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Ignore Fetish
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Ah, sorry, were you reading this article? I didn’t notice you at all…
You see what I did there? Smart, eh? I just ignored you! And if that gave you pins and needles in any of your erogenous zones, well… you’re in the right place!
Welcome to the world of the “ignore fetish“—where being ignored doesn’t turn you down, in fact, it turns you on!
At the core of the ignore fetish is a teasing game. The more they pretend you’re not there, the more you want them. Whether it’s in person or over texts, that lack of attention just build up the feelings of desire. You know they’re close, but they’re not giving you what you want… and somehow, that just makes you want it even more.
Let’s see how this whole ignoring thing actually works because it’s quite a rabbit hole.
Where Does the Ignore Fetish Come From, and Why Are People Into It?
It might sound a little strange at first, but like most kinks, it’s just about how certain things make you feel. For some, it’s the fact of not getting what they want right away, and for others, it’s the way being overlooked.
Let’s break it down.
- First off, there’s that whole “forbidden fruit” thing. You know how when something (or someone) is just out of reach, it suddenly becomes way more tempting? Have you ever wonder why? It’s the same with being ignored. The less attention you’re getting, the more you want it. To give you an example: it’s like a game of cat and mouse, except in this game, the mouse is teasing the cat by running just a little slower.
- Then, there’s the control part. When someone ignores you, they’re the one holding all the power. They decide when, or if, you’ll get any attention. For some people, giving up that control can be a huge turn-on. It’s like, “I know you’re not paying attention to me, but I love how that feels and it excites me.”
- And let’s be real—sometimes, kinks are born from experiences in the past. Maybe you didn’t always get the attention you wanted growing up or in the past. And now that feeling of being ignored gets into something else. But this time, it’s in a way that’s safe and even sexy.
Moreover, there’s the build up. Being ignored means there’s this constant tension in the air, and when that attention finally comes, it’s blows up your senses. The longer you’re denied, the more intense the release when you finally get what you’ve been waiting for.
I hope it answers why some people into it. For some people, the idea of being ignored by someone they find attractive isn’t just tolerable—it’s what they need, its their fetish.
How to Explore the Ignore Fetish?
Here are some ideas to get you started:
1. Try Some Role-Playing
One of the easiest ways to dip your toes in is through roleplaying. Imagine you’re at a party, and one of you is pretending to ignore the other, talking to everyone else but you. Or, you’re just hanging out at home, and your partner’s completely focused on something else while you try to get their attention.
2. Tease Through Texting
Try it out over text. One person can leave the other on “read” for a little while, taking their time to reply. It might sound frustrating, but that’s where the excitement comes in—waiting for that message or reply can really arouse the person with the fetish. Just make sure both of you are into the game and on the same page.
3. Bring It Into the Bedroom
You can totally bring the fetish into sex. One partner can focus on their own pleasure, acting like the other person isn’t even there—until the tension gets too much to handle. Just imagine the relief when they finally pay attention to you!
4. Play It Out in Public (why not?!)
For something little extra, try it in public. For example go to café, with your partner, and ask him to flirt with everyone but you. Just keep it light and fun, and make sure you’re both comfortable with the scene, no need to go over the other person feeling .
5. Mix It With Other Kinks and Fetishes
The control and ignore fetish blends perfectly with other kinks like domination and submission, where one partner controls when (or if) they’ll give attention. It also works great with voyeurism—watching your partner while they ignore you—or exhibitionism kink, where you put on a show and get absolutely no reaction. Chastity kink where you’re locked up and ignored fits too.
6. Watch Porn or Read Erotica
Watching porn or other videos or reading stories about ignoring can give you some inspiration and help you figure out what turns you on. You can explore it solo or with a partner—whatever feels comfortable. We are also building here a collection of fiction stories written by our reader so we may have something about the Ignore Fetish pretty soon.
7. Talk About It First
Because the majority of the ignore fetish is tied to erotic humiliation, you have to communicate. Sit down with your partner and talk about what excites you, and be clear about what you want and what’s off-limits. The fun part is the build-up, but everyone should be having a good time.
8. Sneak It Into Everyday Life
If you want to keep things casual, you can bring a little ignore play into everyday moments. Maybe you pretend not to notice your partner’s flirty touches during the day or act like you’re too busy to pay attention. It adds some playful teasing and builds sexual tension for later. And trust me, the payoff will totally worth it.
And just so you know, the ignore fetish is a specific kink that falls under the broader category of humiliation kinks. If you’re curious to learn more about other forms of humiliation, check out our Humiliation category on the website for more insights.
Conclusion
While you’re exploring your ignore fetish, don’t forget to be kind to yourself. There’s no shame in what excites you, enjoy it with compassion and curiosity. Your desires are totally valid and worth checking out.
You’re not in this alone! The KYS community is here to support you!
Additionally there are platforms like Fetlife or FanCentro with Ignore Fetish Models, where you can join and chat with people who get it.
Not only will you learn more about yourself, but you’ll also find a whole community of people who are on the same journey. So, go ahead and explore with confidence!
