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The Flatiron Sex Position
If you’re like me the thought of ironing your clothes or flat ironing your hair doesn’t rank in your top ten list when it comes to fun things to do! But the flatiron sex position definitely should! Who knew there was a type of ‘ironing’ that could be fun?
So, what is the flat iron position? I’ll tell you all about it in this guide, including how to do it and some top tips to get the most out of this incredible position.
What Exactly Is the Flatiron Sex Position?
The flatiron sex position is a sexual position where the receiving partner lies flat on the bed on their front, with their hips slightly elevated and their legs straight out behind them. The penetrating partner straddles their legs and enters them from behind.
This setup creates a snug fit, promoting deep penetration and enhanced g-spot stimulation.
The receiving partner can also choose to spread their legs, with the penetrating partner between their legs rather than straddling them. This creates slightly different sensations. It can also be a bit more physically challenging for the person on top.
You might have guessed it’s called the flatiron because of the flat position you lie in – the person on top is the ‘iron’. It’s also referred to as the prone bone position, although some people feel that this is a slightly different position.
You can think of the flatiron sex position sort of like a more sensual twist on doggy style! I love it because it feels more intimate, making it perfect for those moments when you want to feel close to your partner.
Any couple can enjoy this position. It works for either anal sex or vaginal penetration. The penetrating partner can be a penis owner or make use of a sex toy or strap-on.
Why Do People Like the Flatiron Sex Position?
If you’re wondering what the benefits of the flatiron sex position are, I’ve got you covered. There are so many!
This position allows for deep penetration, just like doggy style. This makes it feel really intense for both partners. If the bottom partner has a vulva, this is an excellent position for G-spot stimulation.
The snug fit created by the position of the receiving partner’s legs makes it feel incredible for the bottom partner, as well as the giver if they are a penis owner.
Why I love it?
I love that the flatiron position allows for clitoral stimulation if the bottom partner has a vulva. The receiving partner can reach underneath to stimulate their own clit or even use a sex toy (the latter is my favorite option). This combination makes for explosive orgasms! Alternatively, the penetrating partner can reach around to stimulate their lover’s clit.
Another thing I love about this sex position is that it’s great for playing with power dynamics. You can involve bondage, dirty talk, and other types of BDSM. I particularly love being in the receiving position with the flat iron because if your lover is dominant, they can pin you down with their hands and legs – it’s so sexy!
Lots of people like the position because the flat iron gives many of the same advantages as doggy style but it’s more intimate. You can hear each other’s moans, and whisper words of love or pleasure. Plus, the top partner can kiss their lover’s neck.
The flat iron is great for people who like face-to-face intimacy, especially if you also love doggy style.
This sex position is also very inclusive, which we love here at KYS! It works for anyone of any gender or sexual orientation.
Is Flat Iron Accessible?
Yes! It is accessible for most people. It’s a great option as the receiver if you struggle with mobility like me, and is comfortable to maintain for long periods.
The flatiron sex position even accommodates smaller penis sizes effectively due to the tighter fit, ensuring that both partners can fully enjoy the experience.
It’s also fantastic for plus-size people because neither partner is supporting the other’s weight. However, it works best when the heavier person is on the bottom in my experience. It can be uncomfortable being on the bottom for long periods if you have a large stomach and/or chest as I do, but you can add pillows where needed to increase your comfort level. It works so well!
Some people love the flat iron position because it gives the person on top a workout. If you’re looking for a sex position that gets your heart pumping in more than one way, then it could be the one for you!
How to Perform the Flatiron Sex Position
Performing the flatiron sex position is quite simple, which is part of why it’s so accessible for such a wide range of people.
The receiving partner lies flat on the bed with their legs out behind them and their hips slightly elevated. This tilted pelvis positioning creates the perfect angle for penetration. The easiest way to do this in my experience is to put a pillow under your hips.
The person on the bottom can also raise themselves up slightly by balancing on their arms if they prefer, or they can simply rest their head on the bed or a pillow.
The penetrating partner straddles the bottom partner to slide into them from behind with their penis or sex toy. The top partner’s legs are typically on the outside of the bottom partner’s legs. They lie with their legs on top of their partner’s thighs, while leaning forward on their hands.
