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How to Enjoy BDSM Suspension Bondage Safely and Sensually

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The Intensity of Suspension BDSM

What could be more exciting than the sight of your naked partner? Simple: the sight of them all tied up and hanging from the ceiling, ready and waiting for you to claim your prize. This position makes her completely helpless, but that’s exactly how you prefer it. Both of you know that her body is all yours…it’s up to you whether to immediately thrust into her wet and waiting body with your throbbing cock or tease her first. After all, this angle allows you easy access to her entire body, and the erotic possibilities are endless…

You decide teasing is in order, grabbing onto her suspended body for stability as you plunge your hungry tongue all over her gushing cunt. The angle is perfect, allowing her juices to flow obscenely onto your face as you lick her clit and feel her squirm. Tension is building inside of her, and you can tell she needs the relief that only you can offer.

Before she can explode, you withdraw your tongue, resulting in her audible sigh of disappointment. Your commanding voice cuts through her sighs: “You cum when I let you, princess…not a moment before.” Positioning your cock outside her wet warmth, you begin what promises to be a long night of bound bliss for the both of you.

What is BDSM Suspension Bondage

Suspension bondage is about using ropes and intricate knots to vertically suspend someone off the ground. For those interested in learning the art of bondage, mastering the techniques of rigger BDSM can be a great starting point before progressing into full suspension scenes.” For the one being lifted, this heady sensation floats somewhere between flying and falling.

In this position, the bound person can be teased, tasted, and taken, all with more freedom of movement than you get with a traditional bed.

Some who enjoy suspension bondage have compared it to bungee jumping, both because of being suspended in the air and because of the emotional rollercoaster it may cause. But you won’t know until you take the plunge, and our guide will help you learn “the ropes” of this exciting sexual practice.

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Why Try Suspension Bondage?

Engaging in a suspension means hanging someone from ropes attached to the ceiling, chain, or suspension cuffs. There are two main types: partial suspension, where only part of the body is lifted, and full suspension, where the whole body is off the ground, creating a feeling of vulnerability and weightlessness.

Why do it at all, though? Some like the physical sensation of being lifted off the ground. Others like the idea of surrendering control of their body to their romantic partner. In fact, the trust involved with this and other BDSM activities helps to establish some serious emotional intimacy.

Some enjoy this kinky practice because of its surprising historical connections. It has roots in medieval Japan, where samurai used ropes to restrain prisoners. Over time, these techniques evolved into Shibari, a beautiful and intricate type of rope bondage that emphasizes connection and trust between the one doing the one getting tied up and the one doing the tying.

Beyond the emotional intimacy, many get psychological enjoyment from the explicit power dynamics of suspension bondage. And, of course, there’s plenty of physical enjoyment because every sensation is heightened when you’re tied up, weightless and waiting for your partner’s next move.

How to Engage in Suspension Kink

Making rope suspension part of your love life is easier than you might think. Below are a few easy steps to help you get started.

  1. Learn the Basics: Start with understanding Shibari. It may seem intimidating at first, but there are many resources, workshops, and online tutorials that teach the fundamentals of rope bondage.

  2. Find a Skilled Partner: Suspension requires a lot of trust. If you don’t have a partner who knows how to do it, both of you should work with someone experienced or attend classes together to learn proper techniques and safety measures.

  3. Use the Right Equipment: Invest in high-quality ropes made from natural fibers like jute or hemp. It’s important to get reliable gear to keep your suspension activities safe!

  4. Prioritize Safety: Always have safety scissors on hand, know the pressure points and avoid them, and establish safe words for immediate communication. This is how you keep nasty accidents from happening.

  5. Communicate Openly: Discuss boundaries, limits, and expectations with your partner before starting. As with any other BDSM activity (or sexual activity, really), communication is key to ensuring a safe and enjoyable experience.

  6. Start Slow: Begin with partial suspensions to get a feel for the experience before moving to full suspension. As a bonus, taking your time helps to build anticipation for the main event!

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The Day of the Suspension

The big day is here! Below, you’ll find a quick breakdown of everything you need to know to have a great time.

1. Gather Your Equipment

Rope Types: Use natural fiber ropes like jute or hemp mentioned earlier. They’re strong, have the right amount of friction, and are gentle on the skin. Aim for 6mm or 8mm diameter ropes, typically in 7-8 meter lengths.

Remember to always have safety scissors on hand to quickly cut through the rope in case of an emergency!

2. Easy Mode: Start with Partial Suspension

  • Chest Harness: Supports the upper body, making it easier to transition to more complex suspensions.

  • Hip Harness: Good for supporting the lower body, and can be a comfortable introduction to the sensation of being lifted.

3. Intermediate Moves For Experienced Kinksters

  • Tk or Takate Kote: A common arm-binding position that provides a secure foundation for various suspensions.

  • Futomomo (Leg Tie): Adds an element of restriction and can be integrated into full suspensions later.

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4. Full Suspension: The Most Advanced Techniques:

  • Face-Up Suspension: Considered safer and more comfortable for beginners transitioning to full suspension.

  • Face-Down Suspension: More advanced and requires a higher level of trust and skill.

  • Inverted Suspension: Requires careful weight distribution and high expertise in tying and safety.

5. The Basics Of Setting Up

Anchor Point: Ensure your suspension point (beam, hook, etc.) can support at least five times the weight of the person being suspended. Test it before each session.

Carabiners and Rings: Use high-quality climbing-rated hardware to connect the ropes securely.

6. During Suspension

Monitor Physical Condition: Keep an eye on the bottom’s circulation, breathing, and overall comfort. Redness, numbness, or tingling are signs to stop immediately.

  • Stay Within Your Limits: Avoid complex positions until you’re fully confident in your skills and understanding of the body’s anatomy and pressure points.

7. Aftercare

Post-Suspension Care: Gently massage the areas where ropes were tied, use soothing lotions and cuddles (soothing and sweet!), and ensure the bottom is comfortable and relaxed. This helps in coming down from the intense physical and emotional experience.

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How to Get Consent For Practicing Body Suspension

Getting consent and maintaining enjoyment in body suspension is all about clear communication and safety. Start with an open conversation about trying the kink out…with their enthusiastic consent, you can get started, but you should keep checking in with your partner throughout the session. Even if they don’t say anything negative, you need to stop and check in on them if they show any signs of discomfort.

Your partner may also want to help you buy and set up all of your gear. They can also help you research safety tips. Together, you can minimize the risks and fully enjoy your kinky new hobby!

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Takeaways

There’s no need to feel ashamed of your suspension bondage kink. It may be unconventional, but at the end of the day, it’s always better to embrace who you are and what you want rather than worry about the opinion of others.

Speaking of others, you should consider finding and joining supportive kink communities, either online or in your area. These communities can help you embrace your new desires and act on them in a safe (but still fun and freaky!) way. And don’t forget that Know Your Sins is always here to help you discover more about your favorite fetishes while discovering some mind-blowing related kinks along the way.

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Olivia Moore Author & Content Creator
A passionate storyteller with a deep curiosity for exploring the world of kink and fetishes. My background in psychology drives my fascination with human desires and the stories we rarely share. 🖤✨