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Hair fetishism
You’ve probably heard of people having hair-raising sex. But what about people having sex with hair?
It may be unconventional, even in kink circles. With that in mind, there are more people around the globe than you could ever imagine who are turned on by their partner’s hair. There’s even a term for this unique fetish: trichophilia. Sadly, many who have this kink or may be interested in exploring it don’t even know its name, much less how it works.
As usual, we’re here to fix that. What, exactly, is trichophilia? Keep reading to discover everything you need to know!
Reasons Why You Find Hair Fetish Attractive
Trichophilia or hair fetishism is a fetish where people are turned on by all things hair-related. This includes looking at, smelling, and especially touching someone else’s luscious locks— from head hair to facial hair, chest hair, armpit hair, and other body hair. Some take it to extremes, like eating hair, but personally, I’m just into touching hair pulling and playing with ’em.”
When people first hear about hair fetishism, they all have the same question: “Why the heck would anyone find hair sexually attractive?” It’s a fair question, really, as even those who have this particular kink often can’t explain why hair gets their engines revving.
As usual, there are multiple possible reasons why someone might have this fetish. The human brain is very complicated, and there are just as many potential explanations for this kink as there are…well…hairs on your head!
With that being said, there are a few key motivators for almost everyone who experiences trichophilia. You’ll find more about them below, helping you unpack the psychology behind this unconventional but exciting fetish.
Exposure to hair
As a source of comfort or pleasure during childhood can lead to a hair fetish later in life. For example, if a child always had hair length and was never allowed to cut it, they might become attracted to women with long hair. Alternatively, a child who soothed themselves by stroking the hair of their mother or sister might later develop a follicular fetish.
Cultural conditioning
Also plays a role in hair fetishism. Some societies emphasize hair as a symbol of beauty…for example, think about how many cartoons you watched growing up that featured a long-haired princess as an object of desire for a handsome hero. This can lead to someone developing trichophilia, as can being raised in cultures where women must cover their hair in public, making even the sight of uncovered hair a naughty little thrill.
Evolutionary factors
May also contribute to hair fetishism. Throughout history, human head hair and facial hair have been a signal of health and fertility in potential mates. This is actually very similar to why men are attracted to women with long breasts, as such breasts have similarly served as symbols of sexual fertility.
Tricophilia is still an unconventional kink, but that is already changing as society becomes more accepting of diverse sexual preferences. More than ever before, those with hair fetishes may feel more comfortable expressing their attraction. Remember: as long as you’re doing everything consensually, there’s nothing wrong with having an unusual kink. After all, everyone has at least one sexual fetish, and we all need to embrace them. And if you’re unsure, you might discover one for yourself.
What Is Your Favorite Hair Type?
Even more than most kinks, trichophilia is all about sensory experiences. Those with this fetish react strongly to different kinds of stimuli. Of course, no two kinksters are exactly alike, so there are different kinds of hair-related stimulation that may turn anyone with a hair fetish on, starting with the type of hair that someone has.
Types and Styles
Among hair fetishists, preferences vary widely. Some might prefer very long hair, while others love short hair. Many are captivated by curly or straight hair. Preferences can also include wet hair, silky hair, trimmed hair, wigs, wavy hair, shaved hair, or even pubic hair. Whatever hair style or status you can think of, it’s a sure bet someone out there is into it!
Texture and Color
The texture of hair plays a crucial role for those with tricophilia. The feel of thick, coarse hair can be incredibly stimulating for some. Others might find fine, silky hair irresistible. Additionally, hair color matters a lot. Natural hues like jet black, fiery red, and platinum blonde often stand out. Of course, plenty without a hair fetish have strong preferences for hair color, like men who go crazy for redheaded women. But for those with a hair fetish, certain colors can lead to intense sexual passion or relative indifference.
Length and Versatility
As we touched on earlier, the length of hair holds particular appeal to those with tricophilia. Long, flowing locks symbolize femininity and sensuality. On the other hand, short, edgy cuts convey confidence and modernity. Wigs and extensions or even fake hair offer endless possibilities for those who enjoy variety in their hair fetish. Again, many without this fetish have strong feelings on hair length, but those with this kink may not be able to fully enjoy it if their partner doesn’t have the “right” hair length.
Scent and Sensory Experience
Scent is another powerful factor when it comes to the hair fetish. The fragrance of shampoo, conditioner, or natural hair scent can heighten the sensory experience. Some prefer the smell of freshly washed hair. Others might enjoy the lingering aroma of a specific hair product. If you have a partner with this hair fetish, then deliberately putting their favorite fragrances in your hair is a great way to excite them and turn something as simple as a close hug into a bit of olfactory foreplay.
Cultural Influences
Earlier, we touched on how cultural influences can influence why someone develops trichophilia. Those influences may also determine the type of hair that turns someone on. For example, someone from a culture that doesn’t celebrate dreadlocks may become sexually attracted to those who do have them. Just think of it as the forbidden fruit factor: simply put, people often fixate on and fetishize what they couldn’t have or otherwise couldn’t experience growing up.
Fun Ways You to Enjoy Hair Play
Think you might have hair fetishism, or maybe you’re just interested in incorporating hair play into your love life? Either way, you’re next step is to figure out how to get started.
You don’t have to figure it out alone, though! Below, we’ve got a few simple ideas to explore this fetish in a fun and fulfilling way.
Incorporate hair play into foreplay by subtly touching or pulling your partner’s hair. This doesn’t necessarily mean pulling hair, which can be fun but is more a part of the BDSM lifestyle. Exploring a hair fetish means starting gently by running your hands through your partner’s hair or winding their strands around your fingers. This is also he perfect time to whisper dirty talk OR praising them into their ear, getting both of you ready for what comes next.
Combine a hair fetish with kinkier activities. Like most fetishes, hair fetishism can be combined with kinkier activities to make sex more stimulating. For example, someone’s long hair can be used as restraints, blindfolds, gags, or even a whip. Those lovely locks can be used to stimulate necks, breasts, and other body parts. They can even be used for genital stimulation, which is informally known as a “hairjob.“
Running your fingers through someone’s hair might convey your love and admiration for their hair. Making sincere comments on someone’s hair can also show you are attracted to or admire their appearance. As an added bonus, this is the kind of gentle and romantic activity the two of you can enjoy in public. And the fact that nobody knows you are both doing something naughty is like a little secret that can take your excitement to the next level.
All You Need is Hair
Long story (or should that be long hair?) short, hair fetishism is a unique fetish regarding human hair. As long as you establish mutual trust and communication with your partner, you can explore this kink safely and consensually. But before you can be honest about your unconventional desires with others, you need to be honest with yourself about what you really want.
Once you can be honest about your turn-ons, you may wish to explore other kinks to help spice things up in the bedroom. This includes body worship, sensory play, role-playing, object and clothing kinks, foot fetish, or even a furry fetish. Don’t dismiss anything out of hand or paw…after all, you won’t know what you really love until you try it! As the Beatles might have sung if John Lennon had a hair fetish, “all you need is hair.”