You can adjust leg positions to create different sensations. The receiving partner’s legs can be on the outside and the top partner’s legs can be on the inside, out straight behind them. This does mean more work for the person on top, as they need to support their full weight on their feet and hands rather than resting on their partner’s thighs.
What Does the Receiving Partner Do in the Flatiron Sex Position?
The receiving partner lies flat on the bed with their hips slightly raised. For the most part, they lie there and enjoy! They can move their hips and adjust their leg positioning to see what feels good.
What Does the Penetrating Partner Do in the Flatiron Sex Position?
The ‘giver’ lies on top of their partner, balancing their weight on their hands. They’re the ones in control of the depth, pace, and angle in this sex position.
Variations of the Flatiron Sex Position
There are a few slight variations of the flatiron position. You can play around and make adjustments until you figure out what feels best for both you and your partner.
The most common variations of the flatiron sex position are:
The Classic Flatiron
This is the sex position we’ve already discussed, where the receiving partner lies flat with their legs out and the penetrating partner straddles them.
The Pillow Pet
If you’re looking for an even more comfortable variation, the pillow pet is ideal. The receiving partner puts a pillow or sex wedge under their hips to help them maintain the right angle.
This is probably the most accessible option, and as a disabled woman, that’s why it’s my favorite option!
The Extremely Flat Iron
You might have guessed by the name that this sex position is an extreme version of the classic flat iron.
Both partners lie completely flat out, with the penetrating partner on top. This is a great option for those with very large penises or if you want to try a particularly large sex toy.
The Screw
In this position, the bottom partner twists the top of their body so that they’re slightly on their side and looking up at the top partner. This is fantastic for enhanced intimacy and romantic eye contact.
Prone Bone Position
In prone bone position the receiving partner also lies on their stomach, but their legs are typically spread apart rather than straight and together.
The penetrating partner positions themselves between the receiving partner’s legs for penetration.
Tips to Enhance the Flatiron Position
I’ve included my top tips below to make sure you get the most out of the flat iron sex position:
Talk to your partner: With any sexual activity, I always emphasize consent and open communication. Talk to your partner about what you like and share your boundaries.
Remember that you can communicate during sex too if there’s something you want to change (or something you want to try). The goal is to create a pleasurable and intimate experience for both partners.
Use protection: You should always use protection, especially if you’re not in a long-term monogamous relationship. Condoms protect against STIs not just unwanted pregnancy (and yes, you can get STIs from anal penetration too).
Use props and support: Props like pillows or cushions can greatly enhance comfort when you’re in the flat iron position. Pop a pillow or cushion under the hips and chest of the bottom partner to help maintain the correct angle, help with deep penetration, and add comfort.
Experiment to see what you like: Play around with angles and leg positioning to see what feels the best for both partners. You can also adjust the depth and pace to suit you both.
Incorporate sex toys: Consider adding sex toys to spice things up even further. If the bottom partner is a vulva owner, they can use a vibrator to stimulate their clit while they’re being fucked (trust me, it feels fantastic in this position).
You could even add a cock ring if the penetrating partner is a penis owner. Top tip – if you’re disabled or want to try the extremely flat iron position, you could use a lay-on vibrator which doesn’t require the use of your hands.
Switch things up if you’re uncomfortable: The flat iron sex position can be challenging for the penetrating partner. It requires strength to balance their weight and can be tiring. If they need a break, be sure to switch positions or rest for a while.
Sex is supposed to feel good and be fun for both of you. It’s easy to switch into a spooning position or the classic missionary position from the flatiron position (let’s face it – missionary is a classic for a reason).
Final Thoughts – Ironing Can Be Sexy!
The flatiron position is a versatile and fun addition to any couple’s sex life. It’s inclusive, reasonably accessible, and perfect for achieving deep penetration – what’s not to like about that?
Remember that when you’re trying any new position it’s all about communication and respecting each other’s boundaries. If you like the sound of the flatiron, why not give it a try and discover the new heights of pleasure it can bring to your bedroom?
