very popular for those who wish to be more physically dominated).
Another major sign is if your fantasies aren’t always of a sexual nature. Are you fantasizing about that same strong mother figure holding you, brushing your hair, running you a bath, etc? If so, that’s a big indicator that you want someone to provide this kind of maternal care to you, both in and out of the bedroom.
Psychological Roots
Once someone acknowledges that they really do have a mommy kink, their first question is always the same: “Wait, how did that happen?” For most, this kink starts when they are children and they notice their mother as a juxtaposition…someone who is a source of both authoritarian power and gentle nurturing. When approaching and then entering adulthood, this may manifest in a desire to romantically connect to someone who embodies that same juxtaposition.
The need to connect can actually be much stronger for those who didn’t have a great relationship with their mother and those who lost their mother or never knew her. In these cases, those with a mommy kink are seeking out the kinds of nurturing, reassurance, and emotional safety they didn’t experience from an actual mother growing up.
If this doesn’t fully explain why you have the kink, that’s okay. One of the golden rules about being kinky is that you don’t always have to figure out why something gets you off; you just need to embrace it and enjoy yourself!
Getting Started with Mommy Play
Let’s say that you’ve got a mommy kink and a like-minded partner who is ready to play. How, then, should both of you get started? As usual, it all starts with an open discussion about what both of you want to do, including any boundaries or hard limits. This would be the perfect time to establish a safeword in case things get too intense for one of you while playing.
Plus, this is the time to ask practical questions. For example, how does the dominant wish to be addressed in and possibly out of the bedroom? She may want something as simply as “Ma’am” or “mommy,” but she may want something as spicy as “mistress.” You won’t know if you don’t ask!
Finally, you’ll want to decide if the two of you will plan any roleplaying scenarios in advance (complete, perhaps, with props and costumes) or play everything by ear. There’s no wrong way to go about it, and our guide below has some easy ways to help you get started!
Establishing Boundaries and Safe Words
Compared to some of the most common forms of BDSM, practicing a mommy kink in the bedroom is pretty tame. Because of this, you might not think that you and your own lover need a safe word, but it remains very vital for both of you.
That’s because such a word can stop the play altogether, and you may want to pause or stop completely because of the complex emotions this kink brings to the surface. With a safe word, you can take time to process those emotions. Plus, as an added bonus, you’ve got a nurturing presence in the bedroom, and she can take care of you until you are ready to play again.
Creating a Mommy Persona
Even if you and your partner don’t create entire scenarios from the ground up, the mommy kink involves plenty of roleplay because the mother figure must develop her own mommy persona. The persona refers generally to what she says, how she says it, and how she will both nurture and dominate in the bedroom. This persona is usually developed in conjunction with the sub, allowing sexual play to be more completely fulfilling for everyone involved.
While it’s optional, some couples like to make special clothing part of the mommy kink. As such, the mother figure may wear things like kitchen aprons or old-school “mom jeans” to help sell the fantasy. Really, it’s up to both of you to figure out what turns you on the most!
How to Make Mommy Domination More Enjoyable
There are plenty of ways to enhance the mommy kink in the bedroom. Incorporating sex toys like handcuffs, vibrators, and anal plugs can add pleasure for the submissive and let the dominant explore their role more fully. Sensory elements like scents or music can also deepen the experience, creating a more immersive environment. For example, the right candle and a blindfold can put someone into the headspace to enjoy their kink by making them focus primarily on the sound of “mommy’s” voice.
Beyond toys and accessories, though, the best thing such kinksters can do is explore some roleplaying scenarios. Below, you’ll find more about the most popular scenes to experiment with in the bedroom.
Role-Playing Scenarios
Role-playing scenarios can significantly enhance the mommy kink experience helping the two of you explore various power dynamics, including your more submissive role in relation to the dominant mommy. These scenarios can range from nurturing care to structured settings where rules are enforced, and disobedience results in punishment.
Using themed props during role-play can further enrich the experience, making scenes more vivid and engaging. These props help create a more immersive world for both participants to explore their desires and fantasies. And because so many mommy-friendly props are domestic in nature, you might already have plenty of the props you need right around the house!
Incorporating Other Kinks
Combining other kinks with mommy play can elevate the entire experience. For example, the dominant partner might wear a strap-on while the submissive obeys commands. Age play can add psychological depth, while bondage techniques can intensify feelings of submission.
Introduce other kinks gradually, once both partners are comfortable with the mommy kink. This allows for a seamless and enjoyable integration of different fetishes and practices. Plus, it allows both of you to appreciate each kink on its own terms first.
Final Thoughts
As you can tell, understanding, communication, and safety are paramount when exploring the mommy kink. From identifying the kink to engaging in it safely, each step requires mutual respect and clear communication. And it all starts with being honest about how you feel and what you want to explore.
This powerful kink offers a unique blend of nurturing and power dynamics that can fulfill deep emotional needs and create a sense of fun and escapism for two consenting adults. By approaching it responsibly and with consent, you can explore this fascinating kink in a way that is both satisfying and safe. And don’t forget that KnowYourSins is here to help you learn more about mommy play, sex toys, and anything else you need to take your sex life to the next level!
